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Nancy Dreyfus

Relationship Repair in a Flash

3.9 (360 ratings)
9 mins

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Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love by Nancy Dreyfus is a guide for couples to improve communication by understanding each other's emotions, recognizing communication patterns, and developing new ways to reach a more loving and respectful relationship.

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    Acknowledging a change in direction is a powerful intervention.

    It’s okay – and even critical – to recognize that your interaction isn’t going well and that you need to change your approach in order to better understand one another. This helps boost your inner awareness of the situation and how you’re feeling.

    It’s a powerful intervention that requires you to be straightforward with your partner.

    Some useful ways to do this are to first acknowledge how you – as the initiator of the conversation – are feeling and to acknowledge how your partner is feeling. Then try following this emotional validation with a question. For example:

    Can we start again?

    Can you repeat what you’re saying but in a calmer tone so I can feel safer with you?

    Can we take a minute to start over and really listen to what each other is saying?

    Changing direction and validating each other’s feelings can transform a conversation and establish trust. It presents the desire to want to repair things and the willingness to listen to your partner.

    Sometimes, we’re so focused on being heard that we forget that our partner has the right to be heard as well. And sometimes, we only hear what we want to hear – but that’s not effective listening.

    So, let each other feel received. Offering this kind of vulnerability allows your partner to truly see you.

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    What is Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love about?

    Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love (1993) is a relationship repair tool that coaches couples on how to speak to each other more genuinely.

    Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love Review

    Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love (2009) is an insightful book that explores effective communication in relationships. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • This book offers practical strategies to improve communication skills, helping readers build stronger and healthier connections with loved ones.
    • With its real-life examples and relatable stories, the book provides a relatable and engaging reading experience, making it easy to apply the techniques discussed.
    • The book's emphasis on empathy and understanding fosters deeper connections and facilitates open, honest conversations, ultimately enhancing relationships.

    Who should read Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love?

    • Couples in therapy
    • People who need relationship advice
    • Those looking for better relationship communication

    About the Author

    Nancy Dreyfus, PsyD, is a professional psychotherapist and former journalist who has over 20 years of experience as a couples therapist.

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    The author of Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love is Nancy Dreyfus.