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by Robin Sharma
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L. David Marquet, Michael A. Gillespie
How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions
21 mins
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Distancing examines the concept of psychological distance and its impact on decision-making and behavior. It provides strategies to use distancing effectively, enhancing leadership and personal effectiveness in various aspects of life.
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Hidden costs of self-consciousness
In 2013, Captain Lee Kang-Kuk was piloting Asiana Flight 214 from Seoul to San Francisco with over 300 passengers aboard. The experienced 45-year-old pilot was transitioning from smaller aircraft to the massive Boeing 777, undergoing evaluation for certification on the larger plane. Under more pressure than usual and visibly stressed, something went catastrophically wrong during landing.
Despite the presence of visible warning lights, Captain Lee descended rapidly toward the runway. Rather than pulling up and circling for another approach – standard protocol in such situations – he kept descending, resulting in a crash that killed three people and injured nearly 200 others. Under stress and with his reputation on the line, he had developed dangerous tunnel vision, becoming fixated on the question “How do I land this plane?” rather than asking the more critical question: “Should I land this plane?”
This tragedy illustrates the dangerous limitations of what psychologists call the immersed self. By default, we view everything through our own perspective and ego. We filter events and experiences through the lens of how they affect us personally. When our sense of self feels threatened, whether by stress, evaluation, or potential failure, we instinctively move to defend our ego structure and self-image. This psychological defense mechanism, while natural, can be profoundly distracting and distorting.
The evolutionary roots of this kind of self-awareness originally helped our species survive by making us conscious of social dynamics and threats. However, this adaptive capacity has an unintended consequence: it can create excessive focus on protecting the self, leading to tunnel vision precisely when we need broad perspective most. When operating from this state, part of our mental resources shifts away from dealing with the actual situation toward defending our identity and reputation.
This psychological phenomenon becomes even more pronounced when we consider how social pain registers in our brains. In fact, neurological research demonstrates that feelings of social exclusion activate identical brain regions as physical injury. Remarkably, over-the-counter pain medication like Tylenol can reduce both types of pain, highlighting their neurological similarity.
However, unlike physical pain, social and emotional wounds can be re-experienced repeatedly as our memory replays painful events. These haunting recollections keep us trapped in cycles of self-protection and narrow thinking.
Fortunately, the immersed self isn’t our only option. We also possess access to what researchers call the distanced self – a psychological state that offers a fundamentally different way of processing challenges and making decisions. Let’s take a closer look.
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What is Distancing about?
Distancing (2025) explores how stepping outside our immediate perspective leads to better decision-making and clearer thinking. It introduces psychological distancing techniques that help us become our own coaches, allowing us to overcome personal biases and make wiser choices, both personally and professionally.
Who should read Distancing?
- Business leaders who need to make high-stakes decisions without being clouded by ego
- Professionals looking for practical techniques to gain clarity during stressful situations
- Anyone navigating major life transitions or career choices
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