I Didn't Know I Needed This summary

Online dating has changed our romantic lives completely, for better or worse. If you've ever felt that zing of attraction when you match with someone cute on a dating app, only to feel the sting of rejection when things fizzle out, you’re not alone. 

Eli has been there too – spending way too many late nights swiping away, living for those thrilling “ding!” notifications. Even when things seemed to be going well with a match, most of her romances were short-lived. Sound familiar? 

Have you ever agonized over what to wear, say, or order on a first date? Stressed about making a good impression? Eli used to cancel on dates all the time because she got too anxious about the other person liking her. But then she realized, it’s not really about them liking her – it’s about her liking them!

Good first dates don't have to be scary ordeals. With the right mindset, they can be fun opportunities to connect with someone new. The key is to relax, embrace who you are, and recognize the date for what it is – just a casual chance to get to know each other.

Oh, the early days of a new romance. You know – when you're totally smitten, with stars in your eyes and endless butterflies in your stomach. As easy as it may be to just enjoy this high, consider capitalizing on this magical time with your partner. Have deep convos now while it’s easy to bare your souls.

Snuggle up and ask each other cute things like, “What's your favorite childhood memory?” and serious ones like, “What do you value most in a friendship?” Open up about past mistakes, future dreams, and your deepest fears. 

Heartbreak is inevitable, and it sometimes happens in even the best love stories. Think about it this way: it hurts profoundly because you loved profoundly. The depth of grief reflects the height from which you fell when the relationship ended. 

So yes, breakups brutally suck. You might wanna hide under the covers with a pint of Chunky Monkey and cry-sing Alanis Morissette for a week straight. Eli fully supports this wallowing! Light some sage, blast your favorite tracks, and give yourself space to fully soak in the sadness for a bit. 

Life doesn’t always go as planned. Eli learned that the hard way after spending years trying to be everything she thought others wanted. Do you feel like you’re just going through the motions to impress people? Are you exhausted trying to live up to unrealistic expectations?

Here’s the secret: you have the power to take control and live life on your terms. As the CEO of your own life, you make the executive decisions. It starts with tuning out expectations and getting real with yourself. So grab your journal and ask the tough questions – what do you want? This isn’t about what you think you should do, but what choice actually feels right for you.