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Amy Silver

How to Change and Control Your Relationship with Fear

4.2 (178 ratings)
24 mins

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"The Loudest Guest" by Amy Silver is a gripping psychological thriller that follows the story of a wealthy family whose dark secrets are exposed during a weekend getaway. Secrets, lies, and betrayal make for a page-turning read.

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    Change the role of fear from controlling to commentating on your life.

    Fear is good for you. Yes, really. It’s essential for keeping you out of harm’s way, and stops you from being physically or emotionally hurt. It makes you look before you leap. And it helps you identify mistakes before you even make them.

    A healthy dose of fear gives you the motivation to achieve things you otherwise wouldn’t. Think about the nerves that pushed you to study before a big test, or practice hard before a big game. 

    When you sense fear, your sympathetic nervous system is triggered. Your amygdala – a small almond-shaped area of the brain – signals your hypothalamus – another brain structure – to release hormones into your blood. These raise your blood pressure and blood sugar. Your muscles prepare for sudden and violent movement. Your heart and breathing rates increase. The cerebral part of your brain – the thinking part – switches off. You’re optimally prepared for fight or flight.

    This is the key message: Change the role of fear from controlling to commentating on your life.

    When fear controls you, it can become so overwhelming that you even become afraid of fear itself. You might resort to alcohol, drugs, and avoidance behaviors to reduce its effects. You become self-critical, hate your fear, and ultimately become ashamed of it and your other feelings.

    When fear directs you, it helps you to identify opportunities and warns you about risks. But it can overdo this, and you find yourself overthinking outcomes and resort to doing only the predictable. You become full of self-doubt and choose comfort over challenge.

    You’re more in control when fear acts as an advisor. But don’t hand over too much power or it’ll tell you its thoughts about everything – judging you and pointing out your mistakes and failures. Your self-belief can become eroded and you lose confidence in your decision-making.

    But fear needn’t have such a hold over you. When fear simply becomes a commentator, you can decide whether to heed its advice or not. Fear should be one among equals with your other emotions – there to be called upon when it suits your purposes. Don’t lose your fear, just learn to control it and turn the volume down when you need to.

    In the next six blinks, you’ll learn the six steps of a never-ending cycle which you can use to control your fear.

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    What is The Loudest Guest about?

    The Loudest Guest (2020) is a six-step guide to controlling your fear and taking back control of your life. It offers practical advice on how to recognize your fear, evaluate how it affects you, and choose when and how you listen to it. Fear may be at the party, but he doesn’t have to be your loudest guest.

    The Loudest Guest Review

    The Loudest Guest (2022) is a gripping tale that explores the dark secrets hidden within a seemingly perfect family. Here's why this book is a must-read:

    • Full of unpredictable twists and turns, it keeps readers on the edge of their seats, eager to uncover the truth behind the facade.
    • Through its multilayered characters and complex relationships, the book delves into the depths of human emotions and the lengths people will go to protect their secrets.
    • With its nuanced exploration of family dynamics and thought-provoking themes, The Loudest Guest is far from your typical thriller, making it a truly captivating read.

    Who should read The Loudest Guest?

    • Courage seekers
    • People who experience anxiety
    • Worriers, doubters, and perfectionists

    About the Author

    Dr. Amy Silver is an author, speaker, psychologist, and fear expert. She’s appeared regularly in the media to talk about how fear impacts our choices, including the Australian, Harvard Business Review, and CEO World as well as being a regular on the AM Show in New Zealand. She’s also the author of Conversations Create Growth.

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