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Name: How to Be a 3% Man
Rating: 3.9 (275 reviews)
Author: Corey Wayne

Corey Wayne

Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams

3.9 (275 ratings)

16 mins

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How to Be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne is a book on understanding women and improving relationships with them. It teaches men to become confident, decisive, and assertive while maintaining respect for women.

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Dating The Psychology of Love Persuasion Body Language Love

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What’s in it for me? Meet your ideal match.

Envision your perfect romantic partner. Better still, create a list of all the qualities you desire in a partner, as well as those you don't. Narrow it down to the top 10 attributes for each category. By utilizing the insights in this blink, you can meet and date such a woman.

The author, Corey Wayne, believes only 3% of men “understand” women. He also believes that this understanding enables those men to win the hearts of their ideal partners. While this may seem somewhat misogynistic, the ideas presented in this blink are nevertheless intriguing. We’ll explore the mentality behind “pickup strategies”, how to set up a successful first date, and practical advice for sustaining a relationship. Let’s get started.

Smile at everyone.

The bride’s friend you meet at a wedding. The woman taking in an art exhibit. Your friendly neighbor. Here’s the secret to approaching them, and every other woman you meet in private or public – treat them all the same.

No, that doesn’t mean you have to ask out every woman you meet, and it doesn’t mean you need to rush up, shower them with compliments, and profess your deepest feelings. In fact, it’s just the opposite. What you are going to do is read their cues, be a gentleman, and try to make them smile.

Treating every woman like this has several positive effects. First, it’s a good reminder that you should enter every relationship thinking about what you can give (in this case just a smile) and not about what you can get. Relationships are about trust and feeling comfortable, and if someone knows you want something from them it will make them uncomfortable and you will seem untrustworthy.

Second, treating all women the same prevents you from believing some of them are out of your league, which is what many men think when they meet an attractive woman. Third, and perhaps most importantly, it allows you to practice approaching women and making them comfortable enough to smile. This is the same technique you’ll use when you meet a woman you want to date, so practicing now will make you confident in the future, and confidence is key.

The secret is to take your time. Start by making eye contact with women and smiling. Women who are available, or at least willing to talk, will smile back. Women who are not available or don’t want to talk will look away or ignore you. When you’re ready, go up to one of the women who smiles at you and ask how they’re doing, or what they think of the painting you’re both looking at, or their opinion on some item in the store.

Keep in mind that this is simply a practice exercise. You should try approaching women who you don't necessarily find attractive, with the understanding that the interaction will be brief and you'll politely bid them farewell after just a few minutes. Doing this will help alleviate the fear of rejection that often prevents many men from taking the initiative.

Don’t waste your time with Zoe.

Your friend, Frank, is smitten. He met a gorgeous girl named Zoe at a bar. After buying her drinks all night and multiple tries at her phone number, Frank finally got it. After a few days, she got back to him and though she altered their plans a few times, she eventually went out on a date with him. When their date ended, they didn't even hold hands or share a goodnight kiss. And to top it off, she's now only responding to a portion of his calls and texts. Still, Frank is convinced she’s the one. He’s sure if he tries hard enough, she’ll fall for him.

Most of us know someone like Frank. Maybe it’s you. Frank is breaking a key rule when it comes to romantic endeavors: Don’t waste your time with women who aren’t attracted to you. Had Frank possessed a deeper understanding of women, he would have been able to pick up on all the signals that Zoe was sending him which indicated that she wasn't genuinely attracted to him – not giving her number right away, changing plans, no physical contact, or not replying to his calls.

First impressions.

Discovering the ideal woman for you, and cultivating a joyful and affectionate relationship is more of an art than a science. You have to read subtle changes in situations and feelings – and then adapt on the fly. That being said, there are some specific hints and guidelines that you can use for opening lines, initial small talk, and asking for her phone number.

We’ll start, naturally, with the opening line. You should approach that attractive woman with confidence because you’ve practiced. You’ll be comfortable because you know there are plenty of fish in the sea. Simply say, "Hi. What's your name?" without offering your own name right away. If she responds with her name, say, "Okay, Anne, it's nice to meet you," without offering your own name. However, if she expresses further interest by asking for your name, then you know there's some level of attraction there. On the other hand, if she responds with a simple "Thanks" or "Nice to meet you, too," it's likely that she's not interested, and you should move on. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea!

When to call.

In the classic 1996 movie "Swingers," there's an iconic scene where Mike (played by Jon Favreau) calls a woman he met earlier that night and proceeds to leave multiple messages on her answering machine. Unfortunately, he ends up making a fool of himself and unbeknownst to him, the woman had been listening to all of it. Eventually, she picks up the phone and tells him to never call her again.

Now that you have her number, don’t be like Mike. When do you call? The answer is simple: wait for three days. So, if you met her on Friday, call her on Tuesday. This strategy helps create a sense of mystery, assures her that you're not overly needy, and gives the impression that you're a busy and in-demand individual - all pluses when it comes to attracting a potential romantic partner.

First dates.

James is a hopeless romantic who envisions taking women on extravagant dates, lavishing them with compliments, and impressing them with his numerous accomplishments. Unfortunately, he's still young and just beginning his career, which means that he doesn't have the financial means to do all that he dreams of. He assumes that his dates will be a complete failure due to his limited resources, but he couldn't be more mistaken.

First dates shouldn’t be lavish. Spending too much money or being too complimentary might come off as desperate, or even as a bribe for sex. Engaging in approval-seeking behaviors such as boasting about your income or vacations can make you appear needy.

Final Summary

It's important to treat all women the same way by being a gentleman, reading their cues, and making them smile. This will help build trust and confidence in yourself. Next, don't waste your time pursuing women who aren't interested in you, as it won't lead to a happy relationship. Instead, approach women at private events or in public places with a light-hearted conversation and positive attitude. Once you've exchanged numbers, wait three days before calling and keep the conversation short and friendly. Finally, for first dates, keep things light and positive by asking questions and engaging in activities that allow for conversation and physical contact. Remember, each woman you meet teaches you something about the right match for you, so don't be discouraged if things don't work out.

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What is How to Be a 3% Man about?

How to Be a 3% Man (2013) provides straightforward practice methods, tips and guidelines for meeting and dating women. It teaches you what to say to women, when to say it, and what her responses mean.

How to Be a 3% Man Review

How to Be a 3% Man (2011) is a guidebook for men seeking to improve their dating and relationship skills. Here's why this book is worth a read:

Packed with practical techniques and strategies, it provides readers with actionable advice to attract and keep the partner they desire.
Combining personal experiences and real-life examples, the book offers relatable insights into the dynamics of dating and relationships, making it engaging and relatable.
Through its straightforward approach and emphasis on self-improvement, the book offers a refreshing perspective on how to navigate the world of dating without becoming boring or monotonous.

Who should read How to Be a 3% Man?

Men who have a hard time approaching women.
Anyone looking for dating advice.
People hoping to improve their relationship.

About the Author

Corey Wayne is a Life and Peak Performance coach and author. His other books include Mastering Yourself: How to Align Your Life with Your True Calling and Reach Your Full Potential and Quotes, Ruminations & Contemplations: Volume 1.

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