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Jeff Guenther, Kate Happ
How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self
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Big Dating Energy offers insights and practical advice for navigating modern dating. Authors Jeff Guenther and Kate Happ explore the importance of self-awareness, communication, and confidence in fostering genuine and successful romantic connections.
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Get real
Dating, especially in today’s world, can be a wild ride. With the epidemic of ghosting and the constant juggling of dating apps, it might feel like a full-time job. Plus, let’s not forget the post-pandemic stress and the looming climate crisis that makes everything a bit more unstable. But here's the thing: dating is also a gift. Every time you put yourself out there, you open the door to growth and the chance for a real connection. Whether you meet the love of your life or walk away with a cringe-worthy first date story, it’s a win-win.
To really tap into the amazing opportunities dating offers, you need to pause and shift the focus inward. Instead of obsessing over potential partners, ask yourself: “What do I truly want?”
Tapping into your Big Dating Energy isn’t about morphing into someone else's idea of a perfect partner. It’s about embracing who you are and what you want from a relationship.
Start with some self-reflection to ground yourself in authenticity.
Make a list of your defense mechanisms. Do you get passive-aggressive, intellectualize your feelings, minimize your needs, or act out in relationships? Recognize these patterns and understand how they manifest when you're with someone.
Next, dig deeper into the fears driving these defenses. Do you act out because you're afraid of abandonment or rejection?
Now, think about your ideal partner. How would you like them to respond to your defenses and fears? Maybe you need someone who can handle your big emotions and won’t ghost you for three days after you express your feelings.
Let’s get positive: what are some non-negotiable traits you want in a partner? Maybe it’s kindness, generosity, a community spirit, or shared core values.
Lastly, identify your deal breakers. Maybe it’s someone who doesn’t get along with your friends or has opposing political beliefs.
Now you have a clear snapshot of your defenses and fears, the emotional support you’re seeking, and a list of non-negotiables, both positive and negative. With this clarity, you're ready to embrace your Big Dating Energy and navigate the dating world with confidence and authenticity.
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What is Big Dating Energy about?
Big Dating Energy (2024) transforms dating into a journey of self-discovery and joy. It equips you with the tools and mindset to navigate everything from first dates to recognizing red flags, creating ideal partner checklists, and knowing when and how to end things. With charm and easy-to-follow advice, it helps you not only succeed at dating but also enjoy the process and learn more about yourself along the way.
Who should read Big Dating Energy?
- Singles tired of disappointing dates
- People in the tricky should-we-commit? phase of dating
- Anyone tired of approaching dating and romance from a place of insecurity
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