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Me, Myself and Us
The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being
Me, Myself and Us (2014) is about what it is that makes you you. These blinks outline the different aspects of personalities, what influences them and how they determine our behavior.
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Dr. Brian Little is a psychology professor who has taught at Carleton University, McGill University, the University of Oxford and Harvard University. He specializes in personality psychology.
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Me, Myself and Us
The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being
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Me, Myself and Us (2014) is about what it is that makes you you. These blinks outline the different aspects of personalities, what influences them and how they determine our behavior.
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Our first impressions are based on personal constructs, which also determine our behavior.
Everyone knows the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” But actually following this advice is not always as easy as it sounds. Over the course of any day, we regularly make judgements about other people based on our first impressions.
And there’s more than one kind of first impression. Imagine, for example, that you overhear a customer in a restaurant being very rude to a waiter. How would you feel? You might dismiss the customer as a tactless or abusive person, or you might construct a narrative explaining that he’s just had a bad day at work and doesn’t usually act so aggressively.
Most people go for the easier explanation – he’s just an inherently rude person. It’s simpler to label people than it is to come up with stories that might explain their behavior.
These quick judgements aren’t objective, either. They’re based on our personal constructs.
The term “personal constructs” was first coined by the psychologist George Kelly as a way to describe the complex emotional lenses through which each person views the world. Personal constructs are different for everyone; they might prompt you to think of the restaurant customer as obnoxious, or think of him as authoritative and masculine.
Personal constructs also determine your behavior and ability to face challenges. The more limited a person’s worldview is, the more difficult it is for them to cope with unexpected problems.
Imagine you have a friend who’s unable to move on after a bad breakup, for example. If he becomes very pessimistic about humanity and starts viewing everyone he meets as untrustworthy, he’ll have a hard time committing himself to anyone in the future.
Key ideas in this title
- Our first impressions are based on personal constructs, which also determine our behavior.
- Our personalities are defined by five major traits, including conscientiousness and agreeableness.
- Neuroticism, openness and extraversion are the remaining traits of the Big Five.
- Free traits allow us to break away from the stable Big Five traits.
- Your social behavior depends on whether you’re a high self-monitor or a low self-monitor.
- Illusions can improve your well-being if you manage them correctly.
- Your personality determines the way you deal with stress.
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