Single On Purpose summary

Imagine you’re sailing solo on the vast ocean of life. You might be feeling a bit lost and alone. Maybe you’re also feeling kind of distant from yourself, like you’ve drifted away from your personal North Star. In this scenario, it’s easy to start thinking you need to find someone to complete you, now. 

Loneliness is often seen as a monster under the bed – a source of embarrassment or a personal failure. But what if we flipped the script? What if we saw loneliness as just another chapter in the book of life, a chance to get to know ourselves better? Maybe accepting ourselves, warts and all, could be the secret map to navigating this chapter. 

Feeling alone isn’t a sign of being broken. It’s a nudge – a reminder that we need to check in with ourselves. It’s like that warning light on your car dashboard saying “Hey, maybe you should take better care of yourself.” It’s a chance to focus on those parts of ourselves we might’ve been neglecting. And the beautiful thing? The more we accept and love ourselves, the less those feelings of loneliness will grip us. 

Society often paints love and relationships as the be all and end all, but it’s just not that black and white. Fulfillment and joy don’t only come gift-wrapped in the form of a relationship. So, why wait for a partner to enjoy life? Be present, and soak up life’s beauty here and now. Because, let’s be real – even when you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t automatically guarantee happiness or ward off loneliness. In fact, the best relationships are made up of two people who have already found joy and purpose in their own lives.

So, how do you do that? Well, start by really connecting with yourself – physically, emotionally, spiritually. Find activities that light you up and make you feel alive, whether that’s hiking, painting, playing an instrument, or just sitting in a park watching the world go by. These pursuits enhance your sense of self-worth and identity beyond romantic relationships. They can also strengthen your existing relationships by building resilience and longevity.

Here’s another tip: invest time in physical activities. Doing so will help you foster a positive relationship with your body and your own sexuality, leading to greater self-confidence and self-worth. 

Last, start dating yourself! No, seriously – schedule regular “self-dates.” Do things that feed your physical, emotional, and spiritual fitness. These self-dates could become a habit that brings positive changes to your life, regardless of your relationship status. By learning to truly enjoy your own company, you’ll cultivate a profound sense of self-love, acceptance, and inner peace.