She Comes First summary

There are many nicknames for the clitoris: the orgasm switch, the happy maker, the love button. These make giving a woman an orgasm sound easy – if only it were like pressing a button!

In reality, the clitoris is highly complex. That's why learning the art of clitoral stimulation is important.

If you’re familiar with ancient Greek plays, you’ll know that they’re structured into different dramatic acts. Similarly, the process of female arousal has a defined dramatic structure with a beginning, middle and an end.

During foreplay or Act I, a woman's mind and body gears up for sexual response.

The point of foreplay is to build up strong sexual tension before you go down on your partner. To do this, you have to temporarily stop yourself from performing cunnilingus.

As soon as you place the first kiss upon her vulva, you break the boundary between foreplay and coreplay. Therefore, you should save this move till last.

Coreplay should be an uninterrupted process, but it can be broken down into stages so that it’s easier to understand.

Throughout these stages, the sexual tension should build and culminate in a satiating orgasm for your partner. It’s best to use gentle, rhythmic tongue strokes throughout.

Many fantasize about being with a woman who can orgasm over and over again. Most women do have the ability to experience multiple orgasms, but they need to receive the right clitoral stimulation to do so.

It’s a lot easier for women to have a second orgasm than it is for men. After the first, a woman’s genital area is still filled with blood, and her body remains highly aroused.

Don’t forget that you’re learning these techniques because you respect the process of female arousal. To remind yourself, here are Three Assurances to recall.

The First Assurance is to remember that you receive an equal amount of enjoyment from the act of going down on her. When you perform cunnilingus, you’re delaying your own gratification for good reason. When sex doesn't revolve around penetration, you’re free to stop stressing about issues such as size, stamina and performance.