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Eli Rallo

The New Rules for Flirting, Feeling, and Finding Yourself

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    Falling in love with yourself

    It’s no secret that modern dating is harrrrrrrrrd. 

    And no wonder! Every rom-com and Taylor Swift song has told you that finding “the one” is the meaning of life. So being single in your twenties can feel like failing at being an adult. The nonstop dating and swiping can be equally exhausting – not to mention ghosting and late night “u up?” texts from your ex. 

    But what if singledom isn’t just the annoying waiting room before real life starts? What if learning to crush on yourself is the actual goal? 

    Author and TikTok star Eli Rallo used to obsess over guys who didn’t text back because it was easier than obsessing over her own insecurities. She needed external validation like oxygen. Until, one day, she had an epiphany: Even she didn’t like hanging out with herself. So how could she expect anyone else to?

    That was a wake-up call. She decided to take a break from guys and get to know herself. No more casual flings or situationships. She was ready to fall in love… with herself. 

    Before you think about giving your heart to someone else, work that muscle on yourself! 

    Learn to spend time with yourself, find out what makes you tick, and pamper yourself on solo dates. Make a girl boss vision board. Cut out magazine clippings that represent adventures you crave and places that fuel your soul. Whether it’s hiking up Machu Picchu or getting ripped at the gym, this is about discovering what sets your heart on fire. 

    Next, Marie Kondo your friend group. Toxic parties and gossip sessions get old. Cultivate connections that leave you feeling inspired, not drained. Schedule weekly girlfriend dates as sacred self-care. 

    When you know what you like and surround yourself with people you love, you’ll stop pursuing guys like it’s a job. You’ll wear that crop top you feel foxy in just for fun. You’ll learn to flirt for the thrill of it – without expectations. And you’ll stop needlessly obsessing over people after the first date. 

    Eventually self-love will become a habit, and you’ll radiate a magnetic confidence. So when you do find someone special, they’ll simply add to your already kick-ass life – not complete it.

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    What is I Didn't Know I Needed This about?

    I Didn't Know I Needed This (2023) is the ultimate guide to modern dating’s natural lifecycle, from flirting to first dates to relationships to heartbreak. Drawing on TikTok star Eli Rallo's own hard-won experience, this rulebook combines shallow delights and hard truths into her signature brand of romantic realism. 

    I Didn't Know I Needed This Review

    I Didn't Know I Needed This (2021) is a fascinating book that uncovers unexpected and valuable insights into everyday life. Here's why this book is definitely worth reading:

    • It offers a fresh perspective on various topics, challenging our preconceived notions and encouraging us to see things differently.
    • With its wide range of subjects - from productivity hacks to relationship advice - it provides something of interest for everyone, keeping readers engaged and intrigued.
    • The book's humorous and relatable anecdotes add a touch of delight, making it both entertaining and thought-provoking.

    Who should read I Didn't Know I Needed This?

    • Young women navigating the modern dating world
    • Fans of Eli Rallo's TikTok and Instagram accounts 
    • Readers seeking wisdom and humor around romance, heartbreak, and self-care

    About the Author

    Eli Rallo is a content creator and author who went viral on TikTok in 2020. Originally from New Jersey, Rallo has a master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University. Her podcast Miss Congeniality deals with themes of pop culture, lifestyle, and mental health. I Didn't Know I Needed This is her first book.

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    Eli Rallo is the author of I Didn't Know I Needed This.

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    I Didn't Know I Needed This contains 200 pages.

    When was I Didn't Know I Needed This published?

    I Didn't Know I Needed This was published in 2021.

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