Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
What is marriage? We know the clichéd answer from romantic movies. You marry when you meet your soulmate – that uniquely compatible person who “completes” you and brings you joy as no one else can.
Of course, in the real world, few marriages resemble fairy tales. There are fights and disagreements; resentments build and need to be defused. But this isn’t to say that the clichés are all wrong and marriage is nothing but a bitter grind.
The truth lies somewhere in the middle. Marriage can be blissful but it also exacts its toll of blood, sweat, and tears; for every hard-won victory, there’s a bruising defeat. In a word, it’s hard.
Lots of people are unprepared for this reality and look for the exit signs as soon as they encounter difficulties. Others don’t even get that far because they rule marriage out entirely.
The key message in this blink is: Marriage is in decline in Western societies.
Marriage used to be universal – at least as an aspiration. Most people married and those who didn’t usually wished they could. That’s changed.
Take the United States. In 1960, 72 percent of all adults were married. Today, it’s just 50 percent. This has also affected the way many children are raised. In 1970, nine out of ten children were born to married parents; nowadays, it’s six in ten.
So what’s going on? Well, attitudes have shifted. Staying single might mean loneliness, but marriage has increasingly come to be identified with something even worse: unhappiness.
This opinion explains the rise of cohabitation – unmarried sexual partners living together. Back in the 1960s, this arrangement was less common. Now, it’s estimated that 60 percent of all women – and an even higher percentage of men – will have lived with partners before they reach their late thirties.
But younger people aren’t in the midst of a moral crisis. As many of them see it, there’s a good reason to avoid marriage.
When a Gallup survey conducted on behalf of the National Marriage Project – a non-partisan research group at the University of Virginia – asked millennials why they chose to cohabit with their partners rather than marry, many cited the same statistic: one in two marriages end in divorce. Living together, they reasoned, is a good way of testing the waters and avoiding a miserable marriage.
They’re not wrong, either – the divorce rate really is that high. But they’re missing the bigger picture.
The Meaning of Marriage (2011) is a meditation on marriage in an age of skyrocketing divorce rates and growing skepticism that a life of monogamy can deliver true happiness. Pastor Timothy Keller and theologian Kathy Keller ask what’s gone wrong – why are so many couples hesitant to take their vows and so many others calling it quits on their marriages? The authors’ answer: we’re far too idealistic, set impossible standards, and have forgotten the true meaning of matrimony – learning to love anew each day, a lesson at the heart of the Bible’s teachings.
Never before in history has there been a society filled with people so idealistic in what they are seeking in a spouse.
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Blink 3 von 12 - Eine kurze Geschichte der Menschheit
von Yuval Noah Harari
