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A Language of Life
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"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall B. Rosenberg presents a process for communicating with empathy, honesty, and clarity. It aims to promote mutual understanding and peaceful resolution in personal and professional relationships.
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Engaging in alienating communication prevents compassion.
In any society, communication is a fundamental building block of everyday life; if we want to function well in society, we need to learn how to communicate with others effectively.
Unfortunately, we tend to use language that cuts the flow of communication and, even worse, harms us and the person we are speaking with.
This life-alienating communication happens when our words put up walls instead of creating bridges. For example, calling a friend selfish for taking the last piece of cake on a dish is a judgmental statement that creates defensiveness. Alternatively, simple inquiry into their motivation could help find a solution.
Furthermore, this kind of language alienates us from our compassionate selves, which makes us more violent as individuals and societies. The connection between language and violence has been investigated by O.J. Harvey, a professor of psychology at the University of Colorado. He studied random fragments of world literature from different countries and looked for words that judged people, like “good” and “bad.”
The study found that the countries with more judgemental words in their literature also had a higher number of violent incidents. Harvey concluded that cultures who label people as “good” or “bad” reinforce the idea that “bad” individuals deserve punishment, which contributes to violent incidents.
But life-alienating communication extends far beyond just “good” or “bad.” In fact, this form of communication features a range of linguistic devices that help create gaps between people. One such device is moralistic judgment.
Moralistic judgments – typically insults, criticism and labels – imply that a person who acts differently to your value system is behaving “wrongly.”
Imagine a daughter who wants to move out of her parents’ house; they think that she isn’t ready and will put herself in danger. But instead of expressing themselves compassionately and trying to understand her point of view, they label her as “selfish.”
Instead of calling her “selfish,” they could take time to identify their needs, as well as those of their daughter, and have a compassionate discussion about it. It might turn out that what the parents are really worried about is how much they’ll miss their daughter. By using compassionate language, they can bridge their differences instead of alienating each other.
This is just the beginning though – the next blinks will show you exactly how to start communicating with compassion.
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What is Nonviolent Communication about?
These blinks introduce the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a compassionate way of being with ourselves and others. Through simple techniques, you can learn how to consciously change your language and thinking to forge better quality relationships with others.
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Nonviolent Communication (2015) offers a transformative approach to communication that can revolutionize the way we interact with others. Here's why this book is worth reading:
- By providing practical tools and techniques, the book equips readers to build more harmonious relationships and resolve conflicts peacefully.
- With real-life examples and relatable stories, the book brings the concepts to life, making it easier to understand and implement in our own lives.
- The book's emphasis on empathy and compassion creates a compelling argument for a gentler, more understanding world, keeping readers engaged throughout.
Best quote from Nonviolent Communication
When … someone really hears you without passing judgement on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good! - Carl Rogers
—Marshall B. Rosenberg
Who should read Nonviolent Communication?
- Anyone wishing to improve their relationship with family, friends and coworkers
- Newcomers to a city who want to create healthy relationships with new people
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Nonviolent Communication FAQs
What is the main message of Nonviolent Communication?
The main message of Nonviolent Communication is to promote understanding, connection, and empathy through effective communication.
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Is Nonviolent Communication a good book? Is it worth reading?
Nonviolent Communication is worth reading as it provides valuable insights and practical techniques for improving communication and fostering better relationships.
Who is the author of Nonviolent Communication?
The author of Nonviolent Communication is Marshall B. Rosenberg.
What to read after Nonviolent Communication?
If you're wondering what to read next after Nonviolent Communication, here are some recommendations we suggest:
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- The Relationship Cure by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire
- Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson
- Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- The Art of Communicating by Thich Nhat Hanh
- The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
- Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
- Eight Dates by John Gottman
- Say What You Mean by Oren Jay Sofer