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How to Effectively Recognize, Avoid, and Defend Yourself Against Toxic People (and Not Lose Your Mind)

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Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson is a book that helps us understand narcissistic people. It explains how to recognize them, communicate with them, and set boundaries to prevent them from infringing upon our personal space.

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    You probably know quite a few narcissists.

    When you hear the word “narcissist,” what qualities come to mind? Vanity, perhaps? Self-obsession? 

    As you may know, the term comes from a Greek myth about a handsome young man. Narcissus was so beautiful that everyone who saw him fell in love with him. But no one loved Narcissus more than he loved himself.

    In one version of the myth, Narcissus sits by a pond, gazing lovingly at his own reflection. He’s so obsessed that he stays there until he starves to death.

    So yes, self-obsession is part of it. But narcissism is a complicated personality disorder. There’s more to it than just liking yourself a bit too much.

    Also, in real life, the victims of narcissists are usually other people. 

    Thomas Erikson, the author of Surrounded by Narcissists, wants to help us to avoid becoming victims.

    First, he says, we need to know how to recognize narcissists. The ones you encounter won’t be handsome young men staring at their reflection in a pond. 

    Instead, it might be a coworker who’s quick to criticize others – but blows up if you offer them honest feedback.

    Or it could be the friend who only wants to talk about themselves.

    It may even be your partner or someone in your family. Perhaps you’ve noticed that this person can be deceitful – even manipulative – at times.

    Think about it for a moment. Do you know someone who behaves like that? Thought so.

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    What is Surrounded by Narcissists about?

    Surrounded By Narcissists (2022) is a guide to recognizing narcissists and understanding how they operate. Erikson suggests simple, effective methods for dealing with any narcissists you know, whether it’s your partner, a relative, someone you work with, or possibly all three – you may be surrounded.

    Surrounded by Narcissists Review

    Surrounded by Narcissists (2021) by Thomas Erikson offers valuable insights into dealing with narcissistic individuals and navigating the challenges they bring. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • With its eye-opening explanations of narcissistic behaviors and their impact, it provides readers with a deeper understanding of this complex personality disorder.
    • The book offers practical strategies and techniques for setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and protecting oneself from potential harm and manipulation.
    • Supported by real-life examples and relatable anecdotes, it presents the content in an engaging and relatable manner, keeping readers intrigued and invested.

    Who should read Surrounded by Narcissists?

    • Victims of narcissists
    • Empaths who are worried about being manipulated
    • Anyone who’s interested in psychology or personality types

    About the Author

    Thomas Erikson is a Swedish behavior expert, lecturer and bestselling author. His books include Surrounded By Idiots and Surrounded By Setbacks. Erikson has trained thousands of executives and salespeople using the DISC model, which highlights behavior and communication patterns.

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    Learn to navigate relationships with narcissists and protect yourself from their toxic behavior in Surrounded by Narcissists.

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    Surrounded by Narcissists is a valuable read for anyone dealing with narcissistic individuals. It provides insights and strategies to help you navigate these challenging relationships.

    Who is the author of Surrounded by Narcissists?

    The author of Surrounded by Narcissists is Thomas Erikson.

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