How to Reclaim Your Power from Narcissists and Other Manipulators
The Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Dealing with Toxic People by Shahida Arabi offers practical advice for navigating and protecting oneself from toxic individuals. It provides valuable strategies for setting boundaries and maintaining emotional well-being.
You’ve probably heard of narcissists and psychopaths. They crop up in TV shows and movies, often as charismatic serial killers. But just like any aspect of human nature, not all toxic people are charming murderers. There’s a spectrum of toxicity that ranges from the garden-variety narcissist with no self-awareness to sociopaths who intentionally manipulate others for their own gratification.
Regardless of where someone sits on the toxicity scale, it’s important to remember that any toxic presence in your life is an unhealthy one. And this presence will continue to demoralize you until you take charge of your well-being. We’ll explore strategies to do just that a little later on. But first, it’s important to understand the different types of toxic personalities, so you have some insight into what makes them tick. That will help you realize that their problematic behavior isn’t your fault – or your responsibility to change.
Firstly, there are the more benign forms of toxicity. These people might engage in some of the toxic behaviors we’ll look at next, but they don’t set out to be harmful, the way that malignant types do. In the case of these relationships, you might not need to cut cords entirely, but you’ll benefit from learning to assert your boundaries – something else we’ll cover.
Benign toxic types are people who regularly disrespect your boundaries. For instance, you might have a colleague who constantly palms their work off on you, or a friend who demands your attention but won’t listen to you in return. Other benign types always pull focus, desperate to be the center of attention, like the co-worker who dominates every meeting. There are also emotional vampires, like the parent who expects you to be at their beck and call but dismisses your own needs.
Benign toxics might be draining, frustrating, and disrespectful – but they aren’t dangerous in the way that malignant types are. The malignant types are those who can cause you serious harm, the ones you must work toward emancipating yourself from immediately, and resolutely protect yourself from in the future.
First, there are narcissists. These self-absorbed people lack the ability to empathize, meaning that they’ll only ever care about themselves. They use different techniques to put their victims down so they can control the relationship. If challenged, they’ll fly into a rage, or guilt-trip their victim into submission.
Finally, there are people with antisocial personality disorder – sociopaths and psychopaths. These people are on the most extreme end of malignant toxicity. Like narcissists, they can’t empathize. But coupled with that is a complete lack of remorse. This allows them to carry out violent crimes, even though they may otherwise appear to be model citizens.
Highly sensitive folk tend to project their own moral compass onto toxic people, justifying poor behavior by making excuses for it. What they don’t realize is that, in the case of malignant toxicity, the abuser has no moral compass at all. This is why it’s crucial for sensitive people to familiarize themselves with the behaviors toxic people use to manipulate their victims. Let’s look at a few of these now, along with what you can do to protect yourself from them.
The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People (2020) sheds light on why empathetic individuals tend to attract those with toxic personalities and harmful behaviors. It provides a practical guide to recognizing, mitigating, and recovering from the manipulative tactics of toxic people.
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