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Brian R. Little

The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being

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Me, Myself and Us by Brian R. Little explores personality and how our traits can be malleable. It provides insights and practical strategies for personal growth, while acknowledging the role nature and nurture play in shaping who we are.

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    Our first impressions are based on personal constructs, which also determine our behavior.

    Everyone knows the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” But actually following this advice is not always as easy as it sounds. Over the course of any day, we regularly make judgements about other people based on our first impressions.

    And there’s more than one kind of first impression. Imagine, for example, that you overhear a customer in a restaurant being very rude to a waiter. How would you feel? You might dismiss the customer as a tactless or abusive person, or you might construct a narrative explaining that he’s just had a bad day at work and doesn’t usually act so aggressively.

    Most people go for the easier explanation – he’s just an inherently rude person. It’s simpler to label people than it is to come up with stories that might explain their behavior.

    These quick judgements aren’t objective, either. They’re based on our personal constructs.

    The term “personal constructs” was first coined by the psychologist George Kelly as a way to describe the complex emotional lenses through which each person views the world. Personal constructs are different for everyone; they might prompt you to think of the restaurant customer as obnoxious, or think of him as authoritative and masculine.

    Personal constructs also determine your behavior and ability to face challenges. The more limited a person’s worldview is, the more difficult it is for them to cope with unexpected problems.

    Imagine you have a friend who’s unable to move on after a bad breakup, for example. If he becomes very pessimistic about humanity and starts viewing everyone he meets as untrustworthy, he’ll have a hard time committing himself to anyone in the future.

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    What is Me, Myself and Us about?

    Me, Myself and Us (2014) is about what it is that makes you you. These blinks outline the different aspects of personalities, what influences them and how they determine our behavior.

    Me, Myself and Us Review

    Me, Myself and Us (2014) explores the fascinating world of personality psychology, offering insights into how our personalities shape our lives. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • It presents compelling research that challenges the traditional notion of fixed personalities, showing how we can develop and change throughout our lives.
    • By delving into different personality traits, the book provides a nuanced understanding of ourselves and others, enhancing empathy and improving relationships.
    • With its thought-provoking ideas about authenticity and self-awareness, it offers practical guidance on harnessing our unique strengths to lead a fulfilling life.

    Who should read Me, Myself and Us?

    • Psychology and sociology students
    • Anyone who wants to gain a better understanding of herself or himself

    About the Author

    Dr. Brian Little is a psychology professor who has taught at Carleton University, McGill University, the University of Oxford and Harvard University. He specializes in personality psychology.

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    What is the main message of Me, Myself and Us?

    Embrace your uniqueness for a more fulfilling life.

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    Who is the author of Me, Myself and Us?

    The author of Me, Myself and Us is Brian R. Little.

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