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Trey Gowdy

Using the Power of Questions to Communicate, Connect, and Persuade

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Doesn't Hurt to Ask by Trey Gowdy is a guide for effective communication, featuring strategies and advice for asking better questions, mitigating conflicts, and achieving productive outcomes.

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    Persuasion is a subtle art, and questions are its greatest tools.

    Are you ready to start winning every argument you ever have? Are you ready to grind your opponents into the ground with your debating skills?

    Then these blinks are not for you.

    Persuasion isn’t about annihilating your opponents. It’s about listening to them, communicating with them, and advocating for your own beliefs in a compelling way. Think about it: how many times have you changed your mind because someone kept bombarding you with their opinions?

    Questions work so well because they put the focus on your conversation partner, and nudge them in the right direction without making them react defensively. The author knows about this firsthand. He only got into law after a friend’s mom asked him a bunch of really great questions.

    The key message here is: Persuasion is a subtle art, and questions are its greatest tools.

    The author had always planned to work construction jobs with a friend when he’d finished high school. One day though, his friend’s mom picked up on the topic. She asked him, “What are you going to do next, honey?” After he answered, she asked a follow-up question. And then another one. And another one. By the end of the interview, he had decided that he wanted to become a lawyer.

    His friend’s mother didn’t make a single evaluative statement to persuade him – she simply let him persuade himself. That’s the power of asking questions.

    Now, let’s make one thing clear before you get started: there is such a thing as a stupid question. One time during a robbery trial, the author’s witness reported that the suspect “had a blue bag in his hand.” The author immediately fired off a follow-up question: “Okay, what color was the blue bag?” The laughter that ensued in the courtroom should be proof enough that stupid questions do exist.

    Still, any stupid question is better than a stupid assertion. Imagine someone asking you, “Who wrote Hamlet?” That question reveals a pretty big knowledge gap. But now imagine someone telling you, “George Washington wrote Hamlet.” That’s not just a knowledge gap; that’s a knowledge gap the person isn’t even aware of. Who would you trust more in an honest debate – a person who is uninformed, or a person who is misinformed?

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    What is Doesn't Hurt to Ask about?

    Doesn’t Hurt to Ask (2020) teaches the subtle art of persuasion through one unconventional tool: asking questions. Former congressman Trey Gowdy explains how thoughtful questions can help you reach your audience, communicate your message, and win people over – whether that’s in a courtroom, a business meeting, or at the dinner table.

    Doesn't Hurt to Ask Review

    Doesn't Hurt to Ask (2020) by Trey Gowdy is a thought-provoking book that explores the power of effective questioning and communication. Here's why this book is worth reading:

    • It offers a practical approach to asking the right questions, providing readers with valuable tools to improve their communication skills.
    • With compelling stories and insightful anecdotes from Gowdy's experiences, the book gives readers a behind-the-scenes look at the importance of questioning in various contexts.
    • It sheds light on how the art of questioning can lead to positive outcomes in personal relationships, professional endeavors, and even political debates.

    Best quote from Doesn't Hurt to Ask

    The art of persuasion is not about winning people over but bringing people closer together.

    —Trey Gowdy
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    Who should read Doesn't Hurt to Ask?

    • Exhausted parents looking to win their kids over in arguments
    • Politically engaged people who want to advocate for their beliefs more effectively
    • Anyone looking to improve their negotiation skills in their private or professional lives

    About the Author

    Trey Gowdy is a former federal prosecutor and district attorney from South Carolina. In 2010, he was elected to Congress, where he chaired the House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform and the Select Committee on Benghazi. With his friend Tim Scott, he co-authored the New York Times best seller Unified – How Our Unlikely Friendship Gives Us Hope for a Divided Country.

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    The main message of Doesn't Hurt to Ask is the power of asking the right questions to get the answers you need.

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    Doesn't Hurt to Ask is a valuable read that teaches you how to use questions effectively. It's definitely worth your time.

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    The author of Doesn't Hurt to Ask is Trey Gowdy.

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