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Robert A. Glover

A Proven Plan for Getting what You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

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No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover is a self-help book that helps men break free from the 'nice guy' syndrome and embrace their true selves for a more fulfilling life.
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    What’s a Nice Guy and am I one, too?

    Nice Guys are everywhere. If you’re listening to/reading this, chances are that you think you’re one too.

    Typical traits of Nice Guys include letting their partners manage everything, doing anything for anyone, avoiding conflict, telling people who work for them exactly what they want to hear, avoiding rocking the boat and as a consequence getting walked over, never saying no, being dependable and reliable, suppressing their feelings … the list goes on and on, but you get the picture.

    Okay, so many men have one or two of these traits, but Nice Guys? Well, they seem to have a considerable number. But is that such a bad thing?

    Actually, yes. You see, calling these men “Nice Guys” is a bit of a misnomer. They can be anything but nice.

    To achieve what they want, Nice Guys can be dishonest, secretive, manipulative, and controlling. Sometimes, they might appear to be generous, but in reality, they never give if they don’t also expect to get. They crave appreciation or some other reciprocation in return. What’s more, Nice Guys can become passive-aggressive in their behavior, venting their frustration and resentment. And in addition to all of that, they also find it difficult to set boundaries.

    But here’s something we really should make clear before we go much further: recovery from what Glover terms Nice Guy Syndrome is absolutely not about becoming the complete opposite. It’s not about not being nice anymore, it’s about becoming “integrated.”

    That means accepting yourself as you are – your uniqueness, assertiveness, courage, passion, imperfections, and mistakes. It means taking responsibility for your own needs, being comfortable with your masculinity, expressing your feelings, setting those all-important boundaries, and working through conflict. Put simply, It means accepting your perfect imperfection.

    If you’re serious about breaking free from Nice Guy syndrome, you need to find safe people who’ll help you – a therapist, therapy group, religious leader, or a close friend. Glover also says that since most Nice Guys are seeking the approval of women, to be truly effective, you should start your recovery with other men, not women.

    So before we turn to how to recover from Nice Guy syndrome, in the next section, we’ll quickly cover how you became a Nice Guy in the first place.

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    What is No More Mr. Nice Guy! about?

    No More Mr. Nice Guy (2000) is the Nice Guy’s guide to recovery. Learn how to stop seeking the approval of others, live your life the way you want to, and ultimately get the love, life, and sex that you crave but that your Nice Guy Syndrome actually stops you from achieving.

    No More Mr. Nice Guy! Review

    No More Mr Nice Guy (2003) by Robert A. Glover offers valuable insights for men who want to break free from the 'nice guy' mold. Here's why this book is a must-read:

    • It provides practical strategies for men to overcome limiting beliefs and behaviors.
       
    • The book helps men embrace their true selves and improve their relationships.
       
    • It offers a fresh perspective on masculinity, challenging societal norms and expectations.

    Unlock your potential and transform your life by reading No More Mr Nice Guy today.

    Who should read No More Mr. Nice Guy!?

    • Men who want to take control of their lives
    • Men who want to find love – and with it, good sex
    • Women who want to help their Nice Guy become the man they really want

    About the Author

    Dr. Robert Glover has helped change the lives of both men and women around the globe. He’s a renowned authority on Nice Guy Syndrome and the author of Dating Essentials for Men. He’s also the director of TPI University and a licensed marriage and family therapist.

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    No More Mr. Nice Guy! FAQs 

    What is the main message of No More Mr Nice Guy?

    The main message of No More Mr Nice Guy is to help men overcome the 'nice guy' syndrome and embrace their true selves for a more fulfilling life.

    How long does it take to read No More Mr Nice Guy?

    The estimated reading time for No More Mr Nice Guy is a few hours. The Blinkist summary can be read in just 15 minutes.

    Is No More Mr Nice Guy a good book? Is it worth reading?

    No More Mr Nice Guy is a great read for men who want to break free from limiting beliefs and behaviors and embrace their true selves.

    Who is the author of No More Mr Nice Guy?

    The author of No More Mr Nice Guy is Robert A. Glover.

    How many chapters are in No More Mr Nice Guy?

    There are 9 chapters in No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover. The chapters are as follows:

    1. The Nice Guy Syndrome
    2. The Making of a Nice Guy
    3. Learn to Please Yourself
    4. Make Your Needs a Priority
    5. Reclaim Your Personal Power
    6. Reclaim Your Masculinity
    7. Get the Love You Want
    8. Get the Sex You Want
    9. Live the Life You Want

    How many pages are in No More Mr Nice Guy?

    There are 208 pages in No More Mr Nice Guy.

    When was No More Mr Nice Guy published?

    No More Mr Nice Guy was published in 2003.

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