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Jennie Allen
Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
19 mins
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Find Your People
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Do we really need friends?
Think about how you typically spend your evenings and weekends. Most of the time, you probably sit at home, either alone or with a small number of roommates or family members. You make dinner for just you. You buy everything you could possibly need, making sure to never bother your neighbors for anything. And you spend hours staring into a screen – comfortable, safe, and entertained. But also sad.
Unfortunately, this description applies to a lot of people. According to research done by the health insurance company Cigna, more than three in five Americans report being chronically lonely.
Meanwhile, you probably spend a significant amount of time wishing you had the kinds of friendships you see on your favorite TV shows – Friends, Cheers, and so on. The kind of connection where you feel comfortable randomly dropping by your friend’s place with a pizza and plates. The bond that stays strong even when you hurt each other, where you work out your issues instead of bailing.
This type of genuine, deep, forever friendship can sound like a fantasy. But in fact, it’s exactly the type of relationship we’re geared for. Jennie Allen posits that God built us to need people. That’s because God Himself exists eternally in relationship – it’s the Trinity. God is one and three at the same time: Father, Spirit, and Son. Together, these three aspects of God exist to glorify one another. He is fundamentally relational. And as creatures fashioned after His image, we are too.
Unfortunately, the enemy hates community. He seeks to divide people and prevent God’s glory from shining through. This is why fighting back and building those connections is so important. The ultimate purpose of relationship-building is to exist in a village of people fighting for and delighting in God – exactly what the enemy hates.
To find your people, Allen recommends saying a prayer to God. Close your eyes, and beg Him to help you find people that can join you in fighting against the dark. Pray to become God’s idea of community: deep, intentional, day-in and day-out connection.
In the next sections, we’ll discuss Allen’s five-pronged approach for finding your people, deepening your connections with them, and sticking it out when the going gets rough.
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What is Find Your People about?
Find Your People (2022) is a Christian woman’s guide to finding, making, and keeping friends. It proposes that God wired us to be in relationships with others – that’s why we crave deep, fulfilling connections. But finding them is harder than ever in today’s hyper-connected yet hyper-lonely world. With a strong sense of commitment and the help of God, you can find your people and keep them too.
Who should read Find Your People?
- Christians struggling with feelings of loneliness
- Women yearning for deep, lasting sisterhood
- New parents worried about maintaining their social lives
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