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The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
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'Love Sense' by Sue Johnson is a guide to understanding and improving romantic relationships. Drawing on scientific research and her own experience as a therapist, Johnson offers practical advice for developing deeper connections and resolving conflicts with your partner.
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Love, though hard to define, is an essential part of human experience.
Have you ever been in love?
If you have, then you know how it is: Love is a powerful force that captures us, overwhelms us. It can make us feel weak and giddy, light and elated, or even trapped and desperate.
As humans, we all yearn for this thing called love – but we don’t really understand it. Love is a beautiful riddle that no one has ever been able to figure out.
Here’s the key message: Love, though hard to define, is an essential part of human experience.
Throughout the ages, people have struggled to define love. The Greeks, for instance, identified four kinds of love. One of these was eros – the name given to passionate, or sensual, love. However, the Greeks could never quite decide whether this involved sexual desire or not.
Countless poets have made love their theme. Shakespeare, for instance, dramatized star-crossed love in Romeo and Juliet – a play about two lovers who are thwarted by their warring families.
Then there’s the view of evolutionary biologists who argue that love is simply nature’s way of encouraging reproduction.
Love may always elude precise definition – and this can be frustrating for those of us trying to find love, or to keep it. One thing we do know for certain is that, for the first time in history, love is now the primary reason people get together in the first place.
Let’s explain. In Shakespeare’s day, romantic love wasn’t necessarily considered an essential part of life. If anything, it was regarded as a luxury. Back in the sixteenth century, most people were focused on the struggle to survive; they tied themselves to their families and their communities to ensure they had food, shelter, and protection.
Even marriage was all about survival. For most people, it was a means of building a family that could help with tending the land and running the farm. More affluent individuals married to increase their power and wealth, and to produce heirs that could inherit titles and estates.
In the West, these ideas have changed dramatically over the last few centuries. In the 1990s, as vast numbers of women entered the workforce and became financially independent, marriage ceased to be regarded as necessary for survival. Today, marrying for love is the norm.
As sociologist Anthony Giddens puts it, Westerners began regarding love not as an economic enterprise, but as an “emotional enterprise.”
Today, the relationships we have with our lovers are arguably the most important relationships in our lives. That’s why it’s crucial for us to understand how love works. We’ll take a look at this in the following blinks.
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What is Love Sense about?
Love Sense (2013) is an exploration of the science of love. These blinks suggest that humans instinctively desire to connect with each other, and that relationship problems arise when lovers no longer feel secure. They also offer practical strategies for how to develop your love sense – that is, your ability to create fulfilling and long-lasting bonds with your loved ones.
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Love Sense (2013) by Sue Johnson is a thoughtful exploration of the science behind love and relationships, providing valuable insights for anyone seeking to improve their connection with their partner. Here's why this book is worth reading:
- It offers an in-depth understanding of the dynamics of love and attachment, helping readers navigate the complexities of their relationships.
- With compelling case studies and relatable stories, the book brings the science of love to life, making it an engaging and informative read.
- The book goes beyond traditional relationship advice, providing practical strategies based on attachment theory that can be applied to strengthen emotional bonds.
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A stable loving relationship is the cornerstone of human happiness and general well-being.
—Sue Johnson
Who should read Love Sense?
- People aspiring to form long-lasting relationships
- Those who have been in and out of fleeting romances
- Lovers struggling with relationship difficulties
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What is the main message of Love Sense?
The main message of Love Sense is that love is a science, and understanding the science of love can transform relationships.
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Is Love Sense a good book? Is it worth reading?
Love Sense is worth reading as it provides insights into the science of love, helping improve relationships. A valuable read in 130 characters.
Who is the author of Love Sense?
Sue Johnson is the author of Love Sense.
What to read after Love Sense?
If you're wondering what to read next after Love Sense, here are some recommendations we suggest:
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- Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
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- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
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