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by Robin Sharma
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Michael Chad Hoeppner
How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life
18 mins
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Don't Say Um offers practical guidance on improving public speaking by eliminating verbal fillers. It provides strategies to enhance clarity, confidence, and effectiveness, fostering a more engaging and professional communication style.
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Great communicators use their entire presence to connect
Whether you’re looking to connect in a meeting, close a deal, or impress a potential partner on a date, communication is key. Take eye contact, for example. It can feel weird to hold someone’s gaze for too long, right? But picture this scenario: a toddler comes up to you, crying because he’s fallen and scraped his knee. Without thinking, your eye contact is locked in, deep and focused, totally attuned to this child’s needs. That’s the kind of genuine connection that really speaks to people.
Or consider another common issue: what to do with your hands while speaking. It sounds silly, but it’s a real concern for many. Imagine being so unsure about your hands that you feel like they aren’t even part of you, wondering, “Where should I put them?” Yet, this worry magically disappears when you’re out having dinner with friends. Why? Because you’re not focusing on your hands; you’re engaged in the conversation, laughing, eating, simply being in the moment.
Often, our biggest barrier to effective communication isn’t physical – it’s mental. When we stand up to give a speech and suddenly can’t figure out what to do with our hands, it’s not really about the hands. It’s because we’re caught up in our heads, thinking about ourselves and how we appear, rather than focusing on connecting with the people in front of us.
Great communicators flip this script. They use their whole self to speak: gestures, voice, eyes, everything. They switch it up. Sometimes they speak softly to draw you in; other times, they might increase their volume to drive a point home. They’re not stiff or robotic; they’re lively, expressive, and completely dialed into their audience’s reactions. It’s not just about being loud or quiet – great speakers know when to speed up to convey excitement or slow down to emphasize a crucial point. This rich mix of tones and speeds is called vocal variety. It’s a tool that stems from our human need to connect and make sure our message isn’t just heard, but felt.
Effective communication, in short, is all about engagement. It’s using your whole presence to connect. Forget the constrained, “professional” communication style that limits how much of yourself you bring into the room. True connection happens when you’re fully present, responding naturally and dynamically to the situation, just like you would with a friend over dinner. And that’s how you turn ordinary interactions into memorable ones, ensuring that what you say not only lands but resonates deeply with your audience.
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What is Don't Say Um about?
Don’t Say Um (2025) breaks down outdated ideas about speaking and gives you tools to communicate with clarity, confidence, and ease. Treating speaking as a skill that can be practiced and improved, it’s packed with useful exercises and actionable insights.
Who should read Don't Say Um?
- Professionals seeking to improve public speaking and communication skills
- Individuals overcoming anxiety around speaking in high-pressure situations
- Anyone aiming to communicate more clearly, confidently, and effectively
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