The best 67 Resolving Conflict books

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Fierce Conversations

Fierce Conversations

Susan Scott
Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time
4.2 (37 ratings)

What's Fierce Conversations about?

Fierce Conversations (2002) is a practical guide to having authentic, powerful conversations that can change the trajectory of your life. It uses anecdotes, practical techniques, and assignments to illustrate how conversations are the cornerstone of relationships.

Who should read Fierce Conversations?

  • Managers, people leaders, and employers
  • People looking to improve their communication skills
  • Anyone trying to repair a relationship

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Win Every Argument

Win Every Argument

Mehdi Hasan
The Art of Debating, Persuading, and Public Speaking
4.2 (59 ratings)

What's Win Every Argument about?

Win Every Argument (2023) is a guide to the art of argument by one of the world’s most combative debaters: journalist, anchor, and writer Mehdi Hasan. Drawing on ancient theories of persuasion, neuroscientific theories of cognition, and the rhetorical tricks of contemporary politicians, Hasan reveals the secrets to winning arguments in today’s post-factual world.

Who should read Win Every Argument?

  • Natural-born arguers and debaters
  • Anyone interested in the art of persuasion
  • Public speakers and politicos

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Power vs. Force

Power vs. Force

David R. Hawkins
The Hidden Determinants of Human Behaviour
4.2 (333 ratings)

What's Power vs. Force about?

Power vs. Force (2014) explains how anyone can tap into their inner power to change their lives and the lives of those around them. It demonstrates that with consciousness, intention and discernment, anyone can find their truth and follow it toward a more fulfilled and impactful life. 

Who should read Power vs. Force?

  • People interested in alternative theories about science and humanity
  • Anyone who faces major doubts in their lives
  • Humanity nerds

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The Five Core Conversations for Couples

The Five Core Conversations for Couples

David Bulitt and Julie Bulitt
Expert Advice about How to Develop: Effective Communication, a Long-Term Financial Plan, Cooperative Parenting Strategies, Mutually Satisfying Sex, and Work-Life Balance
4.1 (27 ratings)

What's The Five Core Conversations for Couples about?

The Five Core Conversations for Couples (2020) examines the five important topics every couple should talk about. It offers expert guidance on the core facets of a relationship that can help you strengthen yours. 

Who should read The Five Core Conversations for Couples?

  • Young couples looking for relationship advice
  • Older couples wanting to fix and strengthen their marriage
  • Anyone in a relationship

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How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age

How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age

Dale Carnegie
Time-tested advice for the digital age
4.4 (682 ratings)

What's How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age about?

How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age (2011) is a modern adaptation of Dale Carnegie’s classic text, which has helped countless individuals improve their work and personal lives by developing their interpersonal skills. Designed to help you navigate the social media age, it will guide you in using digital tools to form deeper connections with others.

Who should read How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age?

  • Change-makers wanting to increase their influence
  • Leaders seeking to motivate others
  • Managers building resilient teams

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The Overthinking In Relationships Fix

The Overthinking In Relationships Fix

Rodney Noble
Toxic Thoughts That Can Destroy Your Relationship And How To Fix Them
4.3 (311 ratings)

What's The Overthinking In Relationships Fix about?

The Overthinking In Relationships Fix (2020) is a guide to getting rid of toxic overthinking patterns that put your romantic relationships on the verge of a breakup. It offers advice and easy-to-do techniques to release your worrying thoughts and strengthen your bond with your partner.

Who should read The Overthinking In Relationships Fix?

  • Anyone in a relationship
  • Long-distance lovers
  • Those looking to overcome toxic overthinking

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Atlas of the Heart

Atlas of the Heart

Brené Brown
Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
4.6 (1,281 ratings)

What's Atlas of the Heart about?

Atlas of the Heart (2021) is a guide to understanding your emotions and learning how to regulate them. Everyone experiences strong emotions, but most people can’t identify what it is they’re feeling, or work out where the feelings come from. Developing your emotional vocabulary will transform your relationship to yourself, and the people around you.

Who should read Atlas of the Heart?

  • Curious adventurers interested in exploring their own emotional landscapes
  • Anyone who feels flooded by painful emotions that they can’t understand or control
  • Fans of Brené Brown’s work wanting to learn more about her latest insightful theories of emotion

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Love More, Fight Less

Love More, Fight Less

Gina Senarighi
Communication Skills Every Couple Needs
3.9 (215 ratings)

What's Love More, Fight Less about?

Love More Fight Less provides straightforward directions on how to develop communication skills that will help you and your partner handle conflict. Various activities let you practice the skills, and this Blink details how to use these communication techniques in real-life situations.

Who should read Love More, Fight Less?

  • Couples that need help communicating
  • Those interested in improving their social skills and personal growth
  • Skilled communicators looking for new ways to connect in their relationships

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Crucial Conversations

Crucial Conversations

Kerry Patterson
Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
4.2 (348 ratings)

What's Crucial Conversations about?

We’ve all been in situations where rational discussions get quickly out of hand, and Crucial Conversations investigates the root causes of this problem. You’ll learn techniques to handle such situations and shape them into becoming positive and solutions-oriented, while preventing your high-stakes conversations from turning into shouting matches.

Who should read Crucial Conversations?

  • Anyone whose job requires dealing with other people often
  • Anyone who wants to improve conversations in their personal relationships
  • Anyone who offers professional communications training

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Get It

Get It

AmyK Hutchens
Five Steps to the Sex, Salary and Success You Want
4.3 (170 ratings)

What's Get It about?

Get It (2020) is a one-stop guide to taking control of your voice so that you can successfully navigate the thorniest conversations in life. It’ll teach you how to clean up your conversational hygiene by avoiding common faux pas and show you how to present your best self to others. Once you know how to direct conversations toward outcomes you want, you’ll be sure to achieve success in love, work, and beyond.

Who should read Get It?

  • Introverts who have trouble expressing themselves in conversation
  • Crestfallen lovers who want to reconnect with their partners
  • Anyone who wants to improve their chances of success in life

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Love & Respect

Love & Respect

Emerson Eggerichs
The Love She Most Desires, the Respect He Desperately Needs
3.7 (273 ratings)

What's Love & Respect about?

Love & Respect (2012) uses biblical scripture, the author’s experience as a marriage counselor, and insight from other relationship therapists to help couples connect. By following the principles it lays out, husbands and wives learn to show each other the kind of love and respect they both crave. In the process, conflicts get resolved and marriages become energized.

Who should read Love & Respect?

  • Married couples who want to remain happily married
  • Divorcees trying to heal
  • Engaged couples

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People Skills

People Skills

Robert Bolton
How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts
4.4 (380 ratings)

What's People Skills about?

People Skills (1979) is a guidebook to learning effective communication skills. It illuminates the conversational roadblocks that impede good communication and damage relationships – and offers alternative methods for listening, asserting, and handling conflict.

Who should read People Skills?

  • Anyone interested in improving communication at home or at work
  • People who aspire to become better listeners
  • Those striving to be assertive rather than submissive or aggressive

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The Explosive Child

The Explosive Child

Ross W. Greene
A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
4.6 (20 ratings)

What's The Explosive Child about?

The Explosive Child (2021) is a groundbreaking and scientific guide to dealing with children who react extremely to routine situations. Drawing on neuroscience and child psychology, Greene lays out a conceptual framework focused on the cause of the behavior, rather than the behavior itself. This framework can serve as a guide for frustrated parents who want to understand and address their child’s severe outbursts.

Who should read The Explosive Child?

  • Frustrated parents who feel like they've tried it all
  • Caregivers and teachers who are concerned by a child's violent outbursts
  • Anyone looking for a fresh and compassionate perspective on children's problematic behavior

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Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People

Renée Evenson
Over 325 Ready-to-use Words and Phrases for Working with Challenging Personalities
4.2 (493 ratings)

What's Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People about?

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People (2013) provides practical tactics for navigating tough conversations at work. Along with over 325 phrases, it includes dozens of sample conversations that show the phrases in action.

Who should read Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People?

  • Anyone dealing with difficult coworkers or bosses
  • Employees looking for practical guidance on how to talk to colleagues
  • People interested in conflict management

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Conversations Worth Having

Conversations Worth Having

Jackie Stavros and Cheri Torres
Using Appreciative Inquiry to Fuel Productive and Meaningful Engagement
4.7 (505 ratings)

What's Conversations Worth Having about?

Conversations Worth Having (2018) looks at the power of conversation in our lives and what we can do to communicate more productively at work, in our relationships, and in the community. Drawing on real-life stories and scientifically based theories, it illustrates how we can improve organizations and lives using the principle of Appreciative Inquiry – effective conversation through positive perspective and asking the right questions.

Who should read Conversations Worth Having?

  • Leaders who want to engage with their teams for the best results
  • Parents and teachers who want to see their children flourish
  • Anyone looking to improve the tone and direction of their conversations

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Mindsight

Mindsight

Daniel Siegel
Transform Your Brain With the New Science of Kindness
4.1 (480 ratings)

What's Mindsight about?

Mindsight (2010) introduces the reader to the many factors that shape the way we react to life’s challenges. Emotional responses are tied to our bodies, brains and childhood experiences. With mindsight, we can learn to manage our emotions in order to improve our relationships and well-being.

Who should read Mindsight?

  • Readers interested in the relationships between the human body, brain and behavior
  • Anyone interested in contemporary approaches to psychotherapy
  • Individuals looking for guidance in dealing with uncontrollable emotions

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Getting to Yes

Getting to Yes

Roger Fisher
Negotiating an Agreement Without Giving In
4.3 (462 ratings)

What's Getting to Yes about?

Getting to Yes (1981) is considered the reference for successful negotiations. It presents proven tools and techniques that can help you to resolve any conflict and find win-win solutions.

Who should read Getting to Yes?

  • Anyone interested in improving their negotiation skills, whether for use at work, at home, or both.
  • Anyone who wants to learn how to find win-win solutions to almost any conflict

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Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication

Marshall B. Rosenberg
A Language of Life
4.5 (430 ratings)

What's Nonviolent Communication about?

These blinks introduce the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a compassionate way of being with ourselves and others. Through simple techniques, you can learn how to consciously change your language and thinking to forge better quality relationships with others.

Who should read Nonviolent Communication?

  • Anyone wishing to improve their relationship with family, friends and coworkers
  • Newcomers to a city who want to create healthy relationships with new people

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Wired for Love

Wired for Love

Stan Tatkin
How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
4.5 (491 ratings)

What's Wired for Love about?

Wired for Love (2012) is a guide to maintaining closeness and emotional security within romantic partnerships. It uses research from neurobiology and psychology to show why long-term couples come into conflict, and it offers practical tips on how to use knowledge about brain functions to promote peace and mutual security in your relationship.

Who should read Wired for Love?

  • Partners in committed relationships
  • Couples seeking to manage conflict 
  • Those interested in social psychology

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Surrounded by Narcissists

Surrounded by Narcissists

Thomas Erikson
How to Effectively Recognize, Avoid, and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People (and Not Lose Your Mind)
4.4 (576 ratings)

What's Surrounded by Narcissists about?

Surrounded By Narcissists (2022) is a guide to recognizing narcissists and understanding how they operate. Erikson suggests simple, effective methods for dealing with any narcissists you know, whether it’s your partner, a relative, someone you work with, or possibly all three – you may be surrounded.

Who should read Surrounded by Narcissists?

  • Victims of narcissists
  • Empaths who are worried about being manipulated
  • Anyone who’s interested in psychology or personality types

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Humor, Seriously

Humor, Seriously

Jennifer Aaker & Naomi Bagdonas
Why Humor Is a Superpower at Work and in Life (And How Anyone Can Harness It. Even You.)
4.1 (388 ratings)

What's Humor, Seriously about?

Humor, Seriously (2021) explores the value of a human-centered approach to business, and of the funny that can be found and created in any environment. It relies on science, psychology, and humorous anecdotes from experts in the field to show how using humor can create a culture of levity, build trust, and unlock creativity.

Who should read Humor, Seriously?

  • Leaders looking to build trust
  • Managers who want to enhance creativity
  • Anyone seeking more joy in work and life

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Getting The Love You Want

Getting The Love You Want

Harville Hendrix
A Guide for Couples
4.3 (228 ratings)

What's Getting The Love You Want about?

Getting The Love You Want (1988) offers practical advice on how to save a failing relationship and build a stronger one. It highlights a unique therapy program that offers a step-by-step guide to helping partners address repressed childhood desires and become more compassionate individuals.

Who should read Getting The Love You Want?

  • Couples looking to reboot a relationship
  • People curious about Freudian psychoanalysis

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Difficult Conversations

Difficult Conversations

Douglas Stone
How to Discuss What Matters Most
4.1 (276 ratings)

What's Difficult Conversations about?

Difficult Conversations (1999) takes a look at what makes a conversation difficult and why we often try to avoid them. It outlines how to correctly approach and maneuver through tough topics to build positive and meaningful relationships.

Who should read Difficult Conversations?

  • Politicians and business leaders
  • Teachers
  • Parents

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Good Arguments

Good Arguments

Bo Seo
How Debate Teaches Us to Listen and Be Heard
4.6 (346 ratings)

What's Good Arguments about?

Good Arguments (2022) is one part memoir, one part guide to the art of speaking. It introduces us to the thrilling and eccentric subculture of competitive debate and distills its secrets into timeless principles for effective communication. If we can only learn to disagree better, it argues, we can improve our relationships and revitalize our democracies.

Who should read Good Arguments?

  • Couples who want to communicate more effectively
  • Introverts who want to climb out of their shell
  • Anyone who wants to speak more persuasively

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Making Great Relationships

Making Great Relationships

Rick Hanson
Simple Practices for Solving Conflicts, Building Connection, and Fostering Love
4.5 (228 ratings)

What's Making Great Relationships about?

Making Great Relationships (2023) is a practical guide to building nourishing, healthy, communicative relationships. It shares simple strategies designed to troubleshoot conflict and break unhealthy cycles, as well as best practices for deepening and strengthening positive relationships.

Who should read Making Great Relationships?

  • Couples who feel stuck in an unproductive relationship dynamic
  • Friends who feel their needs aren’t met by their social circle
  • Colleagues whose interactions are marked by conflict and poor communication

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Say What You Mean

Say What You Mean

Oren Jay Sofer
A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication
4.6 (230 ratings)

What's Say What You Mean about?

Say What You Mean (2018) is a guide to meaningful and productive communication. It shows how you can leave old, unhelpful habits behind and develop the skills to speak your mind in a clear and authentic way. It also teaches some simple practices to make your conversations more effective and satisfying.

Who should read Say What You Mean?

  • People who want to improve the quality of their conversations
  • Anyone who needs more confidence when talking to others
  • Everyone who wants to know how nonviolent communication works

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Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
Discover how to Increase your EQ
4.1 (421 ratings)

What's Emotional Intelligence 2.0 about?

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 (2009) gives you expert insight into which skills you need to read others and build better relationships. It breaks down the four aspects of emotional intelligence, or EQ, and gives advice on what you can do to improve your own skills.

Who should read Emotional Intelligence 2.0?

  • Psychologists or family counsellors
  • People who struggle with personal relationships
  • Managers or business owners looking to improve their team-building skills

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Getting More

Getting More

Stuart Diamond
How You Can Negotiate to Succeed in Work and Life
3.8 (83 ratings)

What's Getting More about?

Getting More (2010) lays out precisely how to negotiate your way toward a fuller, more satisfying life. The strategies and tools described in this book can be used in any situation, from finding a happier outcome when sparring with a partner to convincing your boss that you’re long overdue for a raise.

Who should read Getting More?

  • People looking to improve their negotiating skills
  • Sales managers, sales reps or anyone involved in cutting business deals
  • Anyone who feels they never get what they want when negotiating

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The 11 Laws of Likability

The 11 Laws of Likability

Michelle Tillis Lederman
Relationship Networking … Because People Do Business with People They Like
4.1 (178 ratings)

What's The 11 Laws of Likability about?

The 11 Laws of Likability (2011) is a guide to networking built on one simple fact: people do business with people they like. These blinks will explain how to discover your most likable characteristics, start conversations and keep them going, and make a lasting positive impression on people.

Who should read The 11 Laws of Likability?

  • Anyone who wants to build a lasting professional relationship
  • Anyone starting a new job
  • Recent graduates looking for a job

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The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers

Lisa Damour
Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents
4.9 (23 ratings)

What's The Emotional Lives of Teenagers about?

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers (2023) is a best-selling guide to navigating the highs and lows of parenting your child through adolescence. It dispenses honest, practical, research-informed advice aimed at helping parents understand, support, and connect with their teens in a way that honors the huge transition they’re experiencing.

Who should read The Emotional Lives of Teenagers?

  • Parents looking for effective strategies to support their teen’s mental health
  • Educators and youth workers seeking clinically informed advice about the adolescent years
  • Anyone who wants to help the teenagers in their lives feel loved, supported, and heard as they transition into adulthood

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Marriage Be Hard

Marriage Be Hard

Kevin and Melissa Fredericks
12 Conversations to Keep You Laughing, Loving, and Learning with Your Partner
3.8 (327 ratings)

What's Marriage Be Hard about?

Marriage Be Hard (2022) offers advice on how to effectively communicate important topics with your partner. Chronicling the ups and downs of the authors’ own marriage, it shows how to form loving, lasting relationships.

Who should read Marriage Be Hard?

  • Married couples
  • People who want to repair their relationships
  • Anyone looking for general relationship advice

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Us

Us

Terrence Real
Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
4.7 (339 ratings)

What's Us about?

Us (2022) is for anyone whose once-loving relationship has devolved into point-scoring and power struggles. It offers a science-based skill set, illustrated with rich and detailed examples, to help you and your partner heal your toxic individualism and your relationship. 

Who should read Us?

  • Couples who find themselves having the same fight over and over again
  • Partners whose disagreements turn melodramatic within minutes
  • Anyone dealing with a breach of trust in a close relationship

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Can We Talk?

Can We Talk?

Roberta Chinsky Matuson
Seven Principles for Managing Difficult Conversations at Work
4.5 (449 ratings)

What's Can We Talk? about?

Can We Talk? (2021) outlines the seven communication principles essential for successfully navigating difficult conversations in the workplace, be it asking for a promotion, delivering negative feedback, or resolving a professional conflict.

Who should read Can We Talk??

  • People who struggle to assert themselves at work
  • Employees who avoid having difficult conversations with their managers
  • Managers who wish they could communicate better with their teams

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Just Listen

Just Listen

Mark Goulston
Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone
4.2 (185 ratings)

What's Just Listen about?

Just Listen (2009) combines time-tested persuasion and listening techniques with new methods to help you get your message across to anybody. By learning how to be a better listener, how the brain works and how people think, you’ll be able to motivate people to do what you want because you’ll better understand their needs.

Who should read Just Listen?

  • Anyone who wants to improve their communication skills
  • Anyone working in therapy or mediation
  • Anyone who wants to be more persuasive

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The High-Conflict Couple

The High-Conflict Couple

Alan E. Fruzzetti
A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy & Validation
4.4 (187 ratings)

What's The High-Conflict Couple about?

The High-Conflict Couple (2007) is a guide to overcoming the common relationship pitfalls that lead to conflict and animosity. Drawing upon years of psychology research and therapy experience, Alan E. Fruzzetti explains where conflict comes from and how it can be reduced.

Who should read The High-Conflict Couple?

  • Couples tired of fighting with each other
  • People who struggle to accept the things they cannot change
  • Anyone wanting to be more present in their own life

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Positively Energizing Leadership

Positively Energizing Leadership

Kim Cameron
Virtuous Actions and Relationships That Create High Performance
4.6 (349 ratings)

What's Positively Energizing Leadership about?

Positively Energizing Leadership (2022) offers organization leaders and workers a practical guide to understanding and harnessing the power of positively energizing characteristics and interpersonal approaches. With empirical data and how-to advice, it aims to boost innovation, profits, and compassion in the workplace and at home. 

Who should read Positively Energizing Leadership?

  • Anyone working as part of a team 
  • Managers who want to increase interpersonal richness in their organization 
  • Leaders looking for strategies to deal with a “black hole” of a worker 

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Connect

Connect

David Bradford and Carole Robin
Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends and Colleagues
4.5 (577 ratings)

What's Connect about?

Connect (2021) lays the groundwork for exceptional relationships. Drawing on social science research and the authors’ personal experience, it shares core behaviors and actionable advice to cultivate meaningful connections – leading to personal fulfillment and professional success.

Who should read Connect?

  • People who want to communicate better with friends, family, or romantic partners
  • Professionals looking to improve their soft skills to level up in their careers
  • Those seeking advice on how to become their best selves

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Negotiating the Nonnegotiable

Negotiating the Nonnegotiable

Daniel Shapiro
How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally Charged Conflicts
4.0 (150 ratings)

What's Negotiating the Nonnegotiable about?

Negotiating the Nonnegotiable (2016) offers insights into a new framework that can be applied to solve stubborn conflicts in both our personal and professional lives. The blinks emphasize the importance of the “tribal mind,” while also illustrating how we actively address emotional pain and examining the role of identity in conflict resolution.

Who should read Negotiating the Nonnegotiable?

  • Married readers who regularly fight with their partners
  • Unsatisfied employees who feel at odds with their colleagues or boss
  • Negotiators who need new ideas for resolving conflicts

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Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies

Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies

Romilla Ready and Kate Burton
A beginner's guide to one of psychology's hottest topics
4.0 (249 ratings)

What's Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies about?

Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies (2015) is an introduction to the basic principles behind NLP. If you’ve ever struggled to say what’s on your mind, NLP may be of use to you. Discover the human traits that can keep us from understanding each other and the helpful methods that can lead to clear and effective communication.

Who should read Neuro-linguistic Programming for Dummies?

  • Readers who strive to communicate clearly
  • Students of neuroscience and linguistics
  • Anyone open to new ideas and techniques for improvement

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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

John Gottman
And How You Can Make Yours Last
4.7 (189 ratings)

What's Why Marriages Succeed or Fail about?

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail (1994) is an insightful guide to creating successful relationships. It describes the four red flags to look out for in your relationship, and how to repair negative patterns and rediscover what made you fall in love in the first place.

Who should read Why Marriages Succeed or Fail?

  • Newlyweds wanting to future-proof their relationships
  • People in long-term relationships who want to improve their communication
  • Psychology buffs interested in the experiment that changed how we think about relationships

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How to Have Impossible Conversations

How to Have Impossible Conversations

Peter Boghossian and James A. Lindsay
A Very Practical Guide
4.5 (573 ratings)

What's How to Have Impossible Conversations about?

How to Have Impossible Conversations (2019) is a guide to having frank conversations that don’t end in tears. Philosopher Peter Boghossian and scientist James Lindsay argue that however prickly the topic, we all profit when we air our disagreements – provided we’re out to learn something, not just shout our opponents down. These blinks will explore techniques that facilitate respectful dialogue, from rules of building rapport to the art of convincing your sparring partner to reexamine her assumptions. 

Who should read How to Have Impossible Conversations ?

  • Critical thinkers who love a good argument
  • Skeptics intent on dismantling irrational dogmas
  • Quiet rationalists fed up with all the shouting

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The Advice Trap

The Advice Trap

Michael Bungay Stanier
Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever
4.6 (447 ratings)

What's The Advice Trap about?

The Advice Trap (2020) is a practical guide to taming your inner Advice Monster. Many of us give advice compulsively because we’re insecure and want to control the situations we’re in. But that comes at the cost of alienating ourselves from other people, and stifling innovation in the workplace. Instead of jumping in with solutions, we need to cultivate a deep sense of curiosity and really learn to listen to other people.

Who should read The Advice Trap?

  • Mansplainers hoping to learn how to stop giving unsolicited lectures
  • Innovative leaders who want to learn new methods to inspire their teams
  • People interested in how coaching techniques can be used in daily life

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We Over Me

We Over Me

Khadeen & Devile Ellis
The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want from Your Relationship
3.8 (171 ratings)

What's We Over Me about?

We Over Me (2023) is the story of the podcasting-and-influencing power couple Devale and Khadeen Ellis – in their own words. With trademark disarming honesty, the Ellises lay bare the struggles and successes that have shaped them as a couple, and share the strategies that allow them to thrive as a partnership. 

Who should read We Over Me?

  • Single people looking for love that lasts
  • Couples who’ve lost sight of each other’s needs
  • Anyone who could do with a dose of unfiltered relationship advice

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Getting to Zero

Getting to Zero

Jayson Gaddis
How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships
4.6 (283 ratings)

What's Getting to Zero about?

Getting to Zero (2021) is a guide to dealing with conflict in intimate, high-stakes relationships – those with your family, good friends, and partners. It describes a process for “getting to zero” by achieving resolution and closure after conflict.

Who should read Getting to Zero?

  • Conflict avoiders
  • Those who project childhood experiences onto others
  • All who want to resolve conflict in their interpersonal relationships

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Find Your People

Find Your People

Jennie Allen
Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
3.6 (43 ratings)

What's Find Your People about?

Find Your People (2022) is a Christian woman’s guide to finding, making, and keeping friends. It proposes that God wired us to be in relationships with others – that’s why we crave deep, fulfilling connections. But finding them is harder than ever in today’s hyper-connected yet hyper-lonely world. With a strong sense of commitment and the help of God, you can find your people and keep them too.

Who should read Find Your People?

  • Christians struggling with feelings of loneliness
  • Women yearning for deep, lasting sisterhood
  • New parents worried about maintaining their social lives

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Verbal Judo

Verbal Judo

George J. Thompson and Jerry B. Jenkins
The Gentle Art of Persuasion
4.3 (100 ratings)

What's Verbal Judo about?

Verbal Judo (1993) is your guide to effective communication, from a police officer’s perspective. These blinks explain why some common communication techniques could be holding you back and why others may be better suited to achieving your communication goals.

Who should read Verbal Judo?

  • Police officers, security guards and anyone who deals with disruptive people
  • Professional communicators and mediators
  • Couples struggling to communicate their feelings

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Getting Along

Getting Along

Amy Gallo
How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)
3.3 (196 ratings)

What's Getting Along about?

Getting Along (2022) describes the importance of workplace interactions and their effects on productivity and creativity.

Who should read Getting Along?

  • Managers who want to create positive work environments
  • People unhappy with their colleagues
  • Anyone interested in workplace relationships

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Jerks at Work

Jerks at Work

Tessa West
Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them
4.1 (241 ratings)

What's Jerks at Work about?

Jerks at Work (2022) provides a handbook for how to deal with difficult people at work. Identifying seven types of jerks, it informs you about what kind of behaviors to look out for and how to deal with them in a pragmatic, positive way.

Who should read Jerks at Work?

  • Anyone who is struggling with a jerk at work
  • Those who have a friend or loved one who won’t stop complaining about a jerk at work 
  • People who are interested in how social psychology applies to the workplace

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Raising Human Beings

Raising Human Beings

Ross W. Greene
Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child
4.8 (26 ratings)

What's Raising Human Beings about?

Raising Human Beings (2016) is part practical guide and part manifesto about the power of collaborative problem-solving. Using threats, bribes, and punishments doesn’t change children’s behavior sustainably. That’s because you just end up suppressing the symptoms of the problem, instead of addressing the root cause. Instead of engaging in power struggles, try asking your children what’s really going on, and brainstorming solutions together. Not only will you come up with better solutions – your relationship will improve dramatically.

Who should read Raising Human Beings?

  • Parents in the grip of a power struggle with their children
  • Prospective parents who want to learn to communicate constructively 
  • Educators and youth workers looking for new approaches to working with the children in their care

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Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love

Nancy Dreyfus
Relationship Repair in a Flash
3.9 (337 ratings)

What's Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love about?

Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love (1993) is a relationship repair tool that coaches couples on how to speak to each other more genuinely.

Who should read Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love?

  • Couples in therapy
  • People who need relationship advice
  • Those looking for better relationship communication

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What We Say Matters

What We Say Matters

Judith Hanson Lasater and Ike K. Lasater
Practicing Nonviolent Communication
4.2 (124 ratings)

What's What We Say Matters about?

What We Say Matters (2009) is a guide to communicating with compassion, openness and honesty. These blinks explain how to connect with your needs, as well as those of others, while speaking in a way that communicates your feelings clearly without causing suffering.

Who should read What We Say Matters?

  • Anyone who wants to improve their communication skills
  • People involved in spiritual practice
  • Readers who are interested in the intricacies of human nature

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The Argument Hangover

The Argument Hangover

Jocelyn Freeman and Aaron Freeman
Empowering Couples to Fight Smarter and Overcome Communication Pitfalls
4.6 (303 ratings)

What's The Argument Hangover about?

The Argument Hangover (2021) is your guide to constructively fighting with a romantic partner so that you both learn from the conflict and emerge from it even stronger. Through clear communication, you’ll be surprised to find how disagreements can suddenly become opportunities for growth.

Who should read The Argument Hangover?

  • Couples who feel like conflict is hurting their relationship
  • Individuals looking to learn how to be kinder to their partner
  • Aspiring relationship coaches looking for tips

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Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen

Michelle Icard
The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School
4.0 (64 ratings)

What's Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen about?

Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen (2020) tackles the thorny subject of communicating with tweens – those adolescents between the ages of ten and fourteen who are beginning to pull away from their parents and close down lines of communication. This is the age at which “big” topics like sexuality, money, and life choices are more important than ever. But it’s also the age at which having a conversation with your child is harder than ever before. So what can parents do? Well, it’s time to learn a new way of talking with, and not at, your tween. 

Who should read Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen?

  • Relationship-builders struggling to talk with their tweens
  • Worriers who want the best for their kids
  • Parents of younger children preparing for the next step

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Partnering

Partnering

Jean Oelwang
How to Forge the Deep Connections That Make Great Things Happen
4.2 (226 ratings)

What's Partnering about?

Partnering (2022) looks at what it takes to develop deep connections in both business and personal relationships. Drawing from interviews with some of the world’s most legendary partnerships, including Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter, Nelson Mandela and Graça Machel, and the collective which saved the ozone, these blinks are a guide through the six principles of connection which can elevate your relationships and make an impact on the world.

Who should read Partnering?

  • Entrepreneurs
  • People who are married or in a romantic partnership
  • Anyone seeking to deepen their relationships

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Facilitating Breakthrough

Facilitating Breakthrough

Adam Kahane
How to Remove Obstacles, Bridge Differences, and Move Forward Together
4.2 (32 ratings)

What's Facilitating Breakthrough about?

Facilitating Breakthrough (2021) dives into how people can go about solving their most intractable problems. By using an approach honed over decades, you can learn how to remove obstacles from conflicts and make progress toward resolution.

Who should read Facilitating Breakthrough?

  • Facilitators, managers, and mediators 
  • Anyone looking for new ways to resolve intractable situations
  • People interested in the art of problem-solving

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The Power of the Other

The Power of the Other

Henry Cloud
The Startling Effects Other People Have on You, from the Boardroom to the Bedroom and Beyond – and What to Do About It
4.1 (61 ratings)

What's The Power of the Other about?

The Power of the Other (2016) shows you how the relationships in your life profoundly affect how you think, act and feel. These blinks examine why certain relationships harm us while others nurture us. Importantly, you’ll learn how to cultivate real connections that fulfill you and help you grow as a person.

Who should read The Power of the Other?

  • Leaders and managers looking to connect with work teams
  • Students of psychology or business
  • Anyone wanting to improve their personal relationships

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Why Does He Do That?

Why Does He Do That?

Lundy Bancroft
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
4.5 (196 ratings)

What's Why Does He Do That? about?

Why Does He Do That? (2003) reveals the psychology behind abusive men. Drawing on his experience as a counselor to male abusers, author Lundy Bancroft explains the nature of abusive thinking, the early warning signs of abuse, and the steps women can take to free themselves from an abusive relationship.

Who should read Why Does He Do That??

  • Anyone who feels trapped in an abusive relationship
  • Mothers considering leaving their abusive partner
  • People who suspect a friend or family member is being abused

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I Don't Agree

I Don't Agree

Michael Brown
Why we can’t stop fighting – and how to get great stuff done despite our differences
4.0 (221 ratings)

What's I Don't Agree about?

I Don’t Agree (2020) is a practical guide to improving your conflict resolution skills. Disagreement is seen as bad, and even scary. But, actually, conflict can be a powerful engine for growth if you know how to deal with it effectively. I Don’t Agree provides ten practical strategies that will help you become an expert in dealing with conflict in all areas of your life.

Who should read I Don't Agree?

  • Employees seeking to improve their collaborations
  • Anyone wanting to resolve a bitter argument
  • Parents who want to learn how to teach conflict resolution skills to their kids

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Forgive

Forgive

Timothy Keller
Why Should I and How Can I?
3.3 (232 ratings)

What's Forgive about?

Forgive (2022) proposes personal and community healing through genuine, wholesome, and compassionate forgiveness. The arguments in this guide will help you understand why Christian forgiveness could be secular society’s best remedy for relieving the offended, reforming the offenders, and promoting fellowship among humans.

Who should read Forgive?

  • Anyone trying to understand the importance of forgiveness
  • Victims of abuse seeking to let go of anger and hate
  • Christians trying to understand God’s forgiveness

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Radical Collaboration

Radical Collaboration

James W. Tamm and Ronald J. Luyet
Five Essential Skills to Overcome Defensiveness and Build Successful Relationships
4.2 (48 ratings)

What's Radical Collaboration about?

Radical Collaboration (2004) offers invaluable methods to help you build effective and high-functioning collaborative relationships, as well as strategies to manage any kind of conflict that you might run into. At the heart of these methods are five skills that can turn anyone into a better teammate and turn any organization into an efficient and productive partnership.

Who should read Radical Collaboration?

  • Business leaders
  • Managers and teammates
  • Readers interested in becoming better collaborators

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The Leader Lab

The Leader Lab

Tania Luna and LeeAnn Renninger
Core Skills to Become a Great Manager, Faster
4.6 (358 ratings)

What's The Leader Lab about?

The Leader Lab (2021) is a handbook for anyone who wants to improve their management skills fast. Through extensive research, and training more than 200,000 managers, the authors have identified the core behaviors and skills that all great managers share. They offer simple, practical tips, and methods that can be applied for rapid results.

Who should read The Leader Lab?

  • New managers lacking in confidence
  • Leaders keen to improve their skills
  • Anyone who wants to communicate more effectively in the workplace

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Talk Lean

Talk Lean

Alan H. Palmer
Shorter Meetings. Quicker Results. Better Relations.
3.8 (71 ratings)

What's Talk Lean about?

Talk Lean will teach you how to express your thoughts in a direct, candid, yet courteous manner. The author shares effective, easy-to-apply tips for having a productive conversation that helps achieve your goals.

Who should read Talk Lean?

  • Anyone who has trouble communicating at work
  • Anyone who has to confront difficult people on a daily basis
  • Anyone who hesitates to express their true thoughts and feelings

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The Anatomy of Peace

The Anatomy of Peace

The Arbinger Institute
How to Resolve the Heart of Conflict
4.0 (57 ratings)

What's The Anatomy of Peace about?

The Anatomy of Peace (2006) addresses an unpleasant fact: how common it is for people to resort to conflict as a way of resolving differences at home, in the workplace and in the world at large. Learn the reasons behind this mindset and how we can find a better way to move forward. There’s no reason to think things have to be the way they are today. With a little understanding, we can all choose the path of peace.

Who should read The Anatomy of Peace?

  • Professionals struggling with coworkers or customers
  • Readers who want less struggle and more peace in their lives
  • Parents and teachers eager to handle conflicts better

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Get Better

Get Better

Todd Davis
15 Proven Practices to Build Effective Relationships at Work
4.1 (44 ratings)

What's Get Better about?

Get Better (2017) offers valuable insight on how to build and maintain better relationships at work. With a wealth of practical advice that you can put into action today, this is a useful guide, both to nurturing important relationships and to avoiding all the typical pitfalls that can cause trouble in the workplace.

Who should read Get Better?

  • Executives and managers
  • Employees who deal with coworkers
  • Students of business and psychology

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Missing Each Other

Missing Each Other

Edward Brodkin and Ashley Pallathra
How to Cultivate Meaningful Connections
4.2 (99 ratings)

What's Missing Each Other about?

Missing Each Other (2021) is a scientifically sound exploration of human connection. This wide-ranging primer explains how to truly bond with others in our fast-paced world.

Who should read Missing Each Other?

  • Lonesome people looking to link with others
  • Bad communicators seeking better ways to connect
  • Anyone interested in the psychology of alienation

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Fault Lines

Fault Lines

Karl Pillemer
Fractured Families and How to Mend Them
4.5 (33 ratings)

What's Fault Lines about?

Fault Lines (2020) examines a common problem that no one talks about: family estrangements. Over a quarter of Americans experience being cut off from friends and family during their lifetimes, which has devastating psychological impacts. Fault Lines explores the common causes of estrangement and gives surprising and insightful advice on how to work towards reconciliation.

Who should read Fault Lines?

  • Anyone who’s experienced the pain of family estrangement
  • Budding sociologists who are fascinated by human relationships
  • Parents wanting to learn how to navigate conflict with their kids

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Getting to Yes with Yourself

Getting to Yes with Yourself

William Ury
and Other Worthy Opponents
4.0 (31 ratings)

What's Getting to Yes with Yourself about?

Think you could do with some help from the people who have to smooth out the thorniest political situations of our time? Getting to Yes with Yourself (2015) draws on professional mediator William Ury’s impressive résumé as peace broker in conflicts from the Midwest to the Middle East. Learn how to solve personal clashes more effectively, improve the important relationships in your life and gain more positive influence over yourself and others.

Who should read Getting to Yes with Yourself?

  • Readers looking to up their game at work or build healthier personal relationships
  • Managers and entrepreneurs who want to make their businesses more productive
  • News addicts who are curious about the tricks used by professional negotiators

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