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Blink 3 of 8 - The 5 AM Club
by Robin Sharma
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Emma Specter
On Food, Fat, Bingeing, Longing, and the Lust for Enough
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More, Please by Emma Specter delves into the complexities of modern relationships, offering a nuanced perspective on desire, intimacy, and self-discovery. Through poignant essays, Specter invites us to explore the depths of human connection.
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The hidden impact of maternal influence
Emma’s story of food and body image was deeply influenced by her mother. Growing up, she observed her mom – a classically beautiful woman with wide-set eyes and a blond bob – grappling with diet culture and society’s expectations. Her mother never directly told Emma to lose weight, but a subtle eyebrow raise at dinner or a pointed glance conveyed volumes.
A pivotal memory stands out for Emma. As a teenager, she stumbled upon her mom’s old press passes while searching for batteries. Staring back was a stunning twenty-something version of her mom, defiant and symmetrical. Instead of awe, Emma felt panic. She became acutely aware of her own features – her aquiline nose, thin lips, and the fleshy spread of her thighs. Her mother’s black-and-white beauty felt like an inheritance she was squandering, a silent repudiation of her own form.
Emma describes an invisible “umbilical cord of judgment” linking her to her mom: a raw metaphor for their complex emotional bond. This cord tied them together, transmitting unspoken expectations and insecurities. Emma’s early food experiences were tinted by her mother’s approach – their home stocked with diet-friendly versions of junk food, a hallmark of the weight-obsessed early 2000s.
But Emma doesn’t fault her mother for these influences. She recognizes that her mom, born in 1955, came of age in an era of unattainable beauty ideals and yo-yo diets. From SlimFast to cabbage soup fads, Emma’s mother weathered decades of societal pressure before having a daughter of her own. How could she have fostered a wholly positive body image in her daughter when she herself had been shaped by years of media-fueled fatphobia?
Now, as an adult, Emma sees the generational nature of these struggles. She recounts bonding with her Aunt Flavia over dieting – an important moment in her family life. These shared experiences of body dissatisfaction became a way of connecting, even as they reinforced harmful patterns. Emma recalls arriving at her mom’s apartment, dirty laundry in hand, ready to play her part in their familiar script: “Do you have skim milk for the coffee? None of my jeans fit, I hate myself.”
Emma’s account nudges us to examine our own maternal influences on body image – not to place blame, but to gain insight and heal. With this understanding, we can then begin to cultivate healthier relationships with food and our bodies.
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What is More, Please about?
More, Please (2024) invites you to explore the impact of maternal influences and societal pressures on body image and self-worth. Through a blend of personal narrative, journalism, and expert insights, it delves into the complexities of binge-eating disorder and the challenges of navigating diet culture – and encourages a compassionate approach to understanding and improving your relationship with food and body image.
Who should read More, Please?
- Individuals with eating disorders
- Anyone interested in body positivity
- Parents, guardians, and teachers
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