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Susan J. Elliott

How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

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'Getting Past Your Breakup' by Susan J. Elliott is a self-help book that guides readers through the process of healing after a breakup. It offers practical advice and tools to help readers move on and build a happy life after heartbreak.

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    In order to grow after a breakup, make sure you take care of yourself and grieve.

    Think back to your first breakup. It was most likely a tortuous, heart-wrenching experience, right? But fear not – breakups can actually bring some positive things with them.

    All in all, going through a breakup can be the perfect opportunity for personal growth. To achieve this, you have to look after yourself and properly mourn your old relationship.

    When it comes to addressing a breakup, there are three distinct ways to handle it. First, there’s the option of investing a lot of emotional energy into trying to win your ex back. Second, there’s simply pretending that nothing’s happened by continuing with your life as normal. Third, there’s taking the time to reflect on your past relationship and your life in general to deal with your emotions so that you can fully heal. The best solution is the last one, but it’s by far the hardest. Here are some initial guiding principles to get you started.

    From the very beginning, you need to put yourself first. This can prove difficult, especially if you’re used to catering to your partner’s needs. The trick is to treat yourself lovingly; boost your self-esteem by getting a new haircut or an expensive manicure. You could also take on a new hobby or work on expanding your circle of friends.

    Most importantly, don’t try to block out the pain by engaging in behaviors like drug taking or substituting your ex with someone new. Instead, stay in touch with your emotions and work to process through them. Dealing with your feelings in this way will lead to you becoming a stronger person; you’ll trust in your ability to overcome pain and look after yourself.

    Next, you’ll learn more about the process of self-care and how to properly grieve – it all begins with putting an end to that toxic relationship.

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    What is Getting Past Your Breakup about?

    Getting Past Your Breakup (2009) provides practical advice for coming to terms with the end of a romantic relationship. It emphasizes the importance of self-care and generating happiness for yourself so you can thrive in life – with or without a significant other.

    Getting Past Your Breakup Review

    Getting Past Your Breakup (2009) is a helpful guide for anyone looking to heal and move on from a painful breakup. Here's why this book is definitely worth reading:

    • It offers practical strategies to navigate the complex emotions that come with a breakup, ultimately helping readers to heal and grow.
    • With its personal stories and relatable examples, the book provides a sense of understanding and reassurance that readers are not alone.
    • Written with empathy and warmth, it offers support and guidance, making the process of healing from a breakup feel less daunting and more manageable.

    Who should read Getting Past Your Breakup?

    • People who are newly single
    • Couples who are unhappy in their relationship
    • Budding relationship psychologists and counselors

    About the Author

    Susan J. Elliott is a New York-based attorney and grief counselor. She’s reached millions with her seminars and runs a highly popular blog entitled Getting Past Your Past.

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