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Name: The Leader In You
Rating: 4.8 (369 reviews)
Author: Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends, Influence People & Succeed in a Changing World

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What is The Leader In You about?

The Leader in You (1993) reveals how tapping into your enthusiasm and creativity can help you connect more effectively and work more productively. Drawing on insights from leaders across a wide range of fields, this practical guide includes strategies to hone your leadership strengths, boost your self-confidence, and achieve your personal and professional goals.

About the Author

Dale Carnegie was an American author and lecturer who pioneered the self-improvement movement. In addition to developing courses on corporate training, interpersonal skills, and public speaking, he wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living and How to Win Friends and Influence People – one of the best-selling books of all time.

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Identify your unique leadership strengths.

When you think about leaders, do presidents, generals, or movie directors come to mind?

Leadership has an important role at the top – but it’s just as important at any level of this game called life. Want to energize your colleagues or keep things happy at home? Become a better leader. In fact, embodying leadership qualities will improve your experience immensely on all fronts.

So what are these qualities? Well, there’s no one right way to lead. Leaders are sometimes loud and funny. Other times, they’re stoic, gentle, or even shy. The important thing is to figure out what kind of leader you are.

Maybe you’re tenacious, creative, or always have a smile on your face; whatever your best qualities are, let them bloom. These are your foundation for all the leadership lessons to come.

In Mother Teresa’s case, it was unabashed resolve. After visiting four inmates suffering from AIDS at a maximum-security prison, Mother Teresa marched to New York City Hall. It was the Monday before Christmas. In one sitting with the mayor, she secured medical furloughs so she could bring the inmates to the new AIDS center she was envisioning – as well as the necessary funding and permits for the building.

The center opened that Wednesday. Failing was never an option.

Good communication is built on willingness, openness, and trust.

It used to be that loudness meant you were tough, stubbornness indicated knowledge, and being argumentative signified honesty. Here’s the thing: when it comes to getting people to do what you want, coercion and threats might work in the short term, but openness and support set the foundation for long-term success.

Being able to communicate well can inspire people. It’s what catalyzes great ideas into action. And it’s not complicated if you master these three basic steps.

Motivating people through a common sense of purpose will make them perform better.

Picture a man on a horse, galloping toward the villain to rescue his one true love. As he rides, he’s joined by a guy on his left – then another on his right. Suddenly, there are ten more. They keep forging ahead, kicking up dust, multiplying in number. Seconds later, hundreds are riding toward their shared destiny.

Like the hero in the cowboy movie trope, when a leader rides, others follow suit. To truly motivate people, you need to make them feel like you’re all in it together.

Express genuine interest in others to deepen your relationships.

Wagging tails, excited jumps, slobbery licks . . . dogs go out of their way to demonstrate they like you. And the best part is, you know their joy is genuine – ulterior motives aren’t part of their vocabulary.

Dogs are the ultimate friend-makers. So take it from them: the fastest way of making friends is by becoming genuinely interested in others. People are flattered by attention; it makes them feel special. And so they tend to reciprocate.

Looking at things from others’ perspectives is the key to getting along in the world.

David Holman had called his biggest grower with bad news: the export price for the man’s vegetables was going to be halved. The man sounded shocked, so Holman decided to drive to his farm and finish talking in person.

Standing in the middle of a field in a spare pair of boots, he empathized with all the hard work, hardships, and disappointment the man had gone through. He expressed heartfelt concern. Miraculously, the grower accepted the situation – and Holman’s offer.

Listening is the best form of learning – and of persuasion.

Back when Hugh Downs was just getting started as a live radio interviewer, he witnessed a grandiose failure to listen. A colleague was interviewing a man who’d escaped a Kremlin prison. It was a dramatic tale. For months, the man said, the prisoners had been tunneling their way out – sometimes even eating dirt. Finally, they began digging upward and were shocked when they breached the surface: they’d landed smack-dab in the middle of Josef Stalin’s office.

At that point, the interviewer asked whether the man had any hobbies. Major fail.

Effective teamwork results in creativity, innovation, and long-term success.

One year, instead of getting a midterm exam, first-year graduate students at Harvard Business School were randomly divided into teams of four. They were given a business problem and 24 hours to draft a written solution. Oh, and each team member would receive the same grade.

Needless to say, the students weren’t happy. They thought their team members would bring them down. But, in the end, the groups that struggled the most learned the most – welcome to the real world.

Be quick to admit your own mistakes and slow to criticize others – and always be constructive.

Nobody’s perfect; everyone makes mistakes. We all know this on some level – but it’s only once mistakes have been fully normalized that people can truly express their creativity or take risks.

There are a few basic principles that can make criticism an easier pill to swallow.

Setting goals that are clear, measurable, and realistic will give your life direction.

Endless drifting. Wasted time. Zero urgency, zero direction, zero purpose.

No, we’re not talking about purgatory. We’re talking about a life devoid of goals. Clear, measurable, and attainable goals can give your life direction and keep you focused.

To succeed, stay focused and keep your eye on the big picture.

David Burpee thought the marigold had potential. Back in 1933, the flower was typically small – and it smelled bad. So Burpee set out to find a mutation without the unpleasant odor. He ordered hundreds of seeds from all over the world, planting and then sniffing every flower. One variety from Tibet was promising: it was odorless but had a scrawny bloom.

Encouraged, Burpee crossed the Tibetan seed with a larger variety and planted 35 acres. Once the flowers had bloomed, he told his foreman to go and smell every plant. The man looked at him like he’d gone bonkers, so they came up with a compromise. Burpee called up all the employment agencies in the area with an unusual request: 200 flower smellers.

Maximize your performance by balancing work and play.

Here’s a riddle for you: What do the US Army, your heart, and Winston Churchill have in common? The answer is an oxymoron: they all figured out that pressing pause is the best way to keep going.

The US Army discovered that soldiers could march further and faster if they laid down their packs and rested for 10 minutes of every hour. So that’s what the soldiers do.

Reenergize your life by looking on the bright side and taming your worries.

Think happy thoughts, and you’ll be happy. Think miserable thoughts, and you’ll be miserable. Think successful thoughts, and – well, you get it.

Outside factors don’t usually determine your happiness; it’s how you react that makes all the difference. That’s right: simply assuming a positive attitude can work wonders in terms of your productivity, quality of life, and ability to lead.

Enthusiasm is engaging and contagious – so share your excitement.

Some people are blessed with smarts. Others have a penchant for creativity or athletics. But, luckily, raw talent is only half the picture. Each and every one of us can add lines, flourishes, and color to our pictures with a little thing called enthusiasm.

Enthusiasm is infectious, and it engages people. The best way to get someone excited about something is to be excited yourself – and to show it.

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What is The Leader In You about?

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Identify your unique leadership strengths.

Good communication is built on willingness, openness, and trust.

Motivating people through a common sense of purpose will make them perform better.

Express genuine interest in others to deepen your relationships.

Looking at things from others’ perspectives is the key to getting along in the world.

Listening is the best form of learning – and of persuasion.

Effective teamwork results in creativity, innovation, and long-term success.

Be quick to admit your own mistakes and slow to criticize others – and always be constructive.

Setting goals that are clear, measurable, and realistic will give your life direction.

To succeed, stay focused and keep your eye on the big picture.

Maximize your performance by balancing work and play.

Reenergize your life by looking on the bright side and taming your worries.

Enthusiasm is engaging and contagious – so share your excitement.

Key ideas in The Leader In You

Identify your unique leadership strengths.

Good communication is built on willingness, openness, and trust.

Motivating people through a common sense of purpose will make them perform better.

Express genuine interest in others to deepen your relationships.

Looking at things from others’ perspectives is the key to getting along in the world.

Listening is the best form of learning – and of persuasion.

Effective teamwork results in creativity, innovation, and long-term success.

Be quick to admit your own mistakes and slow to criticize others – and always be constructive.

Setting goals that are clear, measurable, and realistic will give your life direction.

To succeed, stay focused and keep your eye on the big picture.

Maximize your performance by balancing work and play.

Reenergize your life by looking on the bright side and taming your worries.

Enthusiasm is engaging and contagious – so share your excitement.

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