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Name: Shameless
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Author: Nadia Bolz-Weber

Nadia Bolz-Weber

A Sexual Reformation

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What’s in it for me? Discover how the church can approach sexuality differently.

In the church, sex is a taboo subject. If sex must be discussed, the same inflexible ideas are repeated again and again: Unless you’re married, you should abstain from sexual activity. If you’re not heterosexual, don’t conform to normative gender roles, or you identify as transexual or queer – well, you’re considered a sinner and, as a result, any sex you have is sinful.

But such rigidity is not reflective of the real world. After all, teenagers experience sexual desire, people are attracted to partners of the same sex, and many reject traditional ideas of gender identity and gender roles.

When people discover that their sexuality doesn’t match what the church expects of them, they experience feelings of inadequacy and shame. Often, they try to suppress the parts of themselves that they believe are sinful, causing them years of suffering.

These blinks argue that it’s time to revise the church’s approach to sexuality and adopt a view that erases shame and encourages care for everyone’s sexual well-being.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

what can happen when people aren’t allowed to express their sexuality;
what the church has gotten wrong about sexual purity; and
the hidden message in the ten commandments.

The church’s teachings about sexuality exclude many people and force them to deny integral parts of themselves.

Picture this: a school rolls out a fancy new uniform, and all the students are told that they have to wear it.

But there’s a problem. The uniform only comes in one size – a size the school deems good and right. But for many schoolchildren it’s not a good fit. It’s too big for some of them; for others, it’s too small. These children have to choose between wearing the uncomfortable uniform or getting in trouble if they don’t. Doesn’t seem fair, does it?

Well, in the author’s opinion, something similar plays out in the church when it comes to sexuality.

The key message here is: The church’s teachings about sexuality exclude many people and force them to deny integral parts of themselves.

It’s no secret that the church has very specific ideas about what’s right and what’s wrong when it comes to sexuality. It teaches that only heterosexual Christian men and women who are married to each other should have sex. But there are many Christians who can’t tick all the requisite boxes: heterosexual, cisgender, happily married. Maybe they’re not married. Maybe they’re gay or trans – or don’t identify with prescribed gender roles.

Like the school kids and their ill-fitting uniforms, Christians who don’t see themselves in the church’s teachings about sexuality must force a fit or face the consequences.

Often, they follow the church’s plan, which prevents them from having fulfilling sex lives. The author, a Lutheran pastor, came across many examples of this in her own congregation. She met young couples who, even after marriage, couldn’t shake the idea that sex was sinful and lesbians who hid their sexuality, believing there was something wrong with them.

These people, and many others like them, have been hurt by the church’s restrictive teachings. The author proposes that the teachings be revised so that they prioritize people instead of causing them harm. She’s certainly not the first person in her church to take this approach. Martin Luther, the founder of the Lutheran church, had a similar philosophy. He believed that the pressure the church put on people to do things – like fast or go on pilgrimages – did more harm than good.

Just as Martin Luther disregarded certain teachings for the sake of his congregation, the author believes that a new approach to sexuality has the power to heal people from the sexual shame they’ve experienced in the church.

In the following blinks, we’ll explore how the church has, in many ways, made sexuality synonymous with shame.

Sexuality is a gift from God, and suppressing it has terrible consequences.

Here’s a scenario: you’re given a brand-new, state-of-the-art sports car. But there’s one condition – you’re not allowed to drive it. So, instead of cruising around in your new ride and experiencing everything it has to offer, you park it in the garage and watch it gather dust.

In the author’s view, our bodies, like this hypothetical car, are also gifts that we’ve been told we can’t use.

Being pure doesn’t make people holy; it only separates them from each other.

How much do you know about prohibition, the nineteenth-century movement to ban alcohol? You probably know that it was spearheaded by religious groups that believed drinking was bad for the community and for the spirit.

But what about the prohibitionist campaign? Did you know that prohibitionists used misinformation to forward the movement? They held abstinence classes in schools and taught that alcohol led to blindness, madness, and even spontaneous combustion. All this so that people would remain holy! But the author suggests that their conception of holiness was completely off base.

The church wrongfully justifies the idea of male dominance, and this plays a role in the sexual harassment of women.

In the era of #MeToo, people are realizing just how often women are sexually harassed by men. Far too many women have experienced harassment in one form or another – and, in the author’s opinion, the teachings of the church are at least partially to blame.

The key message here is: The church wrongfully justifies the idea of male dominance, and this plays a role in the sexual harassment of women.

The new Christian sexual ethic should be based on consent, mutuality, and a concern for everyone’s sexual well-being.

Let’s revisit the school from the first blink. Imagine that the teachers and students decide to do something about those ill-fitting uniforms. They could throw out the uniforms completely, but a uniform can create a sense of community. A better option would be to try to make the current uniform more inclusive. For example, having different sizes would cater to different bodies, and having both skirts and pants would cater to different preferences.

In the same way, the author believes that a rethinking of the church’s teachings on sexuality should start with the basics: understanding what inclusive ideas of sexuality should look like.

In order to move forward, people need to openly acknowledge how the church’s teachings about sexuality have harmed them.

Have you ever tried to deal with a negative experience by simply pretending it didn’t happen? Maybe you were in a bad relationship. Or maybe you lost your job. When things like this happen, many people choose not to talk about them because they’re worried about what others might think.

But being open about what hurts us is a key part of moving on. This also applies to people who’ve had their sexuality shamed by the church.

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Shameless (2019) explores how the church’s view of sex and sexuality as sinful has guilted and shamed its congregants. Through personal stories and those shared with her by members of her church, the author demonstrates the harmful effects of the church’s teachings. She offers a new, inclusive way of approaching sexuality and ensuring fulfilling sex lives for everyone.

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Being bearers of Gods image allows us to insist on the self-determination of our bodies and our pleasure.

—Nadia Bolz-Weber

Wer Shameless lesen sollte

Christians struggling to reconcile their sexuality with their faith
People with an interest in theology
Anyone interested in the role of religion in a changing world

Über den Autor

Nadia Bolz-Weber is a public theologian, an ordained Lutheran pastor, and the founder of the House for All Sinners and Saints – a church in Denver, Colorado. She speaks frequently about issues of spirituality and faith and has been featured by the Washington Post, the New Yorker, CNN and the BBC. Bolz-Weber is also the author of two New York Times bestsellers, Pastrix: The Cranky, Beautiful Faith of A Sinner & Saint and Accidental Saints: Finding God In All The Wrong People.

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