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Cy Wakeman
Stop Drama, Eliminate Entitlement, Maximize Results
19 mins
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No Ego challenges traditional management paradigms, advocating for a reality-based mindset. It helps leaders eliminate workplace drama, boost accountability, and foster a more engaged, productive organizational culture.
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Getting rid of emotional waste.
Years ago, as a new manager, the author Cy Wakeman was told she should have an “open door policy.” But what she quickly discovered was that this policy practically ensured that she would spend a huge chunk of her day listening to people recount every detail of their personal workplace drama. Employee’s weren’t coming to her to seek coaching or solutions; they just wanted to vent. Not only that, but what they were complaining about weren’t facts – things that were actually happening – but rather things they imagined were happening.
You may have picked up some managerial advice that says it’s good to let employees vent, but it’s not. Instead of fostering a healthy, productive environment, this approach ends up fueling a workplace culture of victim mentality and low morale.
To describe employees who waste time arguing with reality instead of confronting it, Wakeman coined the term "emotionally expensive.” These individuals are prone to contributing opinions rather than taking actionable steps, seeing themselves as victims instead of problem-solvers.
But her open-door experience did lead to a revelation: instead of letting employees unload their complaints, she started asking pointed questions that forced them to reflect on their role in the issues they faced. Questions like “What do you know for sure?” or “What’s your part in this?” shifted the focus from blaming others or external circumstances to taking personal responsibility.
Wakeman was teaching employees to edit their “stories” – the emotional narratives that distract from the facts – so they could focus on what truly mattered: finding solutions and making decisions that drive results.
Her method had a powerful impact. The members of her team became more independent, productive, and efficient problem solvers, even as other departments continued to struggle with unresolved workplace drama.
This first-hand experience led to a large-scale data-collecting project. The results showed that, on average, employees spend more than two hours a day entangled in drama, costing companies enormous amounts of money in lost productivity. This doesn’t just affect junior staff; even senior leaders spend hours each week managing the fallout from workplace drama.
The data also identified five major sources of workplace drama: ego behaviors, lack of accountability, resistance to change, poor buy-in, and disengagement. In these areas, traditional leadership tools often make the situation worse because they inadvertently feed the ego, tolerate dissent to non-negotiable decisions, and foster entitlement without accountability.
In other words, many current strategies coddle the employee. This creates a workforce that expects leaders to keep them motivated and happy, which is neither sustainable nor realistic.
Wakeman’s approach – Reality-Based Leadership – flips the script. It’s about confronting reality directly and helping employees bypass their egos. The method is simple yet effective: it uses intentional mental processes to reduce drama and emotional waste, leading to significant improvements in both individual and organizational performance. Leaders who adopt these strategies can better manage workplace dynamics, calling their teams to greatness by encouraging them to recognize and act on their own potential.
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What is No Ego about?
No Ego (2017) is a fresh take on leadership and a challenge to conventional wisdom. Focusing on eliminating workplace drama and emotional waste, it provides practical strategies for fostering accountability, resilience, and innovation. Wakeman's approach empowers managers and workers alike to embrace a culture of personal responsibility – a culture that, ultimately, will reduce stress, increase engagement, and engender a productive and positive work environment.
Who should read No Ego?
- Leaders looking for new management techniques
- Employees interested in self-motivation
- Frustrated managers and executives
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