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Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) summary
Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson
Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts
15 mins
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"Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)" by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson explains how people justify their own mistakes and refuse to take responsibility while blaming others. It explores the psychology of self-deception and provides insight into how we can avoid falling into these traps.
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Instead of admitting our mistakes, we tend to justify them.
Everyone has done things they shouldn’t have. For example, have you ever munched down an entire family-sized pack of potato chips in one go? Chances are pretty good you have.
But, if you’re like most people, you probably told yourself that, actually, it was okay because, say, you’d had a hard week and fully deserved that little indulgence.
Most people do the same: they seek justifications for actions they know were wrong. That’s because they want to reduce feeling cognitive dissonance, or the unpleasant feeling of having two conflicting ideas in our heads.
In this case, if you consider yourself someone who adheres to a healthy diet, your overindulgence creates cognitive dissonance. To resolve the dissonance, you come up with a so-called self-justification (e.g., the rough work week) for your actions.
Another example of cognitive dissonance would be someone who bemoans the dangers of smoking while continuing to smoke themselves. To resolve the cognitive dissonance of the conflicting views and behavior, this person will probably come up with a self-justification like, “I really don’t smoke that much so the health effects are negligible.”
Unfortunately, these kinds of self-justifications can make us cling to our beliefs even more vehemently – not change our behavior.
For example, after making a mistake, we may find a self-justification for it rather than dealing with it head on and trying to understand why it happened.
One example can be seen in the invasion of Iraq. Even though the weapons of mass destruction that served as the justification of war were ultimately not found in Iraq, and the invasion of the country resulted in an increase of Islamic radicalism that the war was meant to diminish, U.S. president George W. Bush was still convinced that he had made the right decision to go to war. Undoubtedly, this was a way of resolving his cognitive dissonance.
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What is Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) about?
Through studies and anecdotes, these blinks explain why, when we make mistakes, we often come up with self-justifications instead of admitting the mistakes to ourselves. It also shows how detrimental these self-justifications can be to personal relationships, medicinal care, the justice system and even international relations.
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) Review
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) (2007) is a thought-provoking exploration of the human tendency to avoid taking responsibility for our mistakes. Here are three reasons why this book is a must-read:
- With compelling case studies and psychological research, it uncovers the fascinating ways we rationalize our actions and shift blame onto others.
- The authors offer practical strategies for improving self-awareness and overcoming our natural cognitive biases, providing readers with valuable tools for personal growth and interpersonal relationships.
- Through its engaging storytelling and insightful analysis, this book challenges our preconceived notions and encourages us to examine our own behavior, making self-reflection a compelling and enlightening journey.
Who should read Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)?
- Police officers, lawyers, judges, doctors, nurses, scientists and politicians
- Anyone who wants to know why they don’t admit their own mistakes and how they can learn to admit them so as to reap the benefits
- Anyone who wants to have healthier relationships, both romantic and otherwise
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What is the main message of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)?
The main message of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) is about cognitive dissonance and the ways we justify our actions and beliefs.
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Is Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) a good book? Is it worth reading?
Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) is worth reading as it delves into the psychology of self-justification, helping us understand and navigate our own and others' biases.
Who is the author of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)?
The authors of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) are Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson.
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