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Kevin and Melissa Fredericks

12 Conversations to Keep You Laughing, Loving, and Learning with Your Partner

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'Marriage Be Hard' by Kevin and Melissa Fredericks is an honest and humorous account of their marriage, filled with practical insights on how to navigate the challenges of married life with love and respect.

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    Expectations can spell trouble

    Everyone has expectations when it comes to relationships – and these expectations can have a negative impact if they’re not communicated properly.

    What kind of expectations are we talking about, exactly? Well, if you took the more traditional approach of not living together before tying the knot, for instance, you’re in for a surprise: dating and marriage are two different things. We typically find ourselves on our best behavior when we date – but marriage is a whole different story. When you and your partner are finally living together, you’ll get a crash-course in all of their vulnerabilities and quirks.

    If you don’t clearly communicate with your partner, you might end up expecting one thing while they expect another. This is especially true if you and your partner aren’t necessarily compatible – which Kevin and Melissa Fredericks say isn’t required in a relationship.

    Opposites attract – or so the saying goes, right? Maybe you have a Type A personality, and your partner is Type B. Or you like going out and they like staying in. Or you like dressing up, and they like wearing casual and comfy clothes.

    Prioritizing time to check in with your partner is what will help you continue to build and maintain your relationship. There are three important questions that you should discuss with your partner when it comes to checking in on expectations:

    First, Were there any assumptions that you brought into your marriage or relationship?

    Second, Has your marriage or relationship lived up to your expectations?

    And third, What about your marriage or relationship is better than you thought it would be?

    While it differs for everybody, a couple of the most common expectations people have revolve around sex and marital roles. We’ll discuss each of those in more detail in the next sections.

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    What is Marriage Be Hard about?

    Marriage Be Hard (2022) offers advice on how to effectively communicate important topics with your partner. Chronicling the ups and downs of the authors’ own marriage, it shows how to form loving, lasting relationships.

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    Marriage Be Hard (2021) explores the challenges and triumphs of building a strong and lasting marriage. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • By sharing their personal experiences and the lessons they've learned, Kevin and Melissa Fredericks offer practical insights into maintaining a successful relationship.
    • The book addresses common issues faced by couples and provides valuable strategies for communication and problem-solving, making it a helpful guide for anyone in a committed relationship.
    • With its humorous and relatable anecdotes, Marriage Be Hard keeps readers engaged and entertained, ensuring that the topic of marriage remains far from boring.

    Who should read Marriage Be Hard?

    • Married couples
    • People who want to repair their relationships
    • Anyone looking for general relationship advice

    About the Author

    Kevin and Melissa Fredericks are two social media influencers who have been married for nearly two decades. They cohost The Love Hour podcast. Marriage Be Hard, a New York Times best seller, is their first book.

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    What is the main message of Marriage Be Hard?

    The main message of Marriage Be Hard is that maintaining a strong and fulfilling marriage takes dedication and hard work.

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    Marriage Be Hard is a valuable read for anyone looking to improve their relationship. It offers practical advice and insights on navigating the challenges of marriage.

    Who is the author of Marriage Be Hard?

    The author of Marriage Be Hard is Kevin and Melissa Fredericks.

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