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No-Drama Discipline

The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

By Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
13-minute read
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No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

No-Drama Discipline (2014) provides a fresh approach to disciplining children by emphasizing the importance of teaching over punishment. Based on neuroscience, this method reduces drama and guides parents on how to build a deeper relationship with their children.

  • Parents who are tired of yelling at their misbehaving kids
  • Therapists, educators, counselors or coaches working with children
  • People interested in mind development

Daniel J. Siegel works at the UCLA School of Medicine as a psychiatrist and is the founder of the Mindful Awareness Research Center.

Tina Payne Bryson is a social worker specializing in adolescent and pediatric psychotherapy. She’s also the founder of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California.

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No-Drama Discipline

The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

By Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
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No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
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No-Drama Discipline (2014) provides a fresh approach to disciplining children by emphasizing the importance of teaching over punishment. Based on neuroscience, this method reduces drama and guides parents on how to build a deeper relationship with their children.

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Discipline should be a lesson to learn from rather than a form of punishment.

Think back to the last time you disciplined your child for misbehaving. What did you do? Perhaps you lectured them, yelled at them or put them in time-out?

But have you really thought about what you’re doing when disciplining a child?

Conventional discipline uses a standard approach of punishment and fear instead of focusing on the development of the child.

To explore this further, let’s take a look at time-outs: this method is used by even the most loving parents, who expect the child to utilize the time-out to reflect on their misbehavior. But that rarely happens. Instead, children usually spend the time reflecting on how mean their parents are, which tends to escalate the situation.

Another traditional form of discipline is spanking. When spanked, children become more fearful of their parent’s actions, rather than focusing on their own behavior – thus making this physical punishment counterproductive.

Time-outs and spanking are applied to misbehaving children regardless of the situation, but inducing fear and resentment isn’t helpful to either the parents or the kids. What if we change our thinking and approach discipline as an opportunity to learn valuable lessons?

To do so, discipline needs to emphasize teaching over punishment in a manner that’s both more intentional and flexible.

Discipline should be proactive instead of reactive – that’s the notion behind no-drama discipline. The short-term goal is getting your child to cooperate with you, while the long-term goal is helping them to improve their behaviors and relationship skills. For this to work, we need to connect and redirect, which refers to the connection you must build with your child prior to redirecting them toward good behavior.

As a bonus, if we look at misdemeanors as an opportunity to teach important lessons, then gradually, you won’t have to discipline your child as much.

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