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Raising Self-Assured Children and Training Their Brains for a Life of Happiness, Meaning, and Success
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"13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do" by Amy Morin is a guide for parents to help them avoid common mistakes that can harm their children's mental strength. It offers practical tips to help parents raise resilient and mentally strong kids.
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Mentally strong parents promote responsibility and perseverance over a victim mentality.
Everywhere you look, there’s advice about helping your child stay physically fit. But what about other important kinds of fitness, like mental or emotional well-being? There’s little in life that benefits a person as much as learning to be mentally strong. A mentally strong child is more likely to turn setbacks into opportunities and face hardship without feeling sorry for himself.
So what’s the best way to raise a mentally strong child? By practicing good, healthy habits yourself – which makes you capable of passing them on to your child.
For example, it’s natural to want to defend your child when they’ve been wronged. The age of social media has led many parents to encourage feelings of victimhood in response to every slight. Mentally strong parents refuse to do this. You want your child to be empowered to handle life’s challenges rather than always seeing himself as the victim of circumstance.
Take the example of Cody, a 14-year-old who was prescribed ADHD medication. His teachers reported that he was calmer and more attentive as a result, but his grades didn’t improve. His parents’ response? To demand that he be assigned less work than his peers.
Cody’s workload wasn’t the problem, however. He had developed what researchers call learned helplessness – he believed that his ADHD made him fundamentally incapable, and his parents had reinforced this idea. Once they started treating him like he was equipped to handle his responsibilities, he began to put in effort, and his grades soon turned around.
Mentally strong parents don’t let their children avoid responsibility, either. Instead of letting your child blame others for his problems, hold him accountable and let him face the consequences of his actions. If you don’t, how is he supposed to learn to cope with the inevitable injustices he’ll face in life?
You can also help your child at home. Assign him household responsibilities, for one – research shows that kids who have to do chores from an early age become more successful, empathetic, and self-reliant adults. Let him handle problems by himself, too. According to sociologist Steven Horwitz, children need to practice resolving conflict on their own during unstructured playtime. If they always rely on adults to intervene, they’re more likely to blame others.
Finally, teach your child to choose true thoughts over BLUE ones. BLUE thoughts are ones in which you Blame everyone else, Look for the bad news, fall prey to Unhappy guessing (that is, assuming the worst), and are Exaggeratedly negative. True thoughts, on the other hand, involve accepting responsibility, pointing out the good, taking action, and looking for exceptions.
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13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don’t Do (2017) teaches parents how not to hold kids back from reaching their true behavioral, emotional, and academic potential. Many of today’s parenting practices don’t prepare children for adulthood – but these blinks demonstrate how to raise children to have the mental strength necessary to handle our increasingly complicated world.
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13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do (2017) is an insightful guide that helps parents cultivate mental strength in themselves and their children. Here are three reasons why this book is worth reading:
- It provides practical strategies for parents to foster resilience and emotional well-being in their children, equipping them for life's challenges.
- The book offers real-life examples and relatable stories that illustrate the principles, making it a valuable resource for parents seeking guidance in their parenting journey.
- With its actionable advice, the book empowers parents to develop healthy habits and create a positive family environment, ensuring their children's mental and emotional growth.
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You have to let your child experience some pain in life if you want him to become a truly happy person.
—Amy Morin
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- New parents who want to empower their kids from the get-go
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