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We make better decisions when we understand the kind of game we’re playing
In a world filled with choices, we’re constantly deciding which games in life are worth playing. These “games” can be anything from careers to relationships, business strategies, and even literal games. Each choice is driven by something called a utility function. Think of this as your internal understanding of what’s good for you. This personal sense of value isn’t always obvious or stable – sometimes you might not even be sure yourself what you truly want or find satisfying. But the more you experience life and think about those experiences, the better you become at recognizing what truly brings you value and satisfaction.
Animals, on the other hand, have clearer goals: survive and reproduce. In their case, decision-making often comes down to optimizing food intake with the least amount of risk – what’s known as optimal foraging theory. Imagine a hawk choosing between a weak mouse or a strong rabbit. One is easy to catch but low in reward. The other is riskier but offers more food. The hawk’s decision-making is a direct survival tool.
For humans, it’s more complex. We play games for different reasons. Some are played for rewards, like promotions or money. Others are played simply for enjoyment: think of dancing or the social game of friendship. And some are played for the lessons they teach us: these help us grow skills and knowledge, often referred to in economics as human capital. Unlike the hawk, we’re not just playing to survive – we’re playing to learn, to connect, and to win in future games.
This makes choosing which game to play more than just a cost-benefit analysis. A job might not pay much now, but it could teach skills that lead to better opportunities down the line. A risky investment might fail, but the lessons could set you up for success next time. So, the outcome includes the valuable learning gained during the process, which in turn helps to improve future choices.
Of course, not all games offer that learning. Games of pure luck, like roulette, don’t reward skill or improvement. Playing them more won’t make you better. Compare that to chess or business, where every move teaches valuable lessons, turning even failures into fuel for future improvement.
When deciding where to invest time and energy, it helps to ask: Is this game just about the prize? Is it fun for its own sake? Or is it a chance to build skills for the future? Answering clarifies the kind of game you’re in. And understanding the game’s nature helps you make better decisions and become the player you aspire to be – insight that’s particularly vital in complex strategic interactions, like negotiations, where information often dictates the outcome. Let’s look at this in more detail.
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What is Hate the Game about?
Hate the Game (2025) explores how individuals navigate a win-lose economy where everyday decisions – like where to work, live, or invest time – can feel rigid and high-stakes. Drawing on game theory, economics, and behavioral science, it breaks down how we can better understand the strategic nature of our choices.
Who should read Hate the Game?
- People feeling stuck in today’s economic system
- Readers curious about game theory in real life
- Anyone seeking smarter strategies for everyday decisions
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