Name: The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness
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Author: Timothy Keller

What’s in it for me? Discover the power of self-forgetfulness

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of perpetual self-doubt and comparison, striving to meet expectations that seem to grow with each passing day? Or do you feel as if you're on a never-ending quest to validate your worth through achievements, comparisons, or the amount of “likes” you get on social media? If so, you're certainly not alone. These feelings are the manifestations of your ego, a relentless taskmaster that keeps you occupied in a fruitless pursuit of external validation.

In this Blink, we’ll dive into an enlightening exploration of your ego, its challenges, and the profound wisdom of the apostle Paul to navigate this complex terrain. We’ll shed light on Paul's unique approach toward self-worth and self-esteem, a perspective that fosters a liberating sense of self-forgetfulness, separating your actions from your identity. And instead of being trapped in the endless cycle of validation and judgment, you'll learn to appreciate the peace and fulfillment that comes with being a beloved child of God.

Escape the grip of your ego

You know that feeling when you're constantly trying to prove yourself, seeking validation, and chasing after the next big thing? That's your ego working overtime to keep you occupied. But what if there was a way to find peace and freedom from this never-ending race?

It turned out the apostle Paul faced similar problems with his ego. He even had a word for it: physioõ, which means “overinflated” or “swollen.” He described the ego as being four things: empty, painful, busy, and fragile. Let's break these down.

First off, the ego is empty. It's like trying to fill a void with stuff that doesn't quite fit. You know when you're trying to fill your life with achievements, trying to prove your worth to others, but you still feel, well, empty? That's your ego talking. The philosopher Søren Kierkegaard talked about this too. He said our egos get a kick out of pretending we're self-sufficient, without any need for God. But in the end, it's like trying to fill a black hole with cotton candy.

Next up is that the ego is painful. Ever felt that twinge of discomfort when you see someone doing better than you? Or that sting when you feel ignored or undervalued? That's your ego making a fuss, insisting on constant validation and comparison.

Onto the third aspect: the ego is busy. Do you sometimes feel like you're living on a treadmill, always trying to outdo others, to be the best? That's your ego keeping you occupied, always chasing the next big thing.

Finally, the ego is fragile. It’s that feeling when you’re on top of the world one moment, and the next, you're feeling like a squashed bug. That's because your ego is like a balloon. When it's overinflated, it's ready to burst at any moment.

So, what's the solution? How can you deal with this swollen, painful, busy, and fragile ego of yours? Here's a couple of thoughts from Paul:

First, embrace who you truly are. You're not defined by your achievements, how many followers you have on Instagram, or how many zeros there are in your bank account. Your worth comes from God, not from these external things. This means finding peace in being loved and valued by God and letting go of this constant need to prove yourself to others.

Second, shift your focus. Instead of building a résumé of your greatness, focus on serving others, and appreciating their unique strengths. It's like Mother Teresa once said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” So, trade in that microscope you've been using to examine everyone else's flaws for a magnifying glass to see their strengths.

In a nutshell, by embracing your identity in God and cultivating humility, you'll find freedom from this constant tug-of-war with your ego. You'll experience a transformed sense of self and discover a way of living that's more fulfilling. It's not about competing or proving yourself, but about finding peace in being a beloved child of God.

Liberate yourself through self-forgetfulness

Do you ever wonder why we're all so obsessed with what other people think of us? Or worse yet, why we're even more obsessed with what we think of ourselves? We're stuck in this perpetual cycle of self-evaluation, always stressing about whether we're meeting expectations – be it ours or that of others. Fortunately, we can turn to Paul once more for invaluable wisdom to tackle this problem.

During his lifetime, Paul developed a fresh take on self-esteem and self-worth. He’d shrug off criticism, as if saying, “I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t even care what I think about me, for that matter.” Now, that's a level of independence most of us probably haven't quite reached yet.

The power of God’s verdict

OK, let’s dive even deeper into the art of self-forgetfulness and what we can learn from Paul. The crux of his philosophy was that only God's judgment truly mattered. It wasn't about indifference or carelessness, but about liberating himself from the tiring charade of constantly seeking validation.

Imagine your life unfolding in a courtroom, where each action, each decision, becomes a piece of evidence for defense or prosecution. Sounds draining, doesn't it? Unfortunately, this is a mirror to your reality where you’re perennially in the dock, chasing validation and deriving self-worth from the judgments passed by others or yourself. But Paul was privy to a different reality. He’d exited the courtroom – the trial had ended for him. His sense of value was firmly rooted in God's ultimate verdict.

What is The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness about?

The Freedom of Self Forgetfulness (2012) dives deep into the timeless wisdom of the Apostle Paul and invites you on a transformative journey of inner renewal. Discover the path to genuine rest and liberation by embracing blessed self-forgetfulness, freeing yourself from the pressures of seeking validation and self-condemnation.

About the Author

Timothy Keller is a best-selling author, speaker, and pastor who has touched the lives of millions around the world. Other titles he’s authored include The Reason for God and The Prodigal God. Through his influential Timothy Keller Sermons Podcast, he engages audiences with his teachings on theology, culture, and the transformative power of the gospel.