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Nedra Glover Tawwab

A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

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Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab offers practical advice for setting boundaries, managing emotions, and building healthier relationships. Through real-life examples and exercises, readers learn to navigate conflicts with confidence and compassion.

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    You can’t make somebody else change.

    Meet Kelly and her troublesome brother, Jeff. Jeff has always been an entitled and manipulative bully, cruel with his words. Their other two siblings have already cut Jeff out of their lives, but Kelly can't. They were always close, and the thought of ending their relationship fills her with guilt.

    If you’ve ever had to suffer through a family member's difficult or abusive behavior, then you may relate to Kelly’s struggle. You tell yourself you’re being patient or growing – that it’s just something you have to “deal with.” But it’s more likely you’re trying to tolerate the intolerable, which builds resentment, not patience. Something has to change.

    Now, here’s a theme that will come up throughout this Blink, because it is absolutely, unequivocally true. You can’t, in any meaningful way, make somebody else change.

    With that in mind, you have two options: you can persevere, or you can change yourself. If you’re reading this Blink, then you’ve probably been persevering for too long. So let’s look at how to change.

    Changing a long-standing pattern of behavior isn’t simple, so we’ll break it down into five basic stages.

    First, there’s precontemplation. Here, you’re not even aware of the problem; you make excuses or unconsciously hide any evidence of it.

    After that is the contemplation stage. This is where Kelly is with her brother. It’s when you start to consider the value of changing. This often comes with guilt, which is completely normal. This is the most common time to enter therapy and talk through the problems.

    Next is preparation. You’ll start experimenting with small changes – testing the water to see what’s possible. Kelly might tell her brother that what he said wasn’t OK. It doesn’t have to be consistent or successful, but you’re getting ready for the next stage: action.

    In this phase, you accept the responsibility of changing and start doing what’s necessary. We’ll look at some more specific actions later – but basically, you’ll no longer adopt the attitude of a victim. You’ll need support during this time to process your feelings and stick to your decisions as you enter the final stage: maintenance.

    This stage is ongoing. You repeat your new actions until they’re habits – and resist the temptation to slide back to how things were.

    No matter what stage you’re at, remember one thing: you’re an adult, and you get to decide who you are as a person. So ask yourself now, who do you want to be? Think about a dysfunctional relationship you have with a family member, and make some notes about what stage of change you’re at.

    Because that’s how change starts.

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    What is Drama Free about?

    Drama Free (2023) is a concise and thoughtful guide to navigating the negatives of one of the most fundamental and unavoidable aspects of our lives: family. Covering a wide range of topics including emotionally absent parents, codependent siblings, substance abuse, and many more, it offers advice on recognizing the patterns of a dysfunctional family, healing from the past, and growing into the full human being you deserve to be.

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    Drama Free (2021) is a thought-provoking book that explores the art of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries for happier and drama-free relationships. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • With its practical strategies and insightful advice, it empowers readers to create boundaries that foster respectful and fulfilling connections.
    • The book combines real-life stories, psychological research, and expert insights, making it informative and relatable for anyone seeking healthier relationships.
    • Through its compelling narratives and practical exercises, the book keeps readers engaged, ensuring a captivating and valuable reading experience.

    Who should read Drama Free?

    • Adult children or siblings looking to untangle their current family relationships
    • Emotionally troubled individuals who are prepared to analyze their childhood
    • Anyone who tenses up when a family member calls

    About the Author

    Nedra Glover Tawwab is a therapist and relationship expert who specializes in helping people become themselves by establishing healthy boundaries. Her previous book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, was a New York Times best seller.

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    The main message of Drama Free is how to navigate difficult relationships and create healthier boundaries.

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    Drama Free is a valuable read for anyone seeking to improve their relationships. It provides practical insights and strategies for a more harmonious life.

    Who is the author of Drama Free?

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