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Marc Brackett
Use Your Emotions to Create the Life You Want
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Dealing with Feeling delves into the transformative power of understanding and managing our emotions. Marc Brackett provides tools to cultivate emotional intelligence, enhancing personal growth and improving relationships in various aspects of our lives.
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What emotional illiteracy costs you
Your body keeps a running tab of every emotion you ignore. That tension in your shoulders from the argument you swallowed three days ago. The exhaustion that no amount of sleep fixes because you’re carrying unprocessed anxiety everywhere. The headache that arrives every Sunday night before the work week begins. These aren’t random ailments. They’re your emotional bill coming due.
Research on tens of thousands of people shows that those who can’t identify and manage their emotions pay steep prices across every area of life. They earn less money in their careers and struggle to maintain close relationships. They report lower life satisfaction and higher rates of anxiety and depression. Their bodies break down faster under the weight of chronic stress. Most striking of all, their IQ and technical skills make almost no difference in preventing these outcomes.
For example, Zuri was brilliant at her job. She had two advanced degrees and could solve problems that stumped her entire team. But none of that training taught her what to do when frustration flooded her nervous system in that meeting. She only knew two options: stuff it down or let it explode.
Both choices were costing her more than she realized. The explosion that day burned a bridge with her manager that was never fully rebuilt. She was passed over for the promotion she deserved six months later. Her colleague got it instead, someone with half her technical skills but none of her emotional volatility. The suppression cost her too. She stopped speaking up in meetings because she feared another outburst. Her best ideas stayed trapped inside while safer voices filled the room.
Her friendships suffered, too. When her closest friend shared exciting news about a new job, Zuri felt a flash of jealousy she couldn’t name or process. So she withdrew, and avoided calls until the friendship withered. But it was her intimate relationship that paid the steepest price. Zuri’s partner learned to walk on eggshells, never knowing which version of her would come home. The intimacy they once shared was replaced by careful distance. She wanted to be closer but every attempt at vulnerability felt like standing at the edge of a cliff.
Even her dreams became casualties. Zuri had always wanted to start her own consulting practice. She had the expertise and the network. But the fear of failure felt so overwhelming that she couldn’t separate the emotion from reality.
Zuri wasn’t weak or broken. Like almost all of us, she was simply never given the tools. This isn’t a personal failing. It’s a collective blind spot that spans generations and institutions.
So why did nobody teach her these skills? A better question would be: Why do most of us reach adulthood completely unprepared to handle the very emotions that shape our entire lives? The answer lies in seven systemic failures that impact nearly everyone.
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What is Dealing with Feeling about?
Dealing with Feeling (2025) examines the emotional literacy gap, or the inability to recognize and regulate emotions, along with the steep costs this dysregulation creates across all areas of life. It offers a practical system for building the emotional skills that schools and families failed to teach.
Who should read Dealing with Feeling?
- Those struggling with emotional management who recognize patterns of suppression or explosion in their own lives
- People navigating difficult relationships at work, at home, or in their personal lives
- Anyone who feels their emotions control them rather than inform them
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