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Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard
Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers
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Increase your desire by having better sex.
One of the most common reasons people visit sex therapists is to deal with low levels of sexual desire. That’s no surprise: whether it comes as a sudden change, has gradually declined over the years, or has always been an issue, low sexual desire is a thorny problem – especially when it comes to maintaining long-term relationships.
But low desire isn’t always baffling. Sometimes not wanting much sex can actually make sense. Think about it this way: if you lived someplace where the weather was always cold and dreary, you probably wouldn’t fancy going to the beach very often.
In the same way, if the only sex you’re having is boring or unpleasant, having low sexual desire makes a lot of sense.
The key message here is: Increase your desire by having better sex.
It stands to reason that if bad sex can lower sexual desire, then better sex might just raise it.
On the face of it, this seems pretty obvious – but it often strikes people as a revelation. What if a person’s lack of desire isn’t some kind of internal, psychological issue after all? What if the thing that needs attention is the kind of sex that’s on offer?
That’s what the authors discovered. And this new approach means that therapists and patients need to change their focus. Instead of fixating on how often sex occurs, they need to pay attention to how it feels when it happens. In other words, instead of focusing on quantity, they need to look at sexual quality.
This change in focus is liberating. Rather than making lovers feel like there’s something wrong with them, it empowers them to feel like they have solid judgment. After all, what sane person wants undesirable sex?
From here, the path forward is clear. To boost desire, the sex itself needs to improve – and who better to help with that than extraordinary lovers?
In the blinks to come, we’ll draw on the insights of people who have remarkable sex – and learn in detail how to cultivate a sex life worth desiring.
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What is Magnificent Sex about?
Magnificent Sex (2020) is a guide to having outstanding sex, time after time. Rather than focusing on specific sexual techniques, it draws on interviews with extraordinary lovers to dive into the qualities and characteristics that make magnificent sex possible.
Who should read Magnificent Sex?
- Anyone who wants to become extraordinary in bed
- Long-term partners trying to regain their sexual momentum
- Older lovers wondering if aging and sex are incompatible
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