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by Robin Sharma
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Corey Wayne
Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams
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How to Be a 3% Man
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Smile at everyone.
The bride’s friend you meet at a wedding. The woman taking in an art exhibit. Your friendly neighbor. Here’s the secret to approaching them, and every other woman you meet in private or public – treat them all the same.
No, that doesn’t mean you have to ask out every woman you meet, and it doesn’t mean you need to rush up, shower them with compliments, and profess your deepest feelings. In fact, it’s just the opposite. What you are going to do is read their cues, be a gentleman, and try to make them smile.
Treating every woman like this has several positive effects. First, it’s a good reminder that you should enter every relationship thinking about what you can give (in this case just a smile) and not about what you can get. Relationships are about trust and feeling comfortable, and if someone knows you want something from them it will make them uncomfortable and you will seem untrustworthy.
Second, treating all women the same prevents you from believing some of them are out of your league, which is what many men think when they meet an attractive woman. Third, and perhaps most importantly, it allows you to practice approaching women and making them comfortable enough to smile. This is the same technique you’ll use when you meet a woman you want to date, so practicing now will make you confident in the future, and confidence is key.
The secret is to take your time. Start by making eye contact with women and smiling. Women who are available, or at least willing to talk, will smile back. Women who are not available or don’t want to talk will look away or ignore you. When you’re ready, go up to one of the women who smiles at you and ask how they’re doing, or what they think of the painting you’re both looking at, or their opinion on some item in the store.
Keep in mind that this is simply a practice exercise. You should try approaching women who you don't necessarily find attractive, with the understanding that the interaction will be brief and you'll politely bid them farewell after just a few minutes. Doing this will help alleviate the fear of rejection that often prevents many men from taking the initiative.
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What is How to Be a 3% Man about?
How to Be a 3% Man (2013) provides straightforward practice methods, tips and guidelines for meeting and dating women. It teaches you what to say to women, when to say it, and what her responses mean.
Who should read How to Be a 3% Man?
- Men who have a hard time approaching women.
- Anyone looking for dating advice.
- People hoping to improve their relationship.
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