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Ellen Hendriksen
Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists
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How to Be Enough by Ellen Hendriksen guides us through overcoming perfectionism and self-doubt. It offers practical advice and techniques to build self-acceptance, harness inner strengths, and ultimately recognize our intrinsic worth in everyday life.
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The perfectionist paradox
If you think being a perfectionist is about striving for perfection, you’re not alone. So it might surprise you to know that perfectionism is really about never feeling good enough. At its core, perfectionism starts with conscientiousness – that wonderful trait that helps you care deeply about doing things well. But somewhere along the way, this healthy care tips over into harsh self-judgment.
You become your own worst critic, focusing relentlessly on flaws while dismissing successes. When you meet your sky-high standards, you simply raise them higher. When you fall short, you take it as proof of your inadequacy.
Your inner critic shows up in many ways, beating you up with harsh words and impossible demands. It whispers that others have it worse, so your struggles don’t matter. It compares you constantly to others, always finding you lacking. It demands impossible standards, insisting you should be farther ahead in life, career, or relationships.
So why do you keep listening to this harsh inner voice? Often, you’re trying to protect yourself. By criticizing yourself first, you believe you can avoid others’ judgment. By keeping your expectations impossibly high, you hope to drive self-improvement. By putting yourself down, you attempt to stay humble and keep your ego in check.
Sometimes you even criticize yourself to feel more in control – if something’s your fault, at least you can fix it. Occasionally, you might even voice self-criticism hoping others will reassure you that you’re doing fine.
This is certainly true for Elena, a talented software developer who stays late at her office every night fixing imaginary flaws in her code. She believes each small error proves she doesn’t belong in tech. But her perfectionism isn’t protecting her – it’s keeping her from enjoying her successes and connecting with her teammates.
The good news is that through seven powerful mindset shifts, you can transform this harsh inner voice into a far kinder one. You’ll learn to replace criticism with compassion, rigid rules with flexibility, and endless striving with genuine contentment. You’ll discover how to let go of mistakes instead of dwelling on them. You’ll move from procrastination to meaningful productivity, from draining comparison to true contentment, and from rigid control to authentic self-expression.
This journey isn’t about abandoning your high standards or stopping the hard work that makes you who you are. Instead, it’s about making room for rest, joy, and genuine connection with others. It’s about recognizing that beneath all your striving lies a deeper wish – to feel safe, accepted, and worthy exactly as you are.
In the chapters ahead, we’ll explore each mindset shift through examples and practical strategies. You’ll discover that being enough isn’t about being perfect – it’s about being authentically, imperfectly, wonderfully yourself.
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What is How to Be Enough about?
How to Be Enough (2024) offers a transformative approach to overcoming perfectionism by shifting from harsh self-judgment to genuine self-acceptance. Through seven key mindset changes, from embracing self-compassion to practicing emotional authenticity, the book provides practical strategies for breaking free from the cycle of never feeling good enough while maintaining healthy standards of excellence.
Who should read How to Be Enough?
- Those who have difficulty accepting compliments or celebrating their successes
- High-achieving professionals who struggle with imposter syndrome
- People-pleasers who have difficulty setting boundaries or saying no
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