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Nicholas Boothman

Make Instant, Meaningful Connections for Interviewing, Selling, Managing, Pitching

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How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less by Nicholas Boothman is a self-help book that teaches techniques to quickly develop connections with people through body language, tone of voice, and conversation skills. It offers practical tips for building relationships with anyone in any situation.

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    Bonding with others will make you healthier and more successful.

    Ever since first cohabitating on the plains of Africa, we Homo sapiens have understood the benefits of living in communities. Back then, early humans would come together to hunt and cook; they knew that, as a group, they stood a much better chance of surviving than they would if each individual had to fend for him- or herself.

    This profound desire to connect and bond with others is still with us.

    Whether it’s at cocktail parties, town-hall meetings or Star Trek conventions, we simply love the chance to meet and be around others. It’s a universal human trait. And, in addition to being written into our very nature, bonding with people is actually incredibly beneficial to our health and well-being.

    Those of us who are good at connecting with others stand a better chance of living a long life. One study by Dr. Lisa Berkman of the Harvard School of Health Sciences observed a group of 7,000 people over nine years. Her results showed that those who lacked quality social or community connections were three times more likely to die of a medical illness than those who had strong social ties.

    But a longer lifespan isn’t the only benefit of continuously making new friends. It’s also essential for success.

    Whatever we dream of in life, whether it’s a great job, a new partner or a ticket for that sold-out Broadway show, you’ll stand a much better chance of finding it if you have a wide social network to help you. You’ll hear about job openings from former colleagues; friends will set you up on blind dates; and, who knows, an acquaintance may well be selling exactly the ticket you’re looking to buy.

    Okay, so the benefits of bonding are clear. But that doesn’t mean connecting with others is easy.  In fact, it can be pretty hard to connect with new people, especially if you don’t have any shared interests. What’s more, whenever you meet someone, you only have around 90 seconds to make an impression. If you don’t spark the person’s interest in that time, it’s highly probable that you’ll never spark it.

    Luckily, it’s possible to kindle connection in under 90 seconds. In the following blinks, you’ll learn the essential skills and hacks that will enable you to do this.

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    What is How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less about?

    How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less (2000) is a guide to connecting, communicating and expanding your social world. These blinks will teach you how to strike up a conversation with strangers and make them like you. It’ll also show you how to decode even their most subtle gestures.

    Being likable is an art you can ace.

    How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less Review

    How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less (2000) is a book that provides practical techniques for building instant rapport and making a positive first impression. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • Full of useful strategies and techniques, it offers readers effective ways to connect with others and build lasting relationships.
    • By combining real-life examples and practical exercises, the book provides a hands-on approach that helps readers apply the principles in their everyday lives.
    • With its engaging anecdotes and insightful advice, the book keeps readers entertained and motivated, ensuring it is far from boring.

    Best quote from How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less

    All relationships are built on trust. Trust is built on congruence.

    —Nicholas Boothman
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    Who should read How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less?

    • Salespeople who want to improve their interpersonal skills
    • Anyone who wants to meet new people but doesn’t know where to begin
    • People looking to expand their circle of friends

    About the Author

    Nicholas Boothman is a former fashion and advertising photographer who has spent the last two decades studying how people connect and communicate. He is an expert in neuro-linguistic programming.

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