Die besten 38 Bücher zu The Psychology of Love

Helen Fisher’s Why We Love (2004) is not only a report on her latest astonishing research but a sensitive description of the infinite facets of romantic love. This book is a scientifically grounded examination of love that reveals how, why and who we love.

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Attached (2010) is all about how to make your relationships work. This book offers you valuable insight into the science of adult attachment and how to use this insight in everyday life, whether you’re in a committed relationship or are still looking for love. It also provides tips and tricks on how to find the perfect partner and reveals why some people just aren’t compatible.

In A General Theory of Love, three psychiatrists take a scientific look at the phenomenon of love. Arguing that our emotional experience in adulthood is profoundly influenced by our childhood relationships, the authors suggest ways to undo this emotional “programming” and establish healthier relationships with friends and romantic partners.

The 5 Love Languages (2015) is a contemporary guide to developing a relationships of lifelong love that can easily overcome the hurdles that modern couples face. These blinks detail the five ways people give and feel love, and how any couple can use this knowledge to make their relationship more nurturing, affectionate and compassionate.

Why Love Hurts (2012) is about the history of love, romance and relationships. These blinks detail the gender differences, cultural expectations and social structures that shape our conception of love and make it one of the more difficult emotions to experience.

Getting The Love You Want (1988) offers practical advice on how to save a failing relationship and build a stronger one. It highlights a unique therapy program that offers a step-by-step guide to helping partners address repressed childhood desires and become more compassionate individuals.

Hold Me Tight (2008) focuses on one of life’s greatest challenges: building and sustaining an intimate relationship. Drawing on the author’s own highly successful couple therapy form EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy) – based on the idea that the quality of relationships are defined by key emotional moments, both positive and negative – these blinks show you how to form a deeper, and more enduring bond with your partner.

Love Sense (2013) is an exploration of the science of love. These blinks suggest that humans instinctively desire to connect with each other, and that relationship problems arise when lovers no longer feel secure. They also offer practical strategies for how to develop your love sense – that is, your ability to create fulfilling and long-lasting bonds with your loved ones.

The Relationship Cure (2002) prescribes a surprisingly simple solution to the problems that ail many of our relationships. Drawing on psychologist John M. Gottman’s extensive research, its insights and tips are equally applicable to relationships between romantic partners, friends, family members, and coworkers. 

Deeper Dating (2014) is a roadmap to intimacy and loving relationships. It breaks down how looking inward can help us identify the kinds of people we’ll connect with most deeply, and shares tools for finding these people and fostering relationships that will inspire and fulfill us.

Loving Bravely (2017) is a primer on finding love through introspection and self-discovery. This guide to love teaches invaluable lessons about how to build relationships that actually last.

Wired for Love (2012) is a guide to maintaining closeness and emotional security within romantic partnerships. It uses research from neurobiology and psychology to show why long-term couples come into conflict, and it offers practical tips on how to use knowledge about brain functions to promote peace and mutual security in your relationship.

Wired for Love (2022) combines fascinating neuroscientific research with a captivating personal story to reveal some of the secrets behind that great human mystery: love. Love is often thought of as a topic best left to poets and musicians –⁠ but it can and should be studied as a legitimate scientific question. In a world that is constantly throwing up new challenges to romance, from online dating to global pandemics, an understanding of and respect for love is more important than ever before.

How to Be a 3% Man (2013) provides straightforward practice methods, tips and guidelines for meeting and dating women. It teaches you what to say to women, when to say it, and what her responses mean.

We Over Me (2023) is the story of the podcasting-and-influencing power couple Devale and Khadeen Ellis – in their own words. With trademark disarming honesty, the Ellises lay bare the struggles and successes that have shaped them as a couple, and share the strategies that allow them to thrive as a partnership. 

Polysecure (2020) unites attachment theory, which explains the different types of attachment people form with each other, with consensual nonmonogamy – the increasingly popular practice of having multiple romantic partners. By learning more about your attachment style, you can develop healthy relationship habits, even in nonmonogamy.

Letting Go (2012) offers an approach to emotional well-being based on how accumulated feelings create thought patterns, shape behaviors, and drain energy over time. Rather than fighting or analyzing difficult emotions, it outlines a gentle practice of awareness and acceptance that allows these feelings to naturally release – leading to greater vitality, clearer thinking, and more authentic living. 

The Honeymoon Effect (2023) explores the possibility of maintaining the euphoric state typically experienced during the honeymoon phase of a relationship. By delving into diverse fields such as biology, quantum physics, and psychology, it sheds light on the nature of love, the role of hormones, and the power of the subconscious mind in shaping our relationships.

Plays Well with Others (2022) debunks relationship myths and offers advice on how to form and maintain strong bonds. Improve your friendships and romantic relationships, as well as your ability to resolve conflicts, forgive others, and deal with difficult people.

Sexual Intelligence (2013) explores how beliefs, emotional awareness, and self-acceptance shape sexual satisfaction far more than physical appearance or technical skill. It challenges the idea that sex should follow a scripted formula or aim for performance-based success. Drawing on decades of real-life experience, it encourages us to embrace our own definitions of pleasure and build intimacy through authenticity, curiosity, and connection.

Beyond the Pleasure Principle (1920 marks a pivotal turn in Sigmund Freud’s theoretical approach to psychology and psychoanalysis. In this work, Freud introduces the concept of the “death drive,” a fundamental tension between the life instincts that aim for survival, sexual reproduction, and pleasure, and the death instincts, which strive towards inanimate rest and a return to a state of non-existence.

Come Together (2024) warmly and compassionately offers practical advice for improving sexual well-being, particularly in long-term relationships where one or more partners may be experiencing low libido. It explores the complexities of human sexuality with a focus on the science of sexual response and the psychology of desire. Notably, it’s highly inclusive and applicable to people in relationships regardless of gender, orientation, or relationship structure.

Love Life (2024) is a treasure trove of valuable relationship advice. By knowing what to look for in a partner, and what to say in difficult situations, we can walk away from dead-end relationships and find the person who’s right for us.

Liberated Love (2024) is a guide to ending unhealthy relationship dynamics such as codependence. By taking an intentional pause, people can create better romantic relationships and find fulfillment.

Designer Relationships (2015) explores the concept of flexible, customized partnerships that evolve beyond traditional monogamy, allowing individuals to craft relationships based on their unique needs and desires. It argues that this approach empowers people to create diverse, mutually agreed-upon relationship structures, ranging from emotional bonds without sexual involvement to various forms of nonmonogamy and kink exploration. 

The Art of Love (2 CE) is a witty and playful three-part poem that offers advice on the art of seduction, romance, and maintaining love. In the first two books, it provides guidance to men on how to win and keep a lover, while the third book turns to women, advising them on how to navigate the complexities of love. Blending humor with keen social insight, this work captures the timeless strategies, emotions, and intricacies of romantic relationships.

Anatomy of Desire (2024) reveals the science-backed principles that transform ordinary physical connections into extraordinary experiences of intimacy. Through real stories of couples facing familiar challenges, you'll discover practical ways to deepen satisfaction and unlock your natural capacity for profound connection. These proven approaches will help you create meaningful physical experiences that grow richer and more fulfilling over time, regardless of relationship length or current circumstances.

Breakup Bootcamp (2020) is a guide to recovery from heartbreak that’s both empathetic and practical. By working on your own thinking patterns, you can rewire your brain and your heart, living well no matter what.

It Begins with You (2025) outlines nine fundamental truths about building healthy relationships, centered on the core principle that meaningful connections start with self-work and personal responsibility. Providing essential insights about self-acceptance, honest communication, and authentic love, it outlines practical techniques for healing relationship patterns and creating the intimate connections we desire.

The Art of Being (1993) guides you through the path to self-awareness, cutting through the empty promises of quick-fix spirituality and consumer-driven enlightenment. Moving beyond narcissistic selfishness and material possession, you’ll discover how to achieve genuine psychological and spiritual fulfillment through meditation and self-analysis.

How to Love Better (2025) offers practical guidance for deepening compassion, fostering honesty, and nurturing stronger connections with yourself and others. It emphasizes embracing change, releasing attachment, and practicing selfless listening to build harmonious relationships that support personal growth and emotional healing.

The Power of Discord (2020) offers a significant reframing of the role discord plays in developing functional relationships. It reveals how moments of mismatch – when followed by repair – actually build trust, resilience, and deeper connection. Through groundbreaking research including the famous "Still-Face Experiment," it offers a refreshing perspective that will transform how you view conflict, showing that working through discord is not just normal but essential for creating lasting, meaningful relationships.

Love for Imperfect Things (2018) explores the transformative power of self-acceptance as the foundation for happiness and great relationships. It advocates embracing personal flaws as essential to finding inner peace and developing genuine compassion for others, offering an approach to well-being that starts with being kind to oneself first.

The Intimate Animal (2026) blends evolutionary biology, psychology, and social science to explain why humans crave deep connection and how our drives for love, sex, and intimacy shape the arc of romantic relationships. It reveals that while we’re wired for social bonds essential to survival, conflicting impulses –⁠ like the tension between social and sexual monogamy –⁠ make modern love complex. Ultimately, it offers insights into navigating attraction, commitment, heartbreak, and connection.

How to Feel Loved (2026) brings together research on happiness and close relationships to explore why feeling loved can be so elusive. It argues that the key lies not in becoming more lovable, but in shifting how you show up in conversation: revealing more of your real self, and learning to truly see the people around you. Drawing on empirical psychology and relationship science, it offers five core mindsets for building the kind of connections where you feel deeply known.

Smitten (2025) explores limerence, the intense form of romantic obsession that can feel more like addiction than love. Blending neuroscience with practical guidance, it explains why limerence takes hold, how it affects the brain, and how greater self-understanding can help you break free from unhealthy patterns and regain control over your emotional life.

Love Does is a collection of inspiring and entertaining stories that illustrate the power of love in action. Written by Bob Goff, this book challenges readers to live a life filled with whimsy, purpose, and passion. Through his own experiences and adventures, Goff encourages us to embrace a fearless approach to life and to love others wholeheartedly.

Marriage on the Rock 25th Anniversary by Jimmy Evans is a revised and updated edition of the classic book that has helped countless couples build strong and lasting marriages. With practical insights and biblical wisdom, Evans addresses common issues that can erode the foundation of a marriage and provides guidance on how to strengthen the bond between husband and wife. Whether you're newlyweds or have been married for decades, this book offers valuable tools to help you build a marriage that can withstand any storm.