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David J. Lieberman

Find Out What People Really Think, What They Really Want, and Who They Really Are

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Mindreader by David J. Lieberman is a psychology book that delves into the art of reading people’s minds. It provides insights and strategies to help read people’s nonverbal cues, random details, and body language.

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    Anxiety makes us fixate on ourselves.

    If we want to understand what’s going on with other people, it’s easiest to start by looking at ourselves.

    First, imagine how you feel when you’re in the zone. Like, deep into your treadmill workout or effortlessly driving a car. You’re moving without thinking, you’re alternating between the brake and the gas, you’re changing lanes automatically.

    Now, imagine carrying a hot cup of coffee across the room, one that’s filled to the brim.

    Why do you feel so different in each situation?

    When in that second situation, your ego is anxious that the hot coffee might spill and burn your hand. So it makes your perspective zero in on that coffee. The anxiety of being under threat means you fixate on yourself.

    The same thing happens when you have to drive through a snowstorm or make witty chitchat at a cool party. Suddenly, all those moves you would normally do without thinking become conscious and calculated – you find yourself tightly gripping the wheel . . . or your drink. Simply put, when the stakes are higher psychologically, your anxiety goes up and your perspective narrows.

    Anxiety forces you to fixate on yourself; it limits your ability to process what’s going on around you. Have you ever blanked out during a crucial exam or choked during an important interview? In these cases, something that you’ve always done automatically suddenly stops working. You’re too conscious and your cognitive timing is off. That’s anxiety in action.

    Anxiety also expresses itself verbally through the use of qualifiers, like “I think” or “I guess.” When using such qualifiers, we end up softening the conviction of what we’re saying.

    While all of the above are examples of situational anxiety, they do hint at generally low self-esteem. That’s because when we have low self-esteem, the more stressed out and fearful we tend to become. Let’s look more at low self-esteem in the next section.

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    What is Mindreader about?

    Mindreader (2022) explains how to read and understand people. Written by an FBI instructor and lie-detection expert, it delves deep into how to understand situational subtext, interpret language, and determine whether a person is being honest.

    Mindreader Review

    Mindreader (2010) by David J. Lieberman is a fascinating exploration of human behavior and the power of intuition. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • By delving into the complexity of the human mind, the book offers practical techniques to improve our intuitive abilities and make better decisions.
    • Through a blend of research, case studies, and personal anecdotes, Lieberman sheds light on the inner workings of the mind, making the content relatable and captivating.
    • The book's practical exercises and strategies empower readers to tap into their own intuitive powers, making the reading experience highly engaging and far from boring.

    Who should read Mindreader?

    • Mixed signal receivers – at work or while dating
    • Those who have trouble reading others
    • Negotiators who want to up their game

    About the Author

    David J. Lieberman is a psychotherapist. He’s written several New York Times best sellers; provided training to the CIA, FBI, and NSA; and teaches everyone from government negotiators to Fortune 100 executives.

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    The main message of Mindreader is that understanding human behavior and psychology can help us navigate social and professional situations more effectively.

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    Mindreader is worth reading as it provides insights into human behavior and practical strategies for better communication and influence.

    Who is the author of Mindreader?

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