Super Attractor summary

Spiritual thinker Deepak Chopra once offered the following advice: When you’re happy for a particular reason, you’re still in misery because that reason can be taken from you tomorrow. In order to become a Super Attractor, you must learn that happiness doesn’t require a reason. Instead, it’s simply good to feel good.

We’ve been taught that happiness is a reward, one that we need to suffer to acquire. This leads many of us to believe that we don’t deserve to feel good – that we have to work harder and sacrifice more in order to earn positive feelings. However, the opposite is true: Good things can come easily, and you’re worthy of receiving them.

For many years, Bernstein has taught the Spirit Junkie Masterclass, an in-depth workshop designed to help others unlock their Super Attractor powers. Her students, talented individuals ranging from lawyers to yogis, are eager to achieve their goals, but all ask the same question: “Who am I to do this?”

According to Bernstein, this question comes from a mindset of fear – fear of not having enough skills or resources or fear that others have more. This mindset is a major obstacle to manifesting your desires. To overcome it, you must recognize the sneaky ways in which fear blocks your progress and counter it with a mindset of abundance.

Have you ever had one of those days that started out bad then only got worse? It can be easy to get caught in a negative spiral in which a little bit of low-vibration energy just gets more and more powerful. Luckily for aspiring Super Attractors, this process works in the opposite direction as well. 

The spiritual guru Abraham-Hicks says most feelings fall on a spectrum called the Emotional Guidance Scale. This 22-point scale has low-vibration emotions like fear and grief at one end and high-vibration emotions such as joy and passion at the other. Jumping straight from the low end to the high end can be difficult. However, with a little practice, you can guide your emotional state up the scale step by step.

From creating imaginary friends to believing in fairies, kids have a knack for seeing beyond our physical reality. Unfortunately, as adults, we build a wall between the spiritual world and our everyday lives. To become a Super Attractor, you must tear that barrier down once again.

According to the book A Course in Miracles, we begin to lose touch with the spiritual world when we believe in the “tiny mad idea” that we’re somehow separate from the rest of the Universe. According to Bernstein, this separation is reinforced by life’s struggles. It also sustains a worldview filled with fear, trauma, and judgment. When we allow ourselves to feel separate from the spiritual realm, we’re cut off from our true source of power: the energy and love of the Universe.

Breakups, the loss of loved ones, financial and career setbacks – these inevitable hardships can leave even the strongest person at a loss and searching for answers. In these moments of need, it may be wise to turn toward a compassionate spiritual guide.

What exactly is a spiritual guide? For Bernstein, these metaphysical mentors are non-physical beings, unbound by the laws of nature. They come in many forms, but all share a common mission: to realign us with the energy and love of the Universe. When we’re most in need, we can ask for their help, and if we’re open to it, we will receive strength and counsel.

Life is full of challenges. Even spiritual gurus will struggle if they try to tackle every task alone. A true Super Attractor knows that sometimes the key to success is just sitting back and letting the Universe take the wheel.

For example, in 2017, Bernstein was offered a career-making chance to speak at Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions, a lecture series for spiritual leaders. She was thrilled, but the large audience and big stars made her anxious. Rather than trying to power through it alone, she called upon Wayne Dyer, a recently deceased spiritual leader, for help. By ceding some control of the event to his calming presence, Bernstein was able to deliver her message effortlessly.

Back in 2008, Bernstein was just beginning her career as a spiritual leader and life coach. She knew if the New York Times’ Sunday Styles section covered her work, her message would reach many more people. It didn’t happen immediately, but eventually, this desire became a reality.

Bernstein’s first impulse was to pitch her story to Allen, a friend who worked at the Times. He expressed mild interest but left it at that. Undeterred, Bernstein kept speaking and teaching, never forgetting about her desired article. Nine months later, she got the call: Sunday Styles wanted to feature her classes.

Is there someone in your life you just can’t do without? For Bernstein, that person is her project manager Jessica. The two met on a publicity tour in 2012, and their mutual appreciation of each other’s skills, talents, and energy helped both women manifest their dreams. With a little practice, appreciation can do the same for you.

Why is appreciation such a powerful emotion? Well, for one, it’s a surefire way to supercharge your Super Attractor abilities. Feeling appreciation for everything around you, both the good and the bad, keeps your energy vibrating at a high, positive frequency. Since we know the Universe returns the same energy you give off, practicing appreciation will help you attract more of what you want.

Like many people, one of Bernstein’s greatest desires in life was to have a child. However, after three years of trying, she was still coming up empty. At first, this was a major disappointment. But she learned a powerful lesson from it: sometimes you have to let the Universe catch up with your dreams.

Bernstein’s long fertility journey was a difficult ordeal. At first, she tried to control the process, obsessively monitoring her diet and ovulation cycle. Instead of trusting the Universe to deliver, she was trying to force her desires to come true. It wasn’t helping. Eventually, through prayer and meditation, she began to relax and have faith that her time would come. In response, the Universe gave positive signs, such as a visit from a few wild turkeys – an auspicious symbol of fertility. Before long, it happened: in March 2018, she found herself pregnant.

As you dutifully follow the methods outlined in previous blinks, you’ll find your Super Attractor powers growing each day. Some of your dreams may even begin manifesting in reality. That’s great! But you might also hear a voice asking, “Is it too good to be true?”

Bernstein faced this same problem as she entered her third trimester. Everything seemed perfect: her business was growing, her relationships were strong, and her child was on the way. But a stray comment from a friend sent her into a fear spiral: What if it all fell apart?