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Melody Wilding
Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work
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Trust Yourself by Melody Wilding empowers sensitive high-achievers to harness their emotional strengths. It offers strategies for overcoming self-doubt, managing stress, and achieving personal and professional success with increased confidence and authenticity.
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“Should” goals aren’t as fulfilling as “want” goals
If you’re a sensitive striver, you may often seek self-worth through external achievements – promotions, accolades, and approval. Deep down, there’s a belief that working harder will erase your feelings of inadequacy. But this endless effort doesn’t bring lasting confidence. Instead, it fuels exhaustion, leaving a lingering sense of dissatisfaction. The thrill of success fades quickly, pushing you into an ongoing cycle of overachievement.
The cycle begins in childhood, where success and praise become tied to self-worth, and carries over into professional life. The result? Anxiety, fatigue, and the inability to separate personal value from performance. Without targets, there’s a sense of being lost. Achievements dictate your self-worth. Hitting a goal feels validating, while falling short brings shame. Despite experience and expertise, there’s a fear of not measuring up. Speaking up in meetings or sharing ideas feels risky, as though one wrong move could expose a lack of competence. Downtime becomes another source of guilt. The need to be constantly productive makes rest feel undeserved, leading to burnout.
The solution isn’t abandoning ambition, though – the key is to redefine your relationship with achievement. In practice, that means recognizing when goals serve your personal growth and when they stem from external pressure. A clear sign of misalignment is the use of phrases like “I should,” “I have to,” or “I need to” rather than “I want to.” Pursuing a promotion out of genuine excitement is healthy, but chasing one solely due to competition or expectation isn’t. Similarly, if you sign up for a half-marathon because it’s a challenge you crave, great! If you’re only doing it because your coworkers are too, then you’re not really pursuing your goal.
One simple yet effective strategy to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overworking is a time audit. For five days, track how time is spent in hourly increments, noting specific tasks instead of broad labels like “work.” This will reveal patterns of unnecessary stress and obligation. Once you identify them, you can make small adjustments: start by eliminating, delegating, or scaling back just one low-risk task. A simple change – like listening to an audiobook instead of checking emails first thing in the morning – can make a big difference.
Over time, these small shifts will add up. Releasing obligations that don’t serve your personal fulfillment will create space for what truly matters. By shifting your focus from external to internal validation, you’ll cultivate self-trust, avoid burnout, and find greater satisfaction in your achievements.
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What is Trust Yourself about?
Trust Yourself (2021) explores the connection between sensitivity and high achievement, offering science-backed strategies to help ambitious professionals manage stress, self-doubt, and anxiety. It provides practical tools for setting boundaries, trusting your intuition, and redefining success on your own terms.
Who should read Trust Yourself?
- High achievers struggling with self-doubt and overthinking
- Sensitive professionals seeking confidence and balance
- Ambitious individuals prone to burnout and perfectionism
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