The best 52 Dating books

Dating can be both exhilarating and challenging, impacting our personal growth and relationships. Our carefully selected book list on Dating offers valuable insights into the complexities of modern romance, helping us navigate the ups and downs of love and connection.

Explore these enlightening reads to gain a deeper understanding of relationships and improve your dating experiences. Ready to unravel the mysteries of love and enhance your romantic journey? Start exploring these insightful titles today!

The best 52 Dating books
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Dating Books: Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá

Sex at Dawn

Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
How we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships
4.1 (529 ratings)
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What's Sex at Dawn about?

Sex At Dawn argues that the idealization of monogamy in Western societies is essentially incompatible with human nature. The book makes a compelling case for our innately promiscuous nature by exploring the history and evolution of human sexuality, with a strong focus on our primate ancestors and the invention of agriculture. Arguing that our distorted view of sexuality ruins our health and keeps us from being happy, Sex At Dawn explains how returning to a more casual approach to sex could benefit interpersonal relationships and societies in general.

Who should read Sex at Dawn?

  • Anyone who wants to know what kind of sex life is intrinsic to human nature
  • Anyone who has experienced the strains of preserving monogamy over time, and wonders how lifelong relationships can work out
  • Anyone interested in biology and evolutionary psychology

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Dating Books: Daring to Trust by David Richo

Daring to Trust

David Richo
Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy
4.3 (165 ratings)
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What's Daring to Trust about?

Daring to Trust (2010) offers a clear path to finding the confidence to trust yourself and the world around you. You’ll learn to overcome past trauma and accept life for what it has to offer, discovering how to live in the moment and work toward a better future.

Who should read Daring to Trust?

  • People who struggle with maintaining their self-control
  • Anyone looking to boost their self-confidence
  • People curious about human behavior and motivation

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Dating Books: The Game by Neil Strauss

The Game

Neil Strauss
Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
2.8 (413 ratings)
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What's The Game about?

The Game (2005) gives readers an inside look into the “pickup community” frequented by men desperate to convince women to sleep with them. These blinks share the advice of a leading seduction guru, and the less than great consequences of his successes.

Who should read The Game?

  • Everyone who is interested in seduction
  • People who like learning about different subcultures

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Dating Books: Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Erik Klinenberg

Modern Romance

Aziz Ansari and Erik Klinenberg
3.6 (114 ratings)
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What's Modern Romance about?

The internet and modern technology have revolutionized the way we communicate, learn, work and live. They’ve even revolutionized our concept of love. Modern Romance (2015) explains how our idea of “love” has changed in recent generations, and how you can make the most of today’s technology in your quest to find it.

Who should read Modern Romance?

  • Seekers of romance
  • Aziz Ansari fans
  • Anyone interested in technology or the internet

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Dating Books: Unrequited by Lisa A. Phillips

Unrequited

Lisa A. Phillips
The Thinking Woman’s Guide to Romantic Obsession
4.3 (46 ratings)
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What's Unrequited about?

Unrequited (2015) is a guide to the human obsession with people who will never love us. These blinks explore how romantic obsession affects both the obsessed and the object of their desire, why some people are more prone to stalker behavior than others and how to deal with the fallout of unrequited love.

Who should read Unrequited?

  • People who can’t let go of their ex
  • Women who are unsure whether it’s appropriate for them to initiate a relationship
  • Romantically obsessed creatives

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Dating Books: Why Love Hurts by Eva Illouz

Why Love Hurts

Eva Illouz
A Sociological Explanation
3.5 (57 ratings)
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What's Why Love Hurts about?

Why Love Hurts (2012) is about the history of love, romance and relationships. These blinks detail the gender differences, cultural expectations and social structures that shape our conception of love and make it one of the more difficult emotions to experience.

Who should read Why Love Hurts?

  • Men who are fed up with being called unemotional
  • Women who are tired of being considered clingy
  • Singles who struggle to maintain relationships

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Dating Books: The State of Affairs by Esther Perel

The State of Affairs

Esther Perel
Rethinking Infidelity
4.2 (256 ratings)
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What's The State of Affairs about?

The State of Affairs (2017) tackles the tough subject of infidelity. Cheating is widely condemned as immoral, and yet, at some point or another, many people do it anyway. This book offers a fresh look at infidelity and asks a difficult question: Is it such a bad thing after all?

Who should read The State of Affairs?

  • Faithful lovers
  • Unfaithful lovers
  • Mistresses and manstresses

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Dating Books: How Luck Happens by Janice Kaplan and Barnaby Marsh

How Luck Happens

Janice Kaplan and Barnaby Marsh
Using the Science of Luck to Transform Work, Love and Life
4.3 (194 ratings)
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What's How Luck Happens about?

How Luck Happens (2018) debunks the myth that luck is something we have zero control over, revealing that we certainly can influence the level of luckiness in our lives. Packed with examples and practical advice, this book shows how luck can be improved in the workplace as well as the dating scene.

Who should read How Luck Happens?

  • Those who are tired of waiting for luck to find them
  • People hoping to improve their success in work, love or family
  • Anyone who wants to beat the competition

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Dating Books: The Curious History of Dating by Nichi Hodgson

The Curious History of Dating

Nichi Hodgson
From Jane Austen to Tinder
4.1 (46 ratings)
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What's The Curious History of Dating about?

The Curious History of Dating (2017) guides readers through the history of dating and relationships in the United Kingdom. From the formal dances and rules of the 1700s to the growth of online dating in recent years, these blinks show that dating and finding true love has always been a difficult affair. But thankfully, today it’s easier than ever before.

Who should read The Curious History of Dating?

  • Non-Brits confused about the etiquette for dating a Brit
  • Long-term couples looking for some historically-based date inspiration
  • Curious fans of British social history

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Dating Books: Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood

Women Who Love Too Much

Robin Norwood
When you keep hoping and wishing he'll change
4.5 (153 ratings)
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What's Women Who Love Too Much about?

Women Who Love Too Much (1985) explores the unhealthy relationships that some women find themselves in again and again. Using real-life case studies and devastating insights, the blinks explain the true reasons behind women’s fascination with unsuitable men and describe how we can move past our insecurities for good.

Who should read Women Who Love Too Much?

  • Women feeling trapped in an unhappy relationship
  • Self-help buffs looking for a fresh perspective
  • Those trying to move on from a traumatic childhood

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Dating Books: Eight Dates by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams

Eight Dates

John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams
Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
4.4 (382 ratings)
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What's Eight Dates about?

Eight Dates (2019) helps couples navigate the ups and downs of a relationship. Whether you’ve been married for years or have just met the love of your life, the bedrock of any relationship is quality conversation. Uncover your partner’s innermost needs and desires by going out on the eight themed dates set out by the authors in this book. But don’t stop there – the wisdom from these eight recommended dates can be applied to any date you and your partner go on.

Who should read Eight Dates?

  • Anyone in a relationship
  • Couples looking to bring romance back into their relationship
  • Aspiring couples therapists or psychology students

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Dating Books: How to Be an Adult in Relationships by David Richo

How to Be an Adult in Relationships

David Richo
The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
4.5 (489 ratings)
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What's How to Be an Adult in Relationships about?

How to Be an Adult in Relationships (2002) is the definitive guide to effective relationships. It focuses on how we can all become more loving, and more open to love, both for our own benefit and that of the wider world. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, author David Richo explores five concepts of mindful loving, and how they can be applied to relationships throughout our lives.

Who should read How to Be an Adult in Relationships?

  • Couples wanting to deepen their commitment to each other
  • Anyone seeking a meaningful relationship
  • Individuals wanting to end a relationship peacefully

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Dating Books: Love Sense by Sue Johnson

Love Sense

Sue Johnson
The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
4.4 (367 ratings)
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What's Love Sense about?

Love Sense (2013) is an exploration of the science of love. These blinks suggest that humans instinctively desire to connect with each other, and that relationship problems arise when lovers no longer feel secure. They also offer practical strategies for how to develop your love sense – that is, your ability to create fulfilling and long-lasting bonds with your loved ones.

Who should read Love Sense?

  • People aspiring to form long-lasting relationships
  • Those who have been in and out of fleeting romances
  • Lovers struggling with relationship difficulties

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Dating Books: Relationship Goals by Michael Todd

Relationship Goals

Michael Todd
How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex
3.0 (335 ratings)
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What's Relationship Goals about?

Relationship Goals (2020) offers a blueprint for developing long-lasting relationships with your friends, your spouse, and God. Narrating his own experiences of heartache and healing, author Michael Todd examines common obstacles in modern relationships and gives tips for overcoming them. He also demonstrates how to set precise goals to help you aim for the right relationships.

Who should read Relationship Goals?

  • Single people concerned about choosing the right partner
  • People of faith seeking to strengthen their relationships with God
  • Individuals struggling to maintain a healthy marriage

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Dating Books: Untrue by Wednesday Martin

Untrue

Wednesday Martin
Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free
4.2 (173 ratings)
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What's Untrue about?

Untrue (2018) aims to challenge the long-held assumption that women are less interested in sex than men. Diving into history and the details of the human body, Untrue reveals that not only do women have strong sexual desires, they’re wired to seek satisfaction from a variety of partners.

Who should read Untrue?

  • Women curious about female sexuality 
  • People who want to learn more about sexuality, gender, and society
  • People with an interest in social anthropology

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Dating Books: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

John Gray
A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
4.5 (524 ratings)
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What's Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus about?

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) is the best-selling relationship book that helps men and women understand each other and reconcile their differences. The book’s author, John Gray, uses the playful metaphor of opposite sexes being from different planets, and creates a translation guide that can help men, “Martians,” and women, “Venusians,” to understand each other better. This guide can help them build intimacy and create stronger relationships.

Who should read Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus?

  • Anyone interested in relationship advice
  • Men or women who want practical ideas for improving communication with their partners
  • People curious about the best-known relationship guide of the modern era

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Dating Books: The No Contact Rule by Natalie Lue

The No Contact Rule

Natalie Lue
A guide to surviving your breakup with your self-respect in tow
4.4 (111 ratings)
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What's The No Contact Rule about?

The No Contact Rule is the tough-talking guide you need if you’re feeling battered by a breakup, can’t seem to let go of your ex, or are stuck in an on-again off-again relationship. Here you’ll find tips and tricks on how to find emotional distance, refocus on yourself, and finally attain closure.

Who should read The No Contact Rule?

  • Anyone who’s just been dumped;
  • Anyone who’s just dumped someone; 
  • Everyone who just can’t seem to stop texting their ex.

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Dating Books: Intimacy & Desire by David Schnarch

Intimacy & Desire

David Schnarch
Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship
4.3 (534 ratings)
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What's Intimacy & Desire about?

Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship (2009) explains why all people in committed, long-term relationships run into sexual problems. Driven by case studies of real couples in sex therapy, the book demonstrates how people in relationships can transform their perspective – and confront themselves and each other – to reawaken sexual passion.

Who should read Intimacy & Desire?

  • Anyone interested in relationship advice
  • Couples looking to overcome sexual problems
  • Partners who want to deepen their connection

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Dating Books: The Relationship Cure by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire

The Relationship Cure

John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire
A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships
4.6 (849 ratings)
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What's The Relationship Cure about?

The Relationship Cure (2002) prescribes a surprisingly simple solution to the problems that ail many of our relationships. Drawing on psychologist John M. Gottman’s extensive research, its insights and tips are equally applicable to relationships between romantic partners, friends, family members, and coworkers. 

Who should read The Relationship Cure?

  • Couples experiencing relationship problems
  • People looking for ways to get closer to their friends, coworkers, or family members 
  • Anyone wanting to improve their communication and relationship-building skills

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Dating Books: The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship by Natalie Lue

The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship

Natalie Lue
4.3 (61 ratings)
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What's The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship about?

The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship (2012) is aimed at women who expect too much from unavailable, unreliable men, and want to change their ways. By examining the reasons that women delude themselves about men, as well as the specific lies they believe, it ultimately points the way toward happier relationships and more realistic dreams.

Who should read The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship?

  • Women tired of kidding themselves about undeserving men
  • Amateur agony aunts who love giving relationship advice
  • Unreliable men willing to mend their ways

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Dating Books: Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue

Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl

Natalie Lue
The Definitive Guide to Understanding Emotionally Unavailable Men and the Women that Love Them
4.5 (142 ratings)
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What's Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl about?

Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl (2008) provides a lifeline for anyone who keeps getting messed around by emotionally unavailable partners. With searing personal insights, tough love, and a large dose of humor, Mr Unavailable is an essential guide to breaking destructive relationship patterns and finding love.

Who should read Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl?

  • Anyone who feels chronically unlucky in love but can’t seem to break the cycle
  • Women who want to get to know themselves better and develop their self-esteem
  • Men recovering from bad relationships who want to avoid becoming “Mr. Unavailable”

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Dating Books: Deeper Dating by Ken Page

Deeper Dating

Ken Page
How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy
4.3 (393 ratings)
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What's Deeper Dating about?

Deeper Dating (2014) is a roadmap to intimacy and loving relationships. It breaks down how looking inward can help us identify the kinds of people we’ll connect with most deeply, and shares tools for finding these people and fostering relationships that will inspire and fulfill us.

Who should read Deeper Dating?

  • Singles frustrated by popular dating advice
  • Couples looking to strengthen their bonds
  • Those who want to understand attraction and relationships

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Dating Books: Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukav

Spiritual Partnership

Gary Zukav
The Journey to Authentic Power
4.0 (247 ratings)
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What's Spiritual Partnership about?

Spiritual Partnership (2009) is about the new relationships that can develop when we tap into a deep, invisible consciousness. Becoming “multisensory” and engaging in spiritual partnerships with others will lead you to a life of freedom, joy, and authentic power.

Who should read Spiritual Partnership?

  • People interested in spirituality
  • Couples looking to strengthen their relationship
  • Anyone searching for meaning and purpose in life

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Dating Books: Loving Bravely by Alexandra H. Solomon

Loving Bravely

Alexandra H. Solomon
Twenty Lessons of Self-discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want
4.4 (239 ratings)
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What's Loving Bravely about?

Loving Bravely (2017) is a primer on finding love through introspection and self-discovery. This guide to love teaches invaluable lessons about how to build relationships that actually last.

Who should read Loving Bravely?

  • Lonely hearts looking for love
  • True romantics seeking lasting relationships
  • Anyone curious about the psychology of attachment

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Dating Books: Love Worth Making by Stephen Snyder

Love Worth Making

Stephen Snyder
How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship
4.2 (585 ratings)
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What's Love Worth Making about?

Love Worth Making (2018) is a guide to enhancing sex and intimacy within committed partnerships. Drawing from real-life examples of sex and couples therapy sessions, it shows how both daily life and trauma affect our sexual feelings. It takes an emotional approach to untangling sexual problems and offers ideas on maintaining an erotic climate in a relationship.

Who should read Love Worth Making?

  • Partners who love each other but are struggling to keep desire alive
  • New couples who want to learn how to sustain their sexual relationship
  • Anyone interested in the emotional side of sexual connection

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Dating Books: In Praise Of Love by Alain Badiou

In Praise Of Love

Alain Badiou
4.3 (260 ratings)
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What's In Praise Of Love about?

In Praise of Love (2012) is a passionate defense of love in an age when romance is threatened from all directions. The product of a dialogue between French philosopher Alain Badiou and journalist Nicholas Truong, the book lays bare how our sex-obsessed media, our individualistic striving, and our online-dating culture are all setting love up to fail. Its thesis: love needs to be reinvented for the modern world.

Who should read In Praise Of Love?

  • Restless singles afraid of commitment
  • Hopeless romantics longing for more than just shallow hook-ups
  • Long-term couples who want to rekindle their bond

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Dating Books: Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb

Marry Him

Lori Gottlieb
The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
4.5 (49 ratings)
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What's Marry Him about?

Marry Him (2011) is an honest, open and humorous quest for what it means to find the perfect man. It confronts common barriers to finding a partner, like chasing sparks over stability and the never-ending checklist of ideal qualities, and makes a case for rethinking what is important in a partner, drawing on scientific wisdom and often hilarious personal anecdotes along the way.

Who should read Marry Him?

  • Women who are still looking for the perfect man
  • Students of love and what it means to have a fulfilling relationship
  • Anyone interested in women's personal journeys and discoveries

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Dating Books: Should I Stay Or Should I Go by Ramani Durvasula

Should I Stay Or Should I Go

Ramani Durvasula
Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist
4.1 (71 ratings)
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What's Should I Stay Or Should I Go about?

Should I Stay Or Should I Go (2015) is a comprehensive survival guide for those in a relationship with a narcissist. Dr. Ramani breaks down what narcissism is, highlights the red flags to look out for, and offers two concrete roadmaps – one for deciding to stay, and one for deciding to go. 

Who should read Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

  • Anyone not feeling seen, heard, or respected by a partner
  • People dealing with a narcissistic parent, friend, or colleague
  • Those struggling to decide whether they should stay in or leave a relationship

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Dating Books: The Five Core Conversations for Couples by David Bulitt and Julie Bulitt

The Five Core Conversations for Couples

David Bulitt and Julie Bulitt
Expert Advice about How to Develop: Effective Communication, a Long-Term Financial Plan, Cooperative Parenting Strategies, Mutually Satisfying Sex, and Work-Life Balance
4.3 (334 ratings)
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What's The Five Core Conversations for Couples about?

The Five Core Conversations for Couples (2020) examines the five important topics every couple should talk about. It offers expert guidance on the core facets of a relationship that can help you strengthen yours. 

Who should read The Five Core Conversations for Couples?

  • Young couples looking for relationship advice
  • Older couples wanting to fix and strengthen their marriage
  • Anyone in a relationship

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Dating Books: How to Be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne

How to Be a 3% Man

Corey Wayne
Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams
3.9 (278 ratings)
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What's How to Be a 3% Man about?

How to Be a 3% Man (2013) provides straightforward practice methods, tips and guidelines for meeting and dating women. It teaches you what to say to women, when to say it, and what her responses mean.

Who should read How to Be a 3% Man?

  • Men who have a hard time approaching women.
  • Anyone looking for dating advice.
  • People hoping to improve their relationship.

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Dating Books: The Overthinking In Relationships Fix by Rodney Noble

The Overthinking In Relationships Fix

Rodney Noble
Toxic Thoughts That Can Destroy Your Relationship And How To Fix Them
4.3 (456 ratings)
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What's The Overthinking In Relationships Fix about?

The Overthinking In Relationships Fix (2020) is a guide to getting rid of toxic overthinking patterns that put your romantic relationships on the verge of a breakup. It offers advice and easy-to-do techniques to release your worrying thoughts and strengthen your bond with your partner.

Who should read The Overthinking In Relationships Fix?

  • Anyone in a relationship
  • Long-distance lovers
  • Those looking to overcome toxic overthinking

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Dating Books: The Science of Happily Ever After by Ty Tashiro

The Science of Happily Ever After

Ty Tashiro
What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love
4.3 (50 ratings)
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What's The Science of Happily Ever After about?

The Science of Happily Ever After (2014) digs into the history of mating throughout the history of the human species and answers the question of why some couples live happily ever after and some don’t. Part history and anthropology lesson, part self-help, it offers explanations and advice for anyone seeking love.

Who should read The Science of Happily Ever After?

  • Love seekers
  • People wondering why it never works out
  • Couples in relationships who want to live happily ever after

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Dating Books: Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love by Nancy Dreyfus

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love

Nancy Dreyfus
Relationship Repair in a Flash
3.9 (365 ratings)
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What's Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love about?

Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love (1993) is a relationship repair tool that coaches couples on how to speak to each other more genuinely.

Who should read Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love?

  • Couples in therapy
  • People who need relationship advice
  • Those looking for better relationship communication

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Dating Books: The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton

The Ethical Slut

Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
4.0 (107 ratings)
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What's The Ethical Slut about?

The Ethical Slut (1997) has long been the trusted handbook for anyone exploring sex, romance, and intimacy outside the constraints of monogamy. An updated 2017 edition combines time-tested strategies for navigating polyamory with advice on how to embrace an even greater diversity of orientations and relationship configurations.

Who should read The Ethical Slut?

  • Pleasure-seekers who’d like to explore a greater variety of sexual partners
  • Seasoned polyamorists who want to make multiple partnerships really work
  • Anyone who lives – or would like to live – outside the strictures of conventional monogamy

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Dating Books: Love Unfu*ked by Gary John Bishop

Love Unfu*ked

Gary John Bishop
Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together
4.3 (118 ratings)
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What's Love Unfu*ked about?

Love Unfu*ked (2022) is a no-nonsense, in-your-face guide to identifying and fixing the one thing that’s stopping you from having a meaningful and fulfilling relationship: you. By accepting hard facts about yourself and your habits, you can begin making the changes necessary to be the best version of yourself and stop being the problem that you don’t even know you are.

Who should read Love Unfu*ked?

  • The married or committed who’ve grown miserable in their relationships
  • Perpetual daters who are wondering why things never work out
  • Anyone looking for a more meaningful and satisfying relationship

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Dating Books: Polysecure by Jessica Fern

Polysecure

Jessica Fern
Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
3.4 (235 ratings)
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What's Polysecure about?

Polysecure (2020) unites attachment theory, which explains the different types of attachment people form with each other, with consensual nonmonogamy – the increasingly popular practice of having multiple romantic partners. By learning more about your attachment style, you can develop healthy relationship habits, even in nonmonogamy.

Who should read Polysecure?

  • Relationship geeks looking to learn about attachment theory
  • Couples considering opening up their relationships
  • Nonmonogamous folks who want to do it right

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Dating Books: The Power of the Pussy by Kara King

The Power of the Pussy

Kara King
How to Get What You Want from Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!
3.6 (171 ratings)
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What's The Power of the Pussy about?

The Power of the Pussy (2014) shares the twelve secret “powers” that women can use to transform their lives by changing the ways they perceive men and dating. Through straight-forward advice and positive encouragement, author Kara King gives readers tools to break the cycle of bad relationships and create the life they want with the man of their dreams.

Who should read The Power of the Pussy?

  • Fans of self-help books
  • People interested in love and romance
  • Single women who want to have better dating experiences with men

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Dating Books: Everything I Know about Love by Dolly Alderton

Everything I Know about Love

Dolly Alderton
A Memoir
3.5 (20 ratings)
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What's Everything I Know about Love about?

Everything I Know About Love (2018) is Dolly Alderton’s very funny and painfully honest recollection of her early twenties, and all the bad dates, heartbreaks, grimy flat shares, and steadfast friendships this period of her life entailed. In 2022, the book was adapted for television by the BBC.

Who should read Everything I Know about Love?

  • People on the cusp of adulthood wondering what their twenties will bring
  • Those on the other side of 30, still trying to work out what their twenties meant
  • Anyone who’s a romantic at heart

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Dating Books: The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure by Jeff Billings

The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure

Jeff Billings
How to Stop Being Jealous of Your Partner's Past in 12 Steps
3.8 (33 ratings)
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What's The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure about?

The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure (2017) is a guide to overcoming any jealousy about your partner’s romantic and sexual past. It introduces what retroactive jealousy is, the mindset shifts needed to get past it, and actionable changes you can make today. 

Who should read The Ultimate Retroactive Jealousy Cure?

  • Individuals in new relationships 
  • Long-term partners who still feel uncomfortable about their significant other’s past
  • Anyone who’s (considering) diving into the dating world

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Dating Books: The Man's Guide to Women by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottmann, Douglas Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams

The Man's Guide to Women

John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottmann, Douglas Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams
Scientifically Proven Secrets from the "Love Lab" About What Women Really Want
4.1 (254 ratings)
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What's The Man's Guide to Women about?

The Man’s Guide to Women (2016) is a comprehensive and scientifically backed look into the mind, emotions, and habits of women. Drawing on decades of research, it examines the hidden and not so hidden factors that drive women’s behavior and leave many men perplexed. Whether you’re married, dating, or just looking to better understand the women in your life, there’s always room to learn and add a little more compassion into your relationships.

Who should read The Man's Guide to Women?

  • Romance-seekers who are terrified at the thought of wooing a woman
  • Married or committed men looking to better connect with their female partner
  • Anyone who wants a healthier relationship with the women in their lives

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Dating Books: Closer to Love by Vex King

Closer to Love

Vex King
How to Attract the Right Relationships and Deepen Your Connections
4.5 (351 ratings)
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What's Closer to Love about?

Closer to Love (2023) examines the secrets of forming a deep connection with others. Highlighting the author’s experiences alongside various experts’ theories and concepts, it offers practical wisdom on fostering self-love and romantic love.   

Who should read Closer to Love?

  • Couples struggling with their relationship
  • Single individuals looking to fix their love life
  • Anyone who wants to build healthier connections

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Dating Books: You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse by Melanie Tonia Evans

You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse

Melanie Tonia Evans
The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships
4.7 (99 ratings)
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What's You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse about?

You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse (2018) addresses the epidemic in narcissism and narcissistic abuse in contemporary society, including the devastating impacts on victims.  It offers a step-by-step process for releasing past traumas and confronting negative beliefs to heal from past abuse and thrive in healthy relationships. 

Who should read You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse?

  • Anyone feeling trapped in unfulfilled relationships with narcissistic people
  • Sufferers of past abuse wondering why they end up in similar relationships repeatedly
  • Those seeking to break free from limiting beliefs and negative self-talk that make them susceptible to manipulative people

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Dating Books: The Unemployed Millionaire by Matt Morris

The Unemployed Millionaire

Matt Morris
Escape the Rat Race, Fire Your Boss and Live Life on YOUR Terms!
3.7 (157 ratings)
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What's The Unemployed Millionaire about?

The Unemployed Millionaire (2009) takes you on a transformative journey from financial despair to self-made prosperity. It provides actionable insights and strategies for aspiring entrepreneurs, emphasizing the significance of mindset, persistence, and smart decisions in achieving financial freedom. Through a blend of personal anecdotes and practical advice, it offers a roadmap to success even in challenging circumstances.

Who should read The Unemployed Millionaire?

  • Aspiring entrepreneurs looking for motivation and guidance
  • Professionals considering transitioning away from traditional employment
  • Anyone facing financial difficulties and seeking help to turn their situations around

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Dating Books: More Than Two by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert

More Than Two

Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert
A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
4.3 (16 ratings)
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What's More Than Two about?

More Than Two (2014) is a guide to ethical polyamory that delves into the complexities of building and maintaining relationships with multiple partners. Through a combination of real-life examples and thoughtful analysis, it explores some of the possibilities of polyamorous relationships, provides practical advice on navigating common challenges, and offers insights into fostering open and honest communication.

Who should read More Than Two?

  • People curious about exploring ethical non-monogamy
  • Those already practicing consensual non-monogamy and looking for guidance
  • Anyone interested in relationship philosophies beyond traditional monogamy

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Dating Books: Married at First Sight by Gu Lingfei

Married at First Sight

Gu Lingfei
4.1 (70 ratings)
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What's Married at First Sight about?

Married at First Sight (ongoing) is a 2,300-plus chapter contemporary romance novel. It follows the fortunes of two characters, wealthy Mr. York and independent spirit Serenity Hunt, who enter into a self-declared “marriage of convenience.” As they come to know each other, however, genuine affection begins to grow between them – forcing us to rethink our romantic idealization of love and marriage.   

Who should read Married at First Sight?

  • Time-limited romance enthusiasts
  • Fans of contemporary fiction
  • Anyone who enjoys slow-burning soap operas 

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Dating Books: Plays Well with Others by Eric Barker

Plays Well with Others

Eric Barker
The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know about Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong
4.2 (266 ratings)
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What's Plays Well with Others about?

Plays Well with Others (2022) debunks relationship myths and offers advice on how to form and maintain strong bonds. Improve your friendships and romantic relationships, as well as your ability to resolve conflicts, forgive others, and deal with difficult people.

Who should read Plays Well with Others?

  • Professionals seeking better workplace relationships
  • Team leaders aiming for harmony and collaboration
  • All those interested in interpersonal dynamics

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Dating Books: The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory by Dedeker Winston

The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

Dedeker Winston
Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love
3.8 (21 ratings)
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What's The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory about?

The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory (2017) offers practical relationship advice for women seeking to break free from jealousy, possessiveness, and competition through discovering polyamory. Incorporating real-world experiences and practical exercises, it covers exploring your relationship style, conquering jealousy, and “coming out” as polyamorous – helping you craft unique connections tailored to your needs.

Who should read The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory?

  • People interested in exploring non-monogamy and alternative relationships
  • Those curious about opening up a current monogamous relationship
  • Anyone looking to gain confidence in communication skills

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Dating Books: Securely Attached by Eli Harwood

Securely Attached

Eli Harwood
Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships
3.9 (51 ratings)
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What's Securely Attached about?

Securely Attached (2023) is an insightful exploration into the world of attachment theory and its practical implications in everyday life. It delves into how different attachment strategies, formed during early childhood, influence the way individuals interact and bond with others throughout their lives. Offering a multitude of reflection exercises, questions, and tips, its goal is to help people recognize the attachment strategies they’re currently using and help them transition to earned secure attachment over time.

Who should read Securely Attached?

  • People in romantic relationships seeking insight into their attachment strategies
  • Parents looking for guidance on building secure attachments with their children
  • Anyone who knows or suspects they’re using insecure attachment strategies

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Dating Books: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married

Ben Stuart
Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
2.7 (24 ratings)
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What's Single, Dating, Engaged, Married about?

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married (2017) is filled with practical guidance for today’s Christian on four seasons of romantic relationship. This thoughtful collection of stories and scriptural wisdom offers ways to transform relationships, from navigating modern dating to honoring divine design within marriage.

Who should read Single, Dating, Engaged, Married?

  • Single Christians wondering if being alone is really part of God’s plan
  • Dating Christians who want to know if their current partner is “the one”
  • Engaged Christians about to embark on the adventure of marriage

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Dating Books: I Didn't Know I Needed This by Eli Rallo

I Didn't Know I Needed This

Eli Rallo
The New Rules for Flirting, Feeling, and Finding Yourself
4.2 (160 ratings)
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What's I Didn't Know I Needed This about?

I Didn't Know I Needed This (2023) is the ultimate guide to modern dating’s natural lifecycle, from flirting to first dates to relationships to heartbreak. Drawing on TikTok star Eli Rallo's own hard-won experience, this rulebook combines shallow delights and hard truths into her signature brand of romantic realism. 

Who should read I Didn't Know I Needed This?

  • Young women navigating the modern dating world
  • Fans of Eli Rallo's TikTok and Instagram accounts 
  • Readers seeking wisdom and humor around romance, heartbreak, and self-care

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Dating Books: Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

Pride and Prejudice

Jane Austen
4.1 (16 ratings)
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What's Pride and Prejudice about?

Pride and Prejudice (1813) is the classic story of Elizabeth Bennet and Fitzwilliam Darcy, a couple who must overcome all manner of social and financial obstacles – including their own initial dislike of each other – to find lasting love.

Who should read Pride and Prejudice?

  • True romantics seeking an all-time classic love story
  • History buffs curious about class life in Regency-era England
  • Lovers of classic literature and period dramas

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Dating Books: We Should Hang Out Sometime by Josh Sundquist

We Should Hang Out Sometime

Josh Sundquist
Embarrassingly, a True Story

What's We Should Hang Out Sometime about?

In this memoir, Josh Sundquist shares his humorous and heartfelt journey to reconnect with old friends and find love. Through his awkward and endearing anecdotes, he explores the complexities of relationships and the importance of taking chances in life. A relatable and inspiring read for anyone who has ever wondered "what if?" when it comes to missed connections.

Who should read We Should Hang Out Sometime?

  • Curious individuals seeking insights into the complexities of modern dating
  • Young adults navigating the ups and downs of relationships
  • Readers looking for a humorous and relatable account of personal growth and self-discovery

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What are the Top 10 Dating books?

Blinkist curators have picked the following:
  • Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
  • Daring to Trust by David Richo
  • The Game by Neil Strauss
  • Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Erik Klinenberg
  • Unrequited by Lisa A. Phillips
  • Why Love Hurts by Eva Illouz
  • The State of Affairs by Esther Perel
  • How Luck Happens by Janice Kaplan and Barnaby Marsh
  • The Curious History of Dating by Nichi Hodgson
  • Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood

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When it comes to Dating, these are the authors who stand out as some of the most influential:
  • Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
  • David Richo
  • Neil Strauss
  • Aziz Ansari and Erik Klinenberg
  • Lisa A. Phillips