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Gary John Bishop

Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life

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    You live the life you choose for yourself.

    Be honest with yourself – there are parts of your life that you find unsatisfactory. You face big problems – a job that feels like it’s going nowhere, for instance. And you deal with minor irritations – perhaps your partner doesn’t pull their weight with housework. 

    Of course, you didn’t choose to get stuck in a dead-end job or fall in love with someone who’s apparently allergic to washing the dishes.

    Or did you?

    If you’re willing to put up with unsatisfactory circumstances, then you are, effectively, choosing to live with them. So here’s a question for you: Are you willing to change what’s dragging you down? 

    You might be tempted to say something like, Of course I’m willing to quit, but the job market right now is …

    Stop right there. You’re not really willing to make that change – yet. As soon as the word “but” creeps in, you start justifying your choice not to change your life for the better. Willingness is a hard state to access; it’s often easier to get comfortable with life’s negatives than do the work required to change them. But once you do access it, you’ll find it’s a powerful force. As the political strategist Niccolo Machiavelli said, “Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great.”

    So, how do you invite willingness into your life?

    Begin by getting real. What’s one thing you want to change in your life but haven’t been able to? Why haven’t you done something about it? Perhaps you’re too busy. Or too tired. Or you’re not quite ready yet. Or it’s actually really complicated … the list could go on forever. But there’s really only one reason you haven’t made that change, and it’s you

    You haven’t been willing to do the work to make things better. But don’t get depressed or down on yourself. It’s liberating to realize that you are creating a life you don’t want for yourself. Because that means that you are equally capable of manifesting a life you do want. 

    Once you’ve accepted the crazy amount of power you have over your own life, you simply need the willingness to use that power to make the necessary changes. So, here’s the first assertion that will rewire your negative self-talk: I am willing.

    Are you willing to change your job? I am willing.

    Are you willing to improve your relationship? I am willing.

    Are you willing to hit the gym, move to a new city, put your work out there, do things that scare you? I am willing.

    And here’s a little trick – if you’re feeling daunted by the big changes ahead, flip the script. Focus instead on the things that you’re no longer willing to put up with. It can feel like a lot to promise yourself that you’ll hand in your notice at your steady job and make the leap into a new role. 

    So ask yourself this: Are you willing to spend your life doing work that doesn’t fulfill you, for people who don’t appreciate your efforts? You know how to answer that: I am unwilling!

    Being willing isn’t a magic wand. It won’t make change happen – change happens through work, persistence, and sacrifice. But the state of willingness is what sets the stage so all of that can happen. 

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    What is Unfu*k Yourself about?

    Unfu*k Yourself (2017) lays out an unpleasant truth: there’s only one thing that’s getting in the way of your best life, and that’s you. It provides a set of no-nonsense strategies designed to help you get out of your head, get out of your way, and begin living life on your own terms.

    Who should read Unfu*k Yourself?

    • Self-saboteurs who can’t turn off their persistently negative inner monologue
    • Those trying to get out of their own way and go after their dreams
    • Anyone who’d like their life to be a little less, well, fu*ked

    About the Author

    Gary John Bishop is a motivational speaker and author. His other books include Stop Doing that Shit and Wise as F*ck

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