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Glennon Doyle, Abby Wambach, Amanda Doyle
Answers to Life's 20 Questions
21 mins
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We Can Do Hard Things encourages embracing life's challenges with resilience and authenticity. Through personal stories and insights, it inspires self-discovery, growth, and empowered living, urging us to confront and transform our toughest obstacles.
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Who am I? Questions about identity
Who am I when nobody is watching?
This is a question that can haunt you at three in the morning, when all the masks come off and you face the raw truth of your own company. Especially if you grew up in a home where your feelings were too much, your needs too inconvenient, or your existence somehow wrong. You learned to become smaller, quieter, more palatable. You became a master at reading rooms and adapting yourself to fit.
Why am I like this?
The question carries shame, as if your coping mechanisms were character flaws instead of survival strategies. Lisa grew up walking on eggshells around her volatile father. She became hypervigilant, always scanning for danger, always ready to disappear into herself. Thirty years later, she still shrinks in meetings, still apologizes for having opinions. Her childhood taught her that being seen was dangerous, so she learned to become invisible.
But what if the very qualities you hate about yourself are evidence of your resilience? Your sensitivity might not be weakness, it could be wisdom. Your caution saved you, after all, when boldness would have broken you.
Trauma does not just hurt us, it fragments us. It is easy to lose touch with your core self when staying connected feels too dangerous. Many of us learned to survive by splitting off from who we really were. How do I know when I have lost myself? You know because nothing feels quite right, because you move through your days like a stranger in your own life.
Why can’t I just be happy?
This question assumes happiness should be your default state, that struggling with identity means you are broken. But what if your questioning is not a pathology, but an awakening? Your dissatisfaction with fake versions of yourself is actually your true self demanding to be heard.
To find the wisdom in tough questions, try reframing them. Instead of asking, why am I like this? Try asking what am I protecting? Many of our protection mechanisms masquerade as unwanted habits or reactions. Instead of asking, why can’t I just be happy, try asking yourself what would feel authentic right now? Substitute, who should I be, with who am I becoming? These questions get you closer to the source of you: your values, beliefs, and experiences.
Start with these questions as daily practice. When you feel disconnected, pause and ask yourself what feels true in this moment. Share these questions with trusted friends. Ask them who they see when they look at you. Sometimes others can reflect back parts of ourselves we have forgotten or never learned to see.
Your identity is not a puzzle to solve but a conversation to have, with yourself and with others who can hold space for all that you are becoming.
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What is We Can Do Hard Things about?
We Can Do Hard Things (2025) explores twenty profound questions about identity, meaning, resilience, and authentic living through the lens of personal stories and practical wisdom. The questions aim to reframe life's most challenging aspects not as obstacles to overcome, but as opportunities to discover who we really are beneath our fears, expectations, and protective mechanisms.
Who should read We Can Do Hard Things?
- Those recovering from trauma or difficult childhoods who are working to understand how their past experiences shaped them
- Self-help and personal development enthusiasts who enjoy psychology, mindfulness, and growth-oriented content with practical tools
- Anyone facing fear about taking risks or making changes
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