Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love summary

While we already discussed a little about the importance of validating feelings in the last section, let’s explore it more in-depth here.

When you’re in the midst of an argument with your partner, the two of you are passionate about being heard and likely with proving yourself right. What’s important is to level the playing field by respectfully asking to be heard and assuring that your partner will be heard too.

Absolutely do not be afraid to apologize and admit when you were in the wrong. In fact, your partner will likely value you more if you take responsibility for something you did or said. It’s simple awareness.

Taking responsibility is an influential part of healing relationship dynamics.

Making up is a powerful thing and it feels good when you’re finally able to come to that resolution.

But it can’t just be making up with one another, there has to be forgiveness. It must be mood-changing, lower the defenses, and allow everyone to relax properly. Importantly, it brings two disconnected beings back together.

Tone and word choice can severely impact a conversation or argument with your significant other. The way you exhibit your emotions can prevent effective communication as well. If you’re constantly insulting or putting the blame on each other, your relationship isn’t going to get anywhere. The key to proper communication is relating to your partner. Let them be felt and heard. But also make sure you are felt and heard.