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Name: Everyday Vitality
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Author: Samantha Boardman

Samantha Boardman

How to Thrive, Survive, and Feel Alive

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Worum geht es in Everyday Vitality?

Everyday Vitality (2021) explores how we can cultivate resilience while juggling the small, nonstop stresses of everyday life. Those who thrive do so because they build vitality, a force of power and flexibility that allows them to handle difficulties. The people who cope best are the ones who find ways to turn their stress into strength through intentionality, purpose, and connection.

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What’s in it for me? Advice on how to thrive in life.

We often long for easier lives, dreaming and making plans for that wonderful day when things settle down – the baby is older, the kids leave for college, this new job becomes less demanding, we retire – and we won’t be so stressed.

Unfortunately, a completely stress-free day will probably never arrive. But rather than giving up on the parts of your life that challenge you, you can learn to coexist with your difficulties. If you manage to cultivate vitality, you’ll find that challenges, hard work, and even stress itself can actually be sources of strength. In these blinks, you’ll learn how to push through the tough times and use them as ballast for your journey.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

how playing a team sport can help you live longer;
why holding a loved one’s hand can actually make something less painful; and
when to channel your inner Batman or Wonder Woman to manage stress.

The difference between those who handle stress well and those who don't is the cultivation of vitality.

Imagine that you’ve had a terrible week. Maybe a beloved pet passed away, or a family member received a worrying medical diagnosis. You might be tempted to cancel plans, turn off the ringer on your phone, and drown your sorrows in nonstop TV, beer, and ice cream.

But here’s the thing: None of those things will really help you feel better. They can often actually drag you down even more. So what will help?

The key message here is: The difference between those who handle stress well and those who don't is the cultivation of vitality.

Look around at your friends and family. Who seems OK even when things don’t go their way, and who lets the situation drag them down?

Penn State professor David Almeida refers to these groups respectively as Teflon people and Velcro people.

“Velcro” people remain stuck in difficult situations, catastrophizing and spiraling into more negativity. They tend to pull away from others and indulge in what he terms “cotton candy” activities for the soul, like overeating or binging TV shows. These are things that may seem good initially, but don’t do any actual good in the long run. Interestingly, this group also tends to have more physical health issues.

The “Teflon” crowd, on the other hand, demonstrates vitality. They make plans but remain flexible. They stay engaged and deliberately plan to do things daily that make them feel good and strong. They’re even supportive of others in their times of need.

The key is “doing.” What you do helps you build vitality – not what you think.

You don’t need a life-altering event to come your way in order to begin building vitality. It’s the little things that really bring us down – the traffic jam, the surly teen, the bills. As Muhammad Ali pointed out, sometimes it’s the pebble in your shoe that wears you out, not the mountain in front of you. Dredging your soul daily for reserves of resilience to deal with the myriad tensions and roadblocks of daily life can be a drain and a challenge to the strongest of us.

So who’s better equipped to deal with this endless parade of small, daily stressors? Those who display vitality recognize the importance of these three things: Autonomy, competence, and relatedness. They are proactive and make plans. They go out and do things. And they draw strength from doing things with others.

Cultivating vitality doesn’t mean eliminating stressors; it means operating within their framework.

University of Richmond researchers tempted two groups of rats with Froot Loops. One group had the cereal buried in their bedding and had to search for it. The other group were handed their treats.

After a few weeks, researchers began presenting the Froot Loop inside a clear plastic ball. All the rats tried to get the Froot Loop, but the rats who were used to working for their treat worked harder. In fact, the rats who had their treats handed to them made 30 percent fewer attempts and spent 60 percent less time working on getting the cereal.

The first step in cultivating vitality is to choose it intentionally.

Here’s a little trick to dealing with a tough situation: Don’t be yourself.

Weird, right? All your life, you’ve been told to be your true, authentic self. But what if your true self goes to pieces at the thought of public speaking? Here, being you is only going to result in a panic attack!

Building and maintaining connection with others is a powerful source of vitality.

Studies have shown that hikers find hills more strenuous to climb alone compared to when they trek with a friend, and that people afraid of public speaking are less nervous after a hug. And paramedics who have high levels of social support sleep better after a high-stress day than those who report lower levels.

In one study of married couples, those who held their spouse’s hand while being administered an electric shock felt less pain than those who didn’t. Interestingly, those who were in loving relationships felt the least pain.

Another way to build vitality is by challenging yourself.

Here’s an interesting fact: Nobel Prize-winning scientists are two-and-a-half times more likely to have a hobby compared to your average scientist.

You’d think they’d be so busy coming up with groundbreaking theories that they wouldn’t have time for anything else, but it turns out that some of the world’s most successful people are constantly learning new things.

Context matters when you’re building vitality.

In a study designed to test whether intention affects pain perception, participants were paired up and divided into three groups. In each group, one partner administered a small electric shock to the other. Members of group 1 were told that they had been shocked by mistake, while members of group 2 were told that their partners had shocked them on purpose, although no reason was given.

But members of group 3 were told that the electric shock was a step in a process that would eventually allow them to win lottery tickets.

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Über den Autor

Samantha Boardman is a Harvard- and Cornell-trained psychiatrist who practiced in New York City for years before obtaining a Master’s degree in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. Now she practices positive psychiatry, has been published in professional journals as well as the Wall Street Journal and Psychology Today, and has appeared on the Today Show.

Wer Everyday Vitality lesen sollte

Anyone looking to alleviate stress in their daily lives
People interested in improving their quality of life
Those who are interested in achieving peace amid busyness

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