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Name: The Imposter Cure
Rating: 4.5 (465 reviews)
Author: Dr. Jessamy Hibberd

Dr. Jessamy Hibberd

Escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome

4.5 (465 ratings)

17 mins

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"The Imposter Cure" by Dr. Jessamy Hibberd delves into the phenomenon of imposter syndrome, offering insights and practical strategies to overcome it. It shows how to break the cycle and embrace your true capabilities.

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What’s in it for me? Stop feeling like a fraud and start being your best self.

The driver, his heart pounding, slowed down as he entered the thick fog. It was both perplexing and perilous. The road was familiar, but the cabby had no idea what lay ahead. Everything was quiet – except in his mind. He felt compelled to continue, but all he wanted to do was pull over.

Suddenly, he yelped. He slammed on the brakes to avoid hitting the car in front. He released a breath he hadn’t realized he’d been holding and glanced back at his passenger.

“Wow,” she said, “you’re amazing! I thought we were gonna die!”

The driver shook his head and smiled. He was convinced it was just luck. As the fog lifted, he drove on, relief washing over him.

Imposter syndrome can be disorienting. Self-doubt can make it tough for someone with the syndrome to recognize their personal skills and accomplishments. So instead, they concentrate on their flaws and shortcomings.

This self-doubt can paralyze you and stop you from living life to its fullest. But like driving in fog, imposter syndrome is something you can learn to navigate.

In this Blink to Jessamy Hibberd’s The Imposter Cure, we’ll look at the causes of imposter syndrome and discover coping strategies to beat it.

By building a body of evidence and keeping track of your progress, you’ll find your own imposter cure and learn how to overcome any obstacles to your future happiness.

So, let’s turn off the cruise control and head into unchartered territory.

There are five types of imposter.

Have you ever felt like you were a fraud? Maybe you’ve just got a job promotion and are worried you won't live up to expectations. Perhaps you're in college and finding it hard to keep up with your peers. Whatever your reason for feeling that way, you may be experiencing imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome occurs whenever your beliefs and expectations collide. For example, people with the syndrome feel shame when they don't achieve their goals. This results in guilt, leading to self-doubt and poor performance. Research by Dr. Valerie Young – an expert on the syndrome and cofounder of the Imposter Syndrome Institute – shows that people with the syndrome present with one of five character traits.

Perfectionists have high standards. They’re filled with self-doubt when things aren't perfect. They're afraid of failure. But since perfection is impossible, these feelings create a never-ending cycle of hard work and dissatisfaction.

Natural geniuses focus on how and when things are done. They feel like fakes when they can’t do something right away. They learn new things quickly but lack perseverance.

Soloists believe a goal is only worth pursuing if they can achieve it alone. So they don’t ask for help – even when a project is going wrong. When they encounter troubles, they put things off so they don’t have to admit defeat.

Experts are knowledge perfectionists. They believe competence means knowing everything. They won’t consider a job if they don’t meet all the requirements. Experts worry about seeming inexperienced or uninformed.

Superwomen and Supermen have unreal expectations and, like perfectionists, they believe it's all or nothing. They define competence as flawless performance in any role or situation.

Did you recognize yourself as belonging to one of these types? If so, you too may have imposter syndrome. While there’s no single “cure” for imposter syndrome, understanding how it manifests is an ideal place to start.

Recognize negative self-talk and its power will shrink.

Anything that suggests achievement or approval can cause imposter syndrome. Why is it, then, that some people experience unease in these situations while others don't? Well, it depends on how you interpret your discomfort. When someone with imposter syndrome feels discomfort, they accept it as a sign of being a fake. They believe they're not good enough or are unprepared for the challenge. But when someone with imposter syndrome succeeds, they feel that they must have tricked their way in – just like Poppy.

Poppy signed a book deal with her dream publisher. But then fear set in. What could she write? How many books would she sell? After all, unread books have no value. She misinterpreted her fear right from the start as it took hold of her. And it shifted her perspective. Every time she won, she moved the goalposts. Even when her first book was a success, she began the second book feeling exactly the same way.

Overworking and avoidance are signs you’re an imposter.

People with imposter syndrome feel like they’re living a lie, so they devise ways to cope. These actions may help in the short term, but if you aren’t fake, these behaviors are part of the problem. That’s why imposters [people with imposter syndrome] should rethink their coping strategy and change how they see themselves. Secrets, overworking, avoidance, self-criticism, self-doubt, insecurity, perfectionism, and a fear of failing are all common ways to deal with stress. But in the long run, these stop you from improving your self-image. Accepting this allows you to make positive changes.

Picture William, a lawyer. He’s recently been promoted and has been given extra responsibilities. His workload is more than he expected and he soon realizes he’s not doing enough. His eczema flares up from the stress. Rather than admit the workload is the issue, he keeps quiet – after all, he can simply work more hours. And if he doesn’t? Well, he’s afraid a rival will replace him. Soon, William is working or sleeping at weekends, too, rather than relaxing or spending time with his family.

Become your own cheerleader and relieve your pain.

Sometimes it’s hard to be your own cheerleader. Your inner voice can be harsh. Worse still, you might not even realize it. This kind of self-criticism can hold you back. To get past this, be kind to yourself and have faith in your abilities.

Think of a time when you had to do something difficult. Who was there to encourage you? Did they judge you when they noticed you were in trouble? Probably not. Similarly, the voice inside your head should be your biggest fan, not your harshest critic.

Pursuing perfection is a recipe for failure.

Matilda loved the theater. As a child, she’d sit in the front row of a play, enthralled. So when the opportunity to attend drama school arose, she jumped at it. She was taken aback by her classmates’ talent – everyone seemed better than her. With determination, she caught up. Her effort paid off and she landed the lead role in a show. Even so, she felt inferior. She was constantly comparing herself to others. As time went by, she couldn’t face the pressure.

So what went wrong? Well, Matilda was unaware that perfectionism is about overcoming feelings of inadequacy. It feeds you insecurities, which can lead to overwork or avoidance. Like any other habit, it promises to make you feel better. Yet, the more you strive for perfection, the less you enjoy the task. So instead, you work even harder and try to achieve more.

Combat avoidance and overwork.

Time is one of our most valuable commodities, so we need to choose how we use it wisely. To live your life to the fullest, reconsider how much you try to cram into a week. Perhaps it’s time for you to stop overworking and start thinking about a more sustainable path. To start reclaiming your life, you need to reassess your situation and deal with overwork and avoidance. Only then can you start to enjoy life again.

Your first step is to make yourself your priority. Set boundaries and try not to always favor the needs of others over your own. Take breaks. Delegate. When you try to do everything yourself, you simply set yourself up for failure. Be honest and open about your workload. Keep requests and commitments to a minimum. And tell others if you think you have too much to do. Most importantly, practice saying no.

Final Summary

Combatting imposter syndrome means becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable. While it may be tempting to avoid new experiences, try to embrace the unknown. Push yourself to grow. As a result, you'll become more resilient and self-assured.

Look out for signs of perfectionism, self-doubt, self-criticism, avoidance, and overwork. Check to see if you've made necessary changes and if there’s anything else you need to work on.

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What is The Imposter Cure about?

The Imposter Cure (2019) provides strategies for increasing confidence, overcoming fears and doubts, and learning to see oneself through the eyes of others.

Who should read The Imposter Cure?

Anybody who feels like a fraud
Grown-ups who don’t feel grown up
Self-sabotagers

About the Author

Dr. Jessamy Hibberd is a chartered clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and speaker. Over the course of her many years of clinical practice, she’s helped countless adults struggling with mental health. She’s dedicated to making psychology more accessible and regularly contributes to newspapers and magazines worldwide.

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