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Leil Lowndes

Finding Friends – and Lovers – and Keeping Them for Life

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How to Be a People Magnet by Leil Lowndes is a guide that equips readers with practical tips and techniques to enhance their social skills and become more charismatic individuals, capable of attracting and connecting with people.

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    Qualities of magnetic people

    You know the ones: they walk into a room and all eyes turn their way. Or at work, they enter a business negotiation and people immediately perceive their clout. Their charm seems supernatural, their confidence unattainable. But what they possess is, in fact, a very attainable skill. It’s not about wealth, intellect, or exceptional looks. With the right tools, anyone can develop that mysterious magnetism.

    But first, ask yourself: what counts as magnetism? In business, we talk about great communication. Regarding friendship, we talk about social skills. And when it comes to the heart, we talk about romantic allure and charm. Though we tend to silo these abilities into separate categories, they all stem from a common source – the ability to make people feel good around you.

    Magnetic people exude positivity and give those around them their full attention. They balance talking about themselves with showing interest in the lives of others. And they reveal vulnerability and share personal details while also maintaining healthy boundaries.

    But whether you’re seeking to accelerate your career, expand your social circle, or find lasting love, the first step is always the same. It’s overcoming the fear of judgment and rejection that’s holding you back.

    Self-doubt manifests as hesitation, anxiety, and second-guessing – otherwise known as fear, uncertainty, and doubt. These worries put a damper on making a dynamic first impression. But, fortunately, with some practice, you can learn to override negative self-talk and approach new encounters with optimism. In short, when you’re confident, your natural magnetism begins to shine through.

    From there, the rewards you can reap for boosting your personal magnetism are tremendous. Imagine feeling at ease striking up conversations with strangers. Consider what personal, professional, and romantic doors this could open up for you.

    So, let’s look at a highly effective way to practice overriding your self-doubt, so you can exude natural magnetism in one of the most difficult scenarios – talking to strangers.

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    What is How to Be a People Magnet about?

    How to Be a People Magnet (2001) offers specific techniques for attracting friendships and romantic partners by overcoming social anxieties. Though ostensibly focused on the socially awkward, it will resonate with even the most confident extrovert who is seeking stronger connections with those around them.

    Who should read How to Be a People Magnet?

    • Those looking to overcome shyness and social anxiety
    • People hoping to improve their friendships and relationships
    • Individuals wanting to become more likable and magnetic

    About the Author

    Leil Lowndes is an internationally renowned communications expert and author of several best-selling books, including How to Talk to Anyone and How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.

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