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Name: Own Your Greatness
Rating: 4.6 (528 reviews)
Author: Lisa Orbé-Austin & Richard Orbé-Austin

Lisa Orbé-Austin & Richard Orbé-Austin

Overcome Impostor Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life

4.6 (528 Bewertungen)

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What’s in it for me? A step-by-step guide for overcoming imposter syndrome.

Do you find yourself constantly dismissing your achievements? What about worrying that someone might discover you’re incompetent? Do you overwork yourself, striving for perfection in every little task? Or perhaps you simply feel like a fraud, that some combination of luck and charm, not skill, got you here.

If any of these sound familiar, then you’re most likely suffering from imposter syndrome. First coined in the 1970s by two scientists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, imposter syndrome has since become a common term.

As much as seventy percent of the population will experience imposter syndrome at some point. But for others, these feelings are debilitating, and never go away. Imposter syndrome can hold people back in their careers, affect one’s mental health, hurt relationships, and even lead to burnout.

Over many years working as licensed psychologists, the authors have developed a number of clear steps for overcoming imposter syndrome.

In these blinks, we’ll walk through each step, guided by various reflection exercises. Through these exercises, you’ll develop “coping cards” that you can refer back to whenever you need, and that together represent your action plan to stop feeling like a fraud.

I recommend you grab a pad of paper and a pen, as the exercises will require some writing. I’ll meet you at the next blink, on the first step of your journey toward owning your greatness.

In these blinks, you’ll learn

Where your imposter story began, and how to change the narrative;
How to share your experience with others and get support; and
What ants have to do with overcoming self-doubt.

Step 1: Identify your imposter origin story.

It all begins with a story, one that gets repeated over and over. It shows up at parties, during lunch with colleagues, in morning meetings. Only, this story lives mostly in your head, and is all about how you’re not really skilled at anything, that you must be deceiving everyone.

To overcome imposter syndrome, you have to change this narrative. But to do so, you have to first understand where these imposter feelings originated. For many, they trace back to childhood and their family dynamics.

Perhaps you grew up with very high expectations placed on you, and an emphasis on achievement. Or maybe you played the role of pleasing other family members and fulfilling their needs. Maybe you were constantly compared to another sibling, or your unique skills were never recognized.

For your first exercise, the goal is to identify and understand your imposter origin story. I’m going to ask you to look deeply at your past. What stories did you come to believe about yourself? How did they affect your role in the family, your ideas about competition, or how you receive feedback?

Let’s look at an example from Elizabeth. Her imposter origin story goes like this: “I was always called sensitive in my family, and never seen as the ‘smart one’ compared to my brother. This has led to a high need to please others, and to dismiss the skills I do have because I assume they won’t be valued.”

Before moving to the next blink, take time now to write out your origin story. If you need help, use this prompt: “The dynamics that prompted my imposter syndrome were…” Be sure to describe the consequences of those dynamics, how they affected you. And try to keep it short, just a few sentences will do.

Before we move on, notice that you’re undertaking the task of dismantling something that developed over many years, maybe even generations. This work may take time; but it is well worth the effort.

Step 2: Know your triggers.

Congratulations! You now have your first coping card – your imposter origin story. This will become the foundation for the next step, identifying your triggers.

A trigger is a situation that activates or increases your imposter feelings. The key thing to understand is that a trigger is only one half of the equation. The other half is your response. When you’re in the grip of imposter syndrome, the responses may come automatically.

Step 3: Change your narrative

“I only have this job because no one more qualified applied. I’m such a fraud. I need to work even harder so they don’t question their decision to hire me.”

Isn’t it time to finally change that tired, old story? I know, some days it feels impossible to see yourself any other way. But in this step, you’ll learn how to craft a more accurate and positive narrative.

Step 4: Speak your truth.

No one can change their narrative and overcome imposter syndrome alone. When you hold this experience in and keep it to yourself, it has greater power over you. Curiously, the simple strategy of speaking your truth and putting it out into the world, helps weaken its grip.

I want you to start by identifying one or two people in your life who you trust deeply. It could be your best friend, a colleague, your spouse, your mom. Share with them what it’s like to live with imposter syndrome, what anxieties and fears come up for you, and the things that trigger it.

Step 5: Silence your ANTs, or Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Imagine you’ve laid out a beautiful picnic. There’s fresh sandwiches on soft bread, and piles of colorful fruit. You’re sipping on a glass of wine when suddenly, the ants show up. They start carrying off entire grapes and swarming your tupperware.

These annoying little creatures are oddly like the negative thoughts that crowd your mind when you’re in the grip of imposter syndrome. They come from nowhere, are intrusive, and can carry a lot of weight.

Step 6: Experiment with new roles.

Hopefully at this point, you’re already starting to feel a change in how you think about yourself. Now it’s time to put this new you into action.

Step 7 is all about giving up the roles that sustain your fraud thinking and experimenting with new roles. First, let’s explore typical roles that people with imposter syndrome tend to play, and their alternatives.

Step 7: Build your dream team.

In this final step, you’re going to start building a dream team of people to support you in this ongoing journey. These people will provide advice or a listening ear when the going gets tough.

Let’s explore the six members you might want to have on your team. As I describe them, write down one or two people who can play each role for you. Also identify the situations or moments when you’ll reach out to that person. This will become your seventh and final coping card.

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Worum geht es in Own Your Greatness?

Own Your Greatness (2020) is a guided workbook for people who constantly feel like imposters. Drawing on Drs. Lisa and Richard Orbé-Austin’s expertise, it helps you identify and overcome the tiggers, habits and thoughts that activate your imposter syndrome, so you can beat self-doubt and succeed in life.

Wer Own Your Greatness lesen sollte

People with a penchant for self-doubt
Counselors searching for new strategies
Imposter syndrome sufferers ready to take action

Über den Autor

Dr. Lisa Orbé-Austin is a licensed psychologist and executive coach who received her PhD in counseling psychology from Columbia University. Her work on career advancement has appeared in the New York Times, Forbes and NCB News.

Dr. Richard Orbé-Austin has a PhD in counseling psychology from Fordham University. He is partner of Dynamic Transitions Psychological Consulting, a New York City based consultancy offering career and executive coaching.

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