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Zusammenfassung von Urban Tantra

Name: Urban Tantra
Rating: 4.1 (114 reviews)
Author: Barbara Carrellas

Barbara Carrellas

Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century

4.1 (114 Bewertungen)

22 Min.

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What’s in it for me? Allow Tantra to transform your sex life.

Be honest – How’s your sex life? Are you stuck in a rut? Do you ever find yourself spacing out during sex?

Sex is the most emotionally laden part of our lives. Every time we’re in the bedroom, we bring in a heap of mental expectations, insecurities, and baggage from the past. No wonder our sexual experiences don’t always feel that exciting!

Tantra is a spiritual philosophy designed to help you connect with yourself and become present in the moment. Through breathing exercises, active meditations, and sexy rituals, you’ll discover how to drop into your body and experience blissful sensations – while also learning how to become more attuned to your partner’s body.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

how to actively give and receive pleasure;
why our minds sabotage our sex lives; and
how to improvise sex toys with what you’ve got at home.

Urban Tantra can be practiced anywhere, by anybody.

Barbara Carrellas discovered the power of Tantra while giving a lap dance. It was the height of summer, and she was working at Harmony Burlesque, a New York strip club. On a particularly hot, clammy day, a man walked into the club and caught her eye. He was dressed unusually, in cowboy boots and a hat – not something you’d expect to see on a New Yorker. Barbara was immediately drawn to him. One lap dance became two, and then three, and then she just lost count.

They were rocking and swaying together, entranced, staring into each other’s eyes. The connection between them felt so profound that the rest of the club melted away. Eventually, after about 20 minutes, they became tired. They disentangled themselves, and the cowboy strode off into the night.

That experience of a deep, spiritual sexual connection was Tantra.

The key message here is: Urban Tantra can be practiced anywhere, by anybody.

When the author first started practicing Tantra, she was put off by how white and heteronormative the scene was. Tantra seemed to be practiced exclusively by heterosexual couples in nature retreats. Her experience with the cowboy was revelatory because she realized that the magic of Tantra could be experienced in a dingy strip club just as well as in a candle-filled forest. “Urban Tantra” was born.

But let’s back up for a moment. What, exactly, is Tantra?

Tantra is an ancient spiritual practice – according to some estimates, it began as many as 5,000 years ago! The modern form of Tantra can be traced to sixth-century India, but there’s a lot of disagreement about its exact history. Over the centuries, many documents were lost. On top of that, a lot of teachings had always been so secret that practitioners of the art never wrote them down.

Today, Tantra is associated mainly with sex. It is a spiritual practice that celebrates our bodies. But the philosophy goes much deeper than that. Tantric practices can teach you to be present in the moment, to confront your fears and shame, to connect with other people, with nature, and with the spiritual realm. Applying these practices to your life will have consequences that go far beyond the bedroom.

The most important practice of Tantra is learning to be present.

Imagine you’re in the middle of having passionate sex . . . but your mind is still buried in work emails. Sound familiar?

Most of the time, our minds are so busy with thoughts about the future or the past that we completely miss the present – the moment we’re actually living in.

Techniques like breathing and meditation will allow you to drop into your body.

Focus on your breath. Inhale deeply; fill your belly with air. Then slowly exhale. You feel more relaxed, don’t you? Now, take a shallow, small breath. You’ll probably find that your whole posture changes – your very body becomes hunched and constricted.

The way we breathe has a profound effect on how we feel. By consciously regulating your breathing, you can learn to calm yourself down, or fill your body with extra oxygen and energy.

We need to deepen our understanding of what it means to orgasm.

There’s a famous scene in the film When Harry Met Sally, in which Meg Ryan pretends to orgasm in the middle of a cafeteria, moaning and grunting and breathing louder and louder until she supposedly reaches a sensual zenith.

The scene is comedic, of course. But it does contain a grain of truth. The sounds we make are key to how we orgasm; they’re a way to move sexual energy around our bodies. In fact, the author has climaxed just through mimicking the sounds of an orgasm. She calls this experience a blissgasm.

Tantra allows you to become your own best lover.

What do you think of when somebody mentions Tantric sex? Chances are, you’re imagining a couple staring into each other’s eyes.

Tantra can, indeed, be practiced as a couple. But solo Tantra is just as important. In fact, it’s the very best place to start. Building an intimate erotic relationship with yourself is the most satisfying thing you can do.

Preparation is key to a successful Tantric ritual.

Imagine you’re in a theater, waiting for the curtain to go up. Suddenly, the actors rush in from the street outside. They’re wearing their everyday clothes, and, as the lights dim, they begin to fumble around an empty set. It’s obvious that none of them knows where to stand or what lines to say.

Sounds like a disaster, doesn’t it? Well, the same goes for Tantra. Just like in a theatrical performance, there should be clear lines between everyday life and the ritual space of sex. How do you draw these lines? You prepare – thoroughly.

Tantric rituals are designed to help you connect with your partner.

If you’ve spent any time studying the Kama Sutra, the idea of Tantric sex may sound intimidating. Few of us have the flexibility needed to twist ourselves into sexual positions inspired by yoga poses.

But Tantra isn’t about how athletic you are. Much more important is how conscious and present you are while making love. You could have sex in the same position every day and still feel completely different, depending on how you directed your energy and tuned in to your partner’s body.

Erotic massages can form part of a powerful Tantric ritual.

At the height of the AIDS crisis in the early 1990s, activist Joseph Kramer and famous sex worker Annie Sprinkle taught a workshop called Cosmic Orgasm Awareness Week. As part of the workshop, they gave a master class in genital massage. The idea was to help students reclaim their sexual freedom amid the grief of the epidemic.

The author was one of those students, and the workshop changed her life. It allowed her to experience what it was like to truly surrender to pleasure. She learned to trust other people and build communication skills around consent. She also experienced a new way of practicing safer sex.

Tantra embraces the adventurous and non-conforming.

Picture a scene of a man cowering in handcuffs, chained to a fence. Another man, clad in leather, whips him repeatedly, leaving red, raised welts on his back.

This scene may seem like the antithesis of a Tantric sex ritual. Isn’t Tantra all about softness and a deep mutual understanding? How does BDSM fit into that? You might be surprised to discover that submission and domination are actually perfectly aligned with Tantric teachings.

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Urban Tantra (2007) is a no-nonsense, dogma-free guide to Tantra – a spiritual practice that will give you a fresh look at your sex life. It shows that Tantra can work for anyone; it’s as useful to a BDSM practitioner who wants to intensify her rituals as it is for a hurried parent seeking to reconnect with his sexuality. To practice Tantra, you don’t need to master complex positions or learn to chant in Sanskrit. All you need are a few simple tools that’ll help you become more mindful and drop into your body.

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Your mind is either your most powerful ally or your worst enemy. The choice is yours.

—Barbara Carrellas

Wer Urban Tantra lesen sollte

Sexual explorers interested in trying something new
People seeking to learn about embodiment as a spiritual practice
Anyone curious about how to have a full-body orgasm

Über den Autor

Barbara Carrellas is a life coach, sex educator, workshop facilitator, university lecturer, motivational speaker, and theater artist. She is also the author of Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure.

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