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Gina Senarighi

Communication Skills Every Couple Needs

3.8 (243 ratings)
14 mins

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Love More, Fight Less by Gina Senarighi is a guide to improving relationships. It offers practical advice on communication, conflict resolution, and building intimacy. It encourages couples to work together to deepen their connection rather than fighting against each other.

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    Tips for Success and Self-Awareness

    Before diving deep into issues about sex and money and the skills needed to solve them, here are a few quick tips to start us off.

    First, it’s important to remember that in order to learn new communication skills and effectively implement them in your relationship, both partners have to be committed to the process and willing to make some changes. Even though this Blink is meant to be consumed quickly, the work needed to develop and use the new learned skills will take time. It will require practice and patience.

    Next, avoiding limiting judgments will also help you get the most out of this material. For example, it may seem like you and your partner have already tried using one of these techniques, but it didn’t work. Or maybe you can’t believe the solution can be so simple. But even if you’ve tried something once, you might be in a better place to make it work now. And having a skill doesn’t mean you can’t learn more nuances. Even the simplest skills in the smallest of moments can make the biggest difference in our most important relationships.

    Finally, while dealing with sensitive issues it’s crucial always to make sure to preemptively recognize and then actively calm any distress. People get upset during conflict. It’s unavoidable. Reactions range from shouting in anger to totally shutting down. The good news is, we can feel that distress in our bodies and use that signal to interrupt it before our emotions sabotage any possible resolution. To do this, draw or write out a recent situation in which you felt upset. As you’re reliving this scenario, make a note about where in your body you felt tense, sweaty, or any other physical discomfort to help you recognize distress. The next time you feel that discomfort coming on, take a break to calm this distress. Soothe yourself by closing your eyes and breathing slowly, walking outside, journaling, or whatever else calms you. And be compassionate with yourself. You are not your emotions. Take time to calm down, then revisit the issue with your partner.

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    What is Love More, Fight Less about?

    Love More Fight Less provides straightforward directions on how to develop communication skills that will help you and your partner handle conflict. Various activities let you practice the skills, and this Blink details how to use these communication techniques in real-life situations.

    Love More, Fight Less Review

    Love More, Fight Less (2021) by Gina Senarighi is a book that explores ways to have healthier relationships by cultivating love and reducing conflict. Here's why this book is definitely worth reading:

    • It offers practical strategies to improve communication and resolve conflicts, empowering readers to build stronger and happier relationships.
    • By combining personal stories, case studies, and expert advice, the book provides a comprehensive understanding of the dynamics of relationships.
    • With its empowering and compassionate tone, the book will resonate with readers, helping them navigate the complexities of love in a relatable and engaging way.

    Who should read Love More, Fight Less?

    • Couples that need help communicating
    • Those interested in improving their social skills and personal growth
    • Skilled communicators looking for new ways to connect in their relationships

    About the Author

    Gina Senarighi PhD, CPC is a couples and sexuality counselor, and a certified relationship coach. She has a master’s degree in counseling psychology and a PhD in religious studies (pastoral counseling). Love More, Fight Less is her first book.

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    The main message of Love More, Fight Less is to improve relationships by cultivating understanding and effective communication.

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    Love More, Fight Less is worth reading as it provides practical insights on resolving conflicts and building stronger connections in relationships.

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    The author of Love More, Fight Less is Gina Senarighi.

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